My dad screams at me and makes my life a living hell when i said yeah right to him he broke my door by coming after me and slamming it! My dad always screams and my mom even hates him! My mom even tells me to never marry a guy like that! My mom is afraid to stand up to him! He also makes my mom cry sometimes! He yells so loud and wants us to do his stuff and tells us to do stuff he doesnt! My whole family hates him! My mom always stands up for him! I also hate my brother cause he gets everything his way and every body always blames me! My family is a living hell! I cry at least 1-3 times a day cause of them! I even think about killing myself or running away! Should i do something? Am i being abused?
2007-07-25 15:17:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey sweetheart. I know what you are going through. Yes you are being abused. Your story sounds just like mine when i was growing up however i didn't have a brother i had a sister instead who got everything. My parents blamed me alot for there problems. Honey my heart aches for you. Please don't consider killing yourself or running away. I even had those same thoughts. I was 12 or 13 when this started with me know i am 27. I know this is tough for you but you will survive. My own best friends never knew what went on at my house i was verbally, physically, and mentally abused by both of my parents. My life was hell growing up so i know what you are going through. If you need someone to talk to feel free to get a hold of me. I would love to help you!!! Keep your head up!!! God helped me through it. God loves you and you need him in your life to help you through it.
2007-07-25 15:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by panda44857 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Yes. Yes. Mentally and emotionally at least. You're father is a productive of his environment (aren't we all?) and probably was treated the same way when he was young. Don't know if you're religious or not; if so, talk to your pastor, priest, rabbi, or minister. If not, talk to a counselor (school, local clinic, etc.). If all else fails call Dr. Phil, Montel Williams or one of those shows for assistance. Nobody should be so afraid to the point that they are thinking of running away or committing suicide. Seek help and end the cycle of abuse in your family. It takes guts to seek help but you'll be glad you did. Good luck.
2007-07-25 15:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Frosses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being abused emotionally and unfortunately there isnt much you can do about it because you are a kid... you cant move out or anything...talk to your mom get her to do something i am sure she realizes how this is affecting you if she is too scared to talk to your father then maybe it is time she and your dad divorced...You can try to have a civilized conversation with your dad one on one when things are chill around the house...he cant be screaming all the time?... or you can write him a letter and leave it for him ... explaining to him how you feel... then leave it somewhere he can find it...
IMPORTANT ADVICE:Killing yourself wont solve a damn thing... so stop thinking that way... think about all the people you would hurt..especially your mother!!!!
2007-07-25 15:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry you have to here that everyday. It sounds like verbal abuse. But don't let him run you so down that you want to hurt yourself a person like that is not worth it. And you will probably have a bright future ahead of you with kids of your own and a great family.Try to get a hobby you and your mom and be happy all the time that will really get his goat if he can't still your happiness from you and your mother.Hopefully he will settle down. Good luck and I will pray for you and your mother.
2007-07-25 15:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi .. i'm sorry to hear you're living in a household like this.
Your father has anger problems, and instead of finding constructive outlets, and calmly discussing problems, he yells... He probably has issues which have been festering for YEARS, and he really needs to seek some help to learn how to control himself.
Meanwhile, your mother is exhibiting codependent behavior by "standing up for" him... he yells at her, she hates him, but then she sticks up for him... that doesn't make sense. does it?
Perhaps you can find some useful websites on coping with angry parents, living with angry parents. there are many websites out there for teens which offer helpful suggestions.
You could also talk with someone you respect and trust -- another adult.. and maybe they could listen or give you some good advice.
sending hugs.
2007-07-25 15:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not exacly physically but mentally/emotionally YES....which could lead to physical self abuse. Hold yourself higher than how your family is treating you, because you deserve better. Perhaps you could live with a friend or relative.
2007-07-25 15:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should call your granparents and stay with them... but if u cant than explain to a friend and ask if you can sat y with them for a while.... don't runaway.
2007-07-25 16:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋