I've been to almost 20 friend's wedding parties before and just relocated to a new town and get married. How can I collect their gifts without holding a party?
If I just send out a notice and a wishlist to them would that be awkward?
I gave most of them gifts in their weddings before and now I want some back...thanks for any advice
2007-07-25 15:12:39 · 21 answers · asked by kingsebay2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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you are acting like you are owed gifts or that you gave because one day YOU would get. that is not the case. you can not receive gifts for a party you never had. heck, even if you have a bridal shower, you are not expecting gifts, although that would be nice.
collect is an odd word...............
anyway, do not send a wish list, that will just make people mad. i suppose you could have a bridal shower at your hometown (if someone else wants to host it btw), but other than that, i guess you are out of luck?
wow, this question is just odd in my mind :P wanting some back...just wow.
2007-07-25 15:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, think it is tacky. Send out the notices, but forget the wish list. If you are find those presents so important, you need to rethink your priorities. The purpose of the party is to celebrate a happy occasion - the presents are secondary. Besides, do you have any idea how much those parties cost? Believe me, those couples did not break even on the presents. Another thing, the purpose of giving a gift is not supposed to be to get something in return. It is supposed to come from your heart, not your greed.
The bottom line is, if getting wedding presents is so important to you, have a party, like everyone else does.
2007-07-25 22:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by kati9 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Reciprocity is basic to most friendships so I don't think you should be so anxious about getting presents from them. I'm sure they'd be very happy to get a wedding announcement from you and they'd likely call/ e-mail you because 1.) They love to share in joyful occasions with friends. 2.) They want to know where you're registered so they can send you a gift in recognition of the joyful occasion.
If you gave your friends gifts with a cheerful and willing attitude, I'm sure they will do the same. If not, I can see why you'd imagine them to be equally tight-fisted, but I'm sure many of them are better than that. Please, don't be aggressive about receiving gifts because that will only make them believe that you think poorly of them and it will, of course, reflect poorly on you. I advise you NOT to even drop hints; it's tacky.
2007-07-25 22:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by grits9600 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never proper etiquette to request gifts for your own wedding.
Instead you can send out an announcement, and well wishers will mail you gifts if they wish.
Another option is if you had a best mand or maid of honor, maybe they can coordinate a virtual shower for you, but it is up to them or your family, not you to ask for gifts.
The point of getting married was not to get gifts, so if you don't get a lot of them don't be disappointed. Once your family and true friends hear of your marriage they will send stuff, it's just rude to expect it.
Good luck!
2007-07-25 22:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be a little awkward asking for gifts without holding a bridal/grooms party. But what about during the Rehersal dinner? You could set up a table near the entrance of the dinner hall where guests can place their gifts to you. Make sure you mention in the Dinner Rehersal Invitations that you are not holding a traditional wedding party and then name the stores where you've registered for wedding gifts. people will get the idea and it's that way you're not being rude.
I Hope that helped.
2007-07-25 22:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It is perfectly proper to send out a wedding announcement. It is not proper to include your registry information. If they ask of course, give the list to them. Just because you bought gifts for others does not entitle you to act rudely and demand equal attention. Good luck!
2007-07-25 22:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, it will kinda seem like you are trying to sqeeze something out of them. They may get offended. But if your birthday was coming up in 2 months i'd say give out hints. It just won't be right to try to get them to buy you things without a good reason. If they choose maybe they will buy you something just because they want to. Or for some occasion like Christmas, going away parties, or house warming parties.
2007-07-25 22:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by truelifeandlove 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! Aren't you the rude and greedy one? I have some sad news for you - no one owes you anything! If your friends want to send a gift they will. If not - too bad.
2007-07-29 19:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go stand by the side of the road with a sign stating "Gimmie Presents". You're pathetic.
PS- doesn't have to be the side of the road if you want to move a little closer to the yellow lines.....
2007-07-26 08:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people just ask the guests to bring the gifts to the wedding, you can set aside a table where the gifts can go.
2007-07-25 22:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋