just wondering if women wanted there husbands to of been sleepin around in there youth and having relationships before they settle down with you. or do you prefer a few relationships, no casual sex and then they marry u?
2007-08-14 06:32:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well of course men will have several partners but if they had two many...i dont know..about that like over 30 our something..but it all depends on that man...
2007-08-14 06:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you take your Shahada all your previous sins are forgiven. It is good that you recognise that premarital sex is a no go area for you now. And of course I am sure you know that in Islam and if Insha Allah you do revert you know that the relationship you have now cannot continue in the same way even without the sex. Unless he becomes your lawful spouse even holding hands or being alone in the same room with him is forbidden. I am sure if you have studied Islam you are aware and know this but having said that where is your ''bf'' faith in all of this? What kind of a Muslim man is he that he has been sinning all this time and having illegal sex according to Islam? Is he a pious man? Does not sound like it ergo when you take your Shahada is he the best man to marry? Will he raise your children properly within the faith if he is not capable of doing so himself? If he does not pray and thinks nothing of having a girlfriend and sex, what really makes him a Muslim? Him saying the words ''I am a Muslim''? Because Islam is about how you live your life 24/7 not just something you give lip service too. It is submitting your life to God and I have no right to say he's a Muslim or he is not a Muslim but his actions speak volumes. That does not mean he cannot sincerely change and turn around and become a the pious man a pious woman deserves though. And if I may ask if you intent to become a Muslim and you have decided to become a Muslim and you fast in Ramadan etc, what is the hold up? What are you waiting to happen before taking you Shahada? Because you know if you died today with all the best intentions and future plans in the world, no matter that you have fasted and are learning to pray etc you would still die a non believer. None of us knows our last day, hour or second and who says today is not yours? I am just really curious as a revert myself, why you are waiting to take it if you have already decided you are going to take it? ''I am reverting for ALLAH (SWT) And NOT for my boyfriend. If we broke up tomorrow, i would still revert to Islam Inshallah'' I just hope Insha Allah you do not waste too much time because sincerely you do not know how much time you have, none of us do. Peace to you She said... PS Some users do not half talk rubbish. User with no name ''You should be lashed hundred times first according to Quran...'' Are you a Muslim? Where you a Muslim when having sex with this guy? No and No so the rules do not apply to you, they are rules for Muslims. When you take your Shahada even having had sex previously is forgiven, your slate is clean you are a fresh page with no sins upon you. You would NOT be punished for previous sins. Only the sins you make from that point on count and you have already stated you have no further intentions to have sex with him so where is the sin?
2016-04-01 11:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every woman is different and every relationship is different. There's really no right or wrong answer here. It really depends upon how important that particular subject is to the woman in question.
At the end of the day, what matters most is the passion and intimacy (both physical and non-physical) that a couple shares. For example, in my first marriage, my husband and I were both each others first. In my second marriage, I had had a few more partners than before and my new husband has had quite a few more partners than I.
Aside from interesting conversation, we find it fairly inconsequential to our current relationship as it all happened in the past anyway.
Good Luck!
2007-08-14 06:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would expect (prefer) that he had been with at least 2 people. I would want him to be able to gauge my abilities against his experience so he'd know that it "worked" for him, and also so that he wouldn't wonder and want to see what it was like with someone else for the rest of our lives.
I do not believe in being a virgin at marriage.....not in this day in age. You need at least some experience to be sure of your choice and so you don't wonder forever, but he doesn't need to be a man whore either.
I knew a guy who had lost count and estimated his number to be over 800 women and he was afraid to tell his girlfriend. That is WAY too many, but anything more than a dozen or two would probably be a turnoff to a girl.
2007-08-14 06:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by dmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt expect my fiance to have had alot of sex/partners before we get married. Its not a "requirement". I didnt judge him by the amount of sex he had. Sex is an important part of a relationship, great sex is a plus but if its not great i think communication between the 2 of you discussing what you want and like can make it better. But for me sex isnt going to make or break my relationship.
2007-08-14 07:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Contessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they did before we got together is their business. As long as they are disease free and know about any/all kids they may have running around, it's all good.
I definitely prefer a guy to have had sexual experience so we can skip the training stage and go straight to the having fun stage. ☺
2007-08-14 06:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few relationships are OK, but not so many it makes me sick! I like my man to be picky, not a slut! If a man is a cheat, then he's a cheat.. it doesn't matter how many people he's been with before marriage. A number won't change it.
2007-08-14 06:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by sugarcookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care either way i look at the perosnality and the perosn first....My BF and i dated for a while before we had sex and he was concerned i would be upset he had been previously married and all but as long as i love them and they love me the past is the past as long as you dont have any diseases i dont care
2007-08-14 06:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by curious4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have wanted my husband to have had alot of sex. I don't want to marry a man-whore. It wouldn't have bothered me if he was a virgin either. You can then learn together!
2007-08-14 06:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not a girl but my girlfriend did make a comment one time saying she would never date a guy that wasn't experienced.
2007-08-14 06:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋