what to do when youre in a relationship and like someone else with strong feelings?

Question

im in a relationship but its shaky right now its being flip flopped and i met this guy and i think i like him we have more things in common then i do with my steady right now. and this guy kinda likes me too. i dont know what to do.. ive tooken quizzes and they all say that they are unsure so im confsed and dont know what to do... please help!

Answer 1

Do what you feel is right. There is no sense in staying in a relationship if you arent' happy. If this other guy makes you happy than go for it. Just don't burn any bridges in the process.

Answer 2

Well you are unsure of yourself. But to me know one needs a shaky/flip flopped relationship. So if your looking to try and start something with this new guy you met the you should. Someone wants told me your heart doesn't have eyes and that's so true. Since it can't see it just chooses what it desires. Honestly sweetie is up to you. You have to decide if you and work it out with your current boyfriend or is it best to just move on. Now one more thing, also consider that if you chose to end it may be gone forever. But then again that could be a good thing. You could have something better with the other guy. Just be careful and do how you feel. Good luck!

Answer 3

1 Steady relationships dont flip flop.
2 In order to know that much about him you have allready shown an interest to date someone else.
3 Forget quizzes and other end runs around the desision you have to make.
4 Make up your mind, Do you want a more secure relationship with Mr Present or do you want to launch your life out in the current and take your chances?

Answer 4

OK... first of all... if you love the guy you're with now maybe you 2 just need a break for a little bit just to make sure... DO NOT do anything with this new guy unless you're single for a while you know? It's very normal to be attracted to someone new especially when a relationship is on a rocky point... but you have to think is this new guy going to make you happier than your current guy or is this guy even worth losing the guy you're with now... I know this is a hard decision to make but the longer you wait the harder it'll be... I'm sure you've already done this but tell your man now how you're feeling... exactly how you feel... don't sugar coat anything... a lot of problems in relationships are lack of communication... if he doesn't want to hear it... leave... you deserve to be heard and loved...

Answer 5

Well just remember, if the person you are already with is treating you well, then stick with him. Whenever you meet someone good, temptation will always come and try to get the best of you. You and this other person, that you "think" you like, may have things in common, but that doesn't mean it's a match made in Heaven. Just be friends and if you think you need to be more than just friends, then drop the one you are with and get the the other guy. You will probably wish you didn't do it, after everything is all said and done.

Answer 6

Whoa there, honey! Slow down! You need to focus on one thing at a time.
Your current relationship: It's floppy
Ask yourself the following questions.
1. Do you love him?
2. Can the relationship be smoothed out?
3. Do you want the relationship to work?
4. Are you staying with him because you want to or because you are afraid to be alone?
5. Are you breaking up or staying together (without considering the other guy)?
It is important to ask yourself these questions because it sounds like you are stuck in one of the following scenarios.

Scenario One: You like your boyfriend but he isn't paying you enough attention so you are getting restless. Another guy is paying attention to you and you like the attention so you think you like him. But it is the appreciation you crave...not the guy.
You break up with your boyfriend and get with the other man. Much to your chagrin, you realise that you have made a mistake and want the original boyfriend back.

Scenario Two: You are done with your boyfriend. You do not want to be with him anymore but you are scared to leave because you do not want to be alone. This other guy comes along that you start to like. Your feelings intensify when you realise you can dump your boyfriend and get a new one immediately. That way you don't have to be alone. However, you hesitate because you are not certain that the new guy will be your boyfriend. So you test the waters with the new guy while holding onto your safety guy. Once it looks like a clear path you do the boyfriend hop to the new man. Flawless transition.

Like I said too many numbers in the equation. Push the new guy to the back of your mind. Focus on the current guy and whether or not you want to be with him. Make your decision and move on. If you break up with him, don't immediately go for the other guy. Give yourself some time to sort out your emotions. Everyone needs time to themselves and time to be single. Even if you don't committ til you are 40, that gives you another 40 years to be tied down.

Answer 7

You decide what you want, and then go in that direction. You either want to stick with your current and see if that will work out (so leave the other guy alone), or you break up with your current and check out the new guy.

Understand you could end up without either one, which would be fine...sounds like you really don't know what you want right now anyway and some time alone might help you sort that out.

Answer 8

It sounds like a lot of 12-year-olds are answering this question..(judging from the typing...)

I'll try to put it into perspective for you, from my perspective (I'm 20.)

Firstly, quizzes on the internet will do nothing for you. NEVER base any decision on some weird quiz you took that was made by someone who was bored and knows nothing about your feelnigs and situation.

Neither can anyone here tell you exactly what to do, only give you things to think about and weigh yourself. You will pick as the best answer the one you most want to hear...and that'll be what you are leaning toward doing.

First off...the guy you're with now, can you envision yourself getting over this rough time and staying happy together? What about the new guy? How long have you been together? Have you even hung out with the new guy for more than an hour (lunch/one class) at a time? You never really know if you can handle someone for longer than you see them at school or whatever. I went out with a few people then realized...we have nothing to talk about or really common interests. The initial attractions were basely sexual (we looked good to each other)...but we didn't match personality wise. That's something else to think about...your looks will always degenerate (everyone gets old and wrinkly), but personality stays the same.

Here's something else I thought you might find interesting, if not helpful at all. I went out with...7 girls in high school, and three so far in college. All of them still like me, because I was friendly, and broke it off in a suitable manner. I tried to help them out even though I was the cause of their pain. You have to think about whether you still want to be friends with the guy you're with now, or if he doesn't WANT to be friends for whatever reason, if you're okay with that. Like really okay...he won't talk to you if it goes bad.

Similarly...5 of those girls I broke up with...because I didn't want to cheat on them. I kept seeing one of my ex'es...and we're still doing that, 6 years later. We like each other now, and it was probably good that we both saw other people in between, we both learned from other people and each other.

While that seems like an irrelevant story..think about what happens if you still like him and it doesn't work out with the new boy...what if he doesn't like you anymore? What if he does? Will it be awkward? Can you handle it? Can he?

Just a few points I think you should think about.

Answer 9

I think that if you really like this other guy more then you should really start evaluating what your future is gonna be like with the relationship you are already in. If you think that you will be happier, then go ahead and gently tell your man that things have been shaky and your ready to move on. He will probably understand and you will be happy.

Answer 10

Don't base decisions on a online quiz, what you should do depending on how long you have been together with your boyfriend right now, and how old you are, is talk with him. sometimes it is good to test out the waters in a relationship. Also remember that there are plenty of people out there so one broken relationship is not the end of the world.