Family & Relationships - 25 July 2007

My dad screams at me and makes my life a living hell when i said yeah right to him he broke my door by coming after me and slamming it! My dad always screams and my mom even hates him! My mom even tells me to never marry a guy like that! My mom is afraid to stand up to him! He also makes my mom cry sometimes! He yells so loud and wants us to do his stuff and tells us to do stuff he doesnt! My whole family hates him! My mom always stands up for him! I also hate my brother cause he gets everything his way and every body always blames me! My family is a living hell! I cry at least 1-3 times a day cause of them! I even think about killing myself or running away! Should i do something? Am i being abused?

2007-07-25 15:17:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

just read this question about bachelor parties and the answers left me with a very negative surprise.
anyway, i dont see the use of these parties. its not like people go in a marriage as a virgin and just before they get married you have to expose to them to the other sex? as an adult we all had sex before, saw and touched. how desperate can one be to need such things? i really think its extremly immature.

2007-07-25 15:16:06 · 10 answers · asked by not this way 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Eye drops can make you vomit and have diahrea. I want to know if there is anyone out there who has had this done to them. This has been going on for about 3 months before I realized what was happening. I just thought she was a really bad cook.

2007-07-25 15:15:46 · 20 answers · asked by angelsrwe3 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We were married for 11 years. We have three kids together. I LEFT HIM. I left him because he was extremely verbally and metally abusive. I left SIX years ago. He's getting remarried in October and it really bothers me. I don't know if it's because of my kids being around this woman who I can't stand or if it's because it breaks my heart that it didn't work. My parents have been married for 42 years. Dammit, that's what I wanted. We will not sit together when our children marry. We will not wait for the births of our grandchildren together. I'm just so sad even after all this time that we didn't make it. I still care for him, but I know I made the right choice in leaving. What the hell is wrong with me???

2007-07-25 15:14:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

It seems to me that people nowadays are either together for just a little bit before they're engaged or together for a really long time before their engaged. Same goes for the actual engagement. Some for two years or more and some for just a few months to a year. Married and engaged folks, what are your numbers. Just curious.

2007-07-25 15:14:05 · 33 answers · asked by sassylassy 3 in Weddings

I've been to almost 20 friend's wedding parties before and just relocated to a new town and get married. How can I collect their gifts without holding a party?

If I just send out a notice and a wishlist to them would that be awkward?

I gave most of them gifts in their weddings before and now I want some back...thanks for any advice

2007-07-25 15:12:39 · 21 answers · asked by kingsebay2000 1 in Weddings

What do you guys do to get the girls to notice you?

2007-07-25 15:09:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband wants sex at least once a day. He has cheated in the past. I feel like if I don't give it to him everyday, he will cheat again. What should I do? Don't tell me to leave him. I seriously need to know what to do......

2007-07-25 15:06:35 · 27 answers · asked by Damon ♥ Elena 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, she just left me without telling me a reason, shes in another town. I call her, but she just wont pick up. I told my friend on myspace to add her, and she accepted his request. He told her if she would like to be my friend, she replied, "Yeah, no big deal, I know hes a good person, besides I already added him, say hello to him, bye."

I checked and it was a lie. I added her two days after and she accepted the request. I waited one week and sent her an email saying "Hello. The Start of another week, hows everyone doing? Take Care."

She replied back just now but Im going to connect later on. Anyways, the question is this, if she replied back to answer, she would like my friendship? Thats all I want, and I know that some exes dont even want to know what happens in the life of the other.

So do you think she might want my friendship?

2007-07-25 15:03:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have not spoken with my grandmother all summer. My mother passed away a few years ago, and since then she has been overly critical of our family, and was coming over uninvited every single day, which was annoying but livable. At the start of the summer however, she got ten times worse, and after one to many rude and mean comments I quit speaking to her.Now however I feel that I should attempt to contact her or make things right in some way before I leave for school, because even though she was the one in the wrong she is stubborn and would never reach out to make things right. How should I go about this? Or should I even bother?

2007-07-25 15:03:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok I'm a bit confused if I should wear white for my wedding.

This will be my first marriage, however, I did have a previous 10 year relationship with another man. That relationship fell apart and I finally found the man of my dreams.
Now, my parents know I am not a virgin and are questioning if its right for me to wear white for my wedding and a half-vail. They think I should wear an off white or even beige color due to the previous relationship and the amount of time I was in it as it could technically be seen as a common law marriage.

His parents are catholic and know nothing of my previous relationship where I lived with a guy for 10 years. (My fiance does know about my past relationship.) His parents know that this is my first marriage and I know they are looking forward to seeing him marry a bride in white as he is their only child and this will be his only wedding.

I personally want to wear white but I'm not sure if its appropriate.

2007-07-25 15:02:30 · 16 answers · asked by missmelissa5286 2 in Weddings

my kids dont have their own room rite now bc my mom just moved in so theyve been sleeping w/ me my friends told me it was ileagel for them to share a room so i havent let them ( she says its illeagel bc theyre over the age of 9)

2007-07-25 15:02:11 · 23 answers · asked by rbd_fan878 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my new bf has bruises all over his legs and arms the amount grows and grows and he tells me his parents are jerks he keeps on telling me his parents don't care about him i don't know what is going on but i want to stay out of the way and mind my own buissness but his yesterday he came on crutches and a black eye

2007-07-25 15:01:13 · 19 answers · asked by Megan D 1 in Singles & Dating

to go to a bachelor or bachelorette party if there were going to be strippers there? My boyfriend had a friend who got married several years ago, they were a white couple. Nine months later they had a baby and family and friends were all there. Well needless to say, the baby came out African American. Turns out she screwed the stripper at her bachelorette party. Do you think it's respectful to your partner to go even though they are up to no good?

2007-07-25 14:54:51 · 10 answers · asked by Cali Mom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She keeps telling me how nice she thinks i would look if i got a perm. I Like my hair straight the way it is (She told me i have hat hair. She has brought this up many times before and now she has her husband doing it too. I love my aunt so how do i let her down without hurting her feelings.

2007-07-25 14:54:14 · 13 answers · asked by nobody 5 in Family

So I am getting married in april very simple hall rental buffet dancing drinking etc but my fiances sis is getting married in sept and well boston ma 90 a head meals open bar and well her final spending was 32,000 and she still has some stuff to pay for! Now my fiance wants to change our whole wedding around so we don't look like we have no money! How do i get him to change his mind or is he right should we try to outdo her?? I really don't want to have a huge big wedding i just want to go and have fun

2007-07-25 14:53:57 · 16 answers · asked by RedSoxRock!!! 4 in Weddings

I am not trying to be a "ladies man" here but i appreciate everything a women goes through in life. If it weren't for my mom, i wouldn't be here. My girlfriend totally understands me and helps me through everything even when i just can't seem to understand everything about her. Every girl on this earth has something beautiful about them that if you can't see it, then you are a complete fool. THEY ARE AMAZING!!! Couldn't servive a day without them! I really just needed to get this off my chest.

2007-07-25 14:52:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hello.This question may sound dum to most people.But for some dum reason i am having a problem with it.I just came back from tech school & i have no friends or girlfriend.Where should i go or do to make friends & hopefully i will find a girlfriend?I need real answers.If you do not have any good answers & want to say rude things to me.Well then.Do not answer me.

2007-07-25 14:50:31 · 5 answers · asked by Erik H 1 in Singles & Dating

My sister is 13 as well as her boyfriend. She has always been very innosent until recently. She started dating this guy about 3 months ago. In that 3 months she has snuck out of the house to get into a car that her drunk 13 year old boyfriend was driving. But the last time she snuck out they ran out of gas so they were walking back to her house, when the cops picked her up at 4:00 a.m. for curfew violation (did I mention they were walking down the highway) Now I find out that he is trying to get her to smoke and drink alcohol. He keeps trying to convense her to try it. Yet she stays with him, even though she hates cigarettes and alcohol. She thinks she gonna marry him and that she's in love with him. Please, someone give me some advise. I am so scared that he is going to end up accidentally killing her, wether in a car crash or alcohol poinsening.

2007-07-25 14:48:15 · 37 answers · asked by heather_wind2004 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm really worried that I'm nearly 20 and have never had a girlfriend. I'm shy and dont have many friends of either sex. I dont think I'm very attractive, and the more time that passes without one the less I think its likely to happen. I'm worried I'm unusual or not normal.

2007-07-25 14:44:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its like i HATE every1 around me.
when ever i talk to them i feel my self gust get mad or sad & i dont no why.

& i think they are part of the reason whyi cut myself causeits normaly after i have been around then &stuff

why is this i love my family but i cant wait till i get 2 leave there house when im 18

& 2 day i cut myself & i cant figer out Y i did
all i remember was i was with my family then i ran up stairs & started 2 cut

DOES ANY1 NO WHY IM LIKE THIS?????????
I THINK I NEED HELP BUT I DONT WANT 2 TALK 2 MY FAMILY OR CALL SOME STUPID #

2007-07-25 14:40:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am sharing a rooom with my sister right now who is older than me. I'm 17 and she's 21. Every so often I will wake up in the morning and my sister still thinks I'm asleep. Her bed is on the other side of the room and horizontal where as mine is vertical.

Anyway, she quietly and very slowly takes off her underwear and starts...well, masturbating with her 2 middle fingers. If she hears a noise, like our mom moving around outside, she quickly stops and pulls the covers over herself. Or if she thinks I'm waking up, she'll also stop quickly and pretend like she's asleep.

I have now caught her doing this a few times and am wondering, why? It's not like I am angry or anything, just more or less curious. A friend of mine suggested "the risk of getting caught" might make her "get off" better. Is there any truth to that? I wouldnt know since I've never tried it lol.

Can anyone fill me in or give me some answers? I'm just curious, is all. Thanks.

2007-07-25 14:34:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband went to a bachelor party a year ago. At the time I didnt have a problem with it. I was aware that there were going to be strippers there, but I thought 'Oh well its just a bit of harmless fun'. However I now have discovered the true extent of what happened that night with the strippers. It wasnt just a simple act of taking their clothes off, they used toys and acted out various sex acts etc. I am horrified by what took place, and feel disgusted. My husband seems to think Im over reacting to this, but I truely feel sickened by their acts, and betrayed by my husband for watching this and never telling me what went on. Is this kind of thing the norm at these events, and am I being unreasonable?

2007-07-25 14:33:03 · 68 answers · asked by Krissie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and i are having sex issues, he cant make it last longer than a minute or so.. but when we first started dating he could go for like 30-45 what could be the problem... i also have trouble getting aroused? any advice?

2007-07-25 14:30:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't know if I should tell my friends that I like a guy. Last time I told someone 10 people found out. Should I tell my friends?

2007-07-25 14:28:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

About a year ago, I met a guy who looked my age (22) and we became friends and we ended up having sex. It turns out he was 14. Everyone later told me that he gets that all the time. He looked and acted a lot older. After I went through a whole lot of guilt and shame. Anyone experience anything similar? I have since carded potential sex partners for my own sanity's sake .

2007-07-25 14:25:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I will agree some are but there are alot of homless people in the citys. I am a pure 100% redneck country girl and proud of it. I dont know that many people that are incest! Actually im willing to bet you mention sex and a cowboys sister you better be able to fight cuz your *** is grass! Just wondering how redecks got that reputation and if people think all rednecks are that way?

2007-07-25 14:24:25 · 2 answers · asked by carrie 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-07-25 14:24:19 · 14 answers · asked by Pauly P 2 in Singles & Dating

So this guy- we used to like each other, and when he was walking with his gf, he pretended like he didn't even see me. He commented me today on myspace, "Hey whats up LL, what are you doing?" And I just replied "I'm just sitting here bored... you?" and he didn't respond, and I know he saw it cus he was talking to other people.

Now he thinks that it's ok that he ignored me. I know I shouldn't have commented back, but what should I do now... besides just telling him?

2007-07-25 14:21:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my mom's giving me $100 a month for food, makeup, shampoo, conditioner, clothes, and everyhitng i need. and like the movies and stuff. i'm only 14! its not like i should be payingfor myself! where i live, you can't get a job until you're 16 and i don't get allowance or christmas or birthday money or anything. we're not poor, either. my stepdad's got like a million dollars in his savings account. plus my mom spends like 3 thousand dollars a month on her stuff. and it really is IMPOSSIBLE with only $100, so do you think she's being unreasonable? how much should i get?

2007-07-25 14:18:39 · 34 answers · asked by kaylarose 2 in Family