I've been going out with a girl for 3 years. Most of our fights are due to a lack of communication. Most of the time she doesn't tell me her issues with me until its way too late. Then she just runs away and not talk to me for days, sometimes more than a week; she also threatens to break up with me.
We broke up for a month and then got back together. When she called me and asked to get back with me I said, "I want it to be different now, you tell me what you want from me and vice versa." All I asked her was to promise to communicate with me more and not run away at the sign of any conflict. But now, 6 months later shes doing the same thing again.
I have no other problems with our relationship. But communication is the key to any relationship. How long do you wait for something to change before you give up?
2007-08-14 06:44:25 · 8 answers · asked by hockeyfreak 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. People don't change. Saying the only problem you have is communication is really a bad way to look at things. All you have in a relationship is communication, if you can't talk to each other things will never work. I spent six years in almost the exact same situation. She will say she is sorry and things will be different. As soon as she is comfortable again the same stuff will continue to happen. It's really a personal decision, you should put in as much time as you are willing to look back and say "I can't believe I wasted (x) years trying to make things work."
2007-08-14 06:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't let you know these things before they become issues then it's her problem, not yours. I think you really should think about moving on. If she really loves you and someplace down the road she actually manages to change her attitude then maybe another time. But for now, you can't just say it and not do it. You are only enabling her to continue as is. Maybe it's time to move on.
2007-08-14 13:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by jwsou812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem and if u have given them several chances chances are that they don't think they have to change because u keep going back to then u need to give them an ultimatum or leave because u will never be happy with someone that Ur not happy with the things they do or how they act
2007-08-14 13:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by felicia g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through something very similar. I don't really know what to tell you. If you really love her then you should stick around but otherwise I would simply give her the boot.
Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. She may realize how much you mean to her and that she needs to start trying harder.
2007-08-14 13:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we should follow the words of God ( the Bible ) then it's infinity but on the other hand any how you like. but I will advice you to follow the Bible because the more you forgive and give chances, the most you are been forgiven and given chances to somethings? believe me.
2007-08-14 13:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by darlingK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it seems like she won't change. You should break it off with her because if she didn't change the first time, mostly likely she never will. You should break it off before you get too hurt.
2007-08-14 13:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My philosophy is " almost every one deserves a second chance, almost no one deserves a third." You've already given her a second chance, she will not change. The question is can you live with that?
2007-08-14 13:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Dusie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, dude, but I don't think she's going to. If you've already told her honestly and sincerely that you'd like things to change, and they haven't... They probably never will. If she doesn't respect you enough to listen to your concerns, she's not worth it anyway. Good luck, though.
2007-08-14 13:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋