So I am getting married in april very simple hall rental buffet dancing drinking etc but my fiances sis is getting married in sept and well boston ma 90 a head meals open bar and well her final spending was 32,000 and she still has some stuff to pay for! Now my fiance wants to change our whole wedding around so we don't look like we have no money! How do i get him to change his mind or is he right should we try to outdo her?? I really don't want to have a huge big wedding i just want to go and have fun
2007-07-25 14:53:57 · 16 answers · asked by RedSoxRock!!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just make sure you are having a wedding both you and your fiance are happy with. If the hall buffet will make you happy, stick with it. If you feel the need for something more elaborate then change your plans. Don't do it to compete though, do it to make yourselves happy.
2007-07-25 17:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding day is the celebration of two people becoming one. You dont need to outdo the sister in law. 32,000 dollars on a wedding is just a big waste of money in my eyes. They could use that money on something else. Believe me everyone at your wedding will have just as good a time if not better at your wedding. good luck and congratulations. Just think you sister in law wants to spend all the money and it is over in a few hours. That is pretty silly.
2007-07-25 23:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not suggest you wait and see how hers goes. Maybe once there he will see that spending all that $$$ is really not the point. Also most tiems people don't know if you spent $12 or $200 a person, if there is good food and good music then that is all anyone will remember.
The whole point is celebrating your love with your family and friends, not spending as much money as possible and getting into debt for 1 day.
Relax and celebrate it the way you want, I am sure you will be way less stressed than your future SIL.
Good luck!
2007-07-25 22:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your future husband to discuss seriously about whatare the right budget for the wedding. Ask him how much do he have now, so that your wedding will not go over the budget. It's important to plan within the budget. Other people might have the capacity to have a greater even but think for yourself. No other people will help you when you are in a huge debt.
2007-07-25 22:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When planning a wedding its easy to get carried away with all the bits and pieces, but it can cost a fortune!
I think if you are happy, then stick to the plans you have made.
After all, the day is about you and your partner, not how much everything costed.
Plus, you don't want to start your marriage together in a whole heap of debt!
Good luck!
2007-07-25 22:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by cara1aus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't outdo her, that is not the idea for a "marriage" or a wedding for that matter. Do what makes you happy, follow your heart and you should be fine. Try and talk to your fiance and make him realize this.
2007-07-25 22:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy, thats tough... it may be hard to convince him of the whole "screw what other people think" espcially since it sounds like he doens't want to be "shown up" by his sis.
Both your families SHOULD understand the kind of people you are... especially if you have expressed to them that its important not to have a huge wedding or really fancy sophisticated stuff.
My fiance is like groomzilla... he wants all sorts of stuff we dont need... but when i pointed out to him that we don't have that kind of a relationship and we really aren't the spendy, flashy, vogue-type of people a big glitzy wedding would show us as, he saw the whole ordeal in a different light.
We are very down-to-earth and comfy with eachother, and i tried to let him know it wasn't a huge thing to me to have this huge fairytale wedding, that i was fine with more comfortable surroundings and a more intimate ceremony, he understood.
if you try to let him know that you want a more intimate, less formal, "comfy" wedding, maybe he'll take that better, and your families should still respect you for that as well...
2007-07-25 22:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by kittylover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever try to keep up with the Jones's as the saying goes, have your wedding the way you both want it, if the people who are coming are your friends they won't be critical of your wedding, they should just be happy for you.
2007-07-26 06:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that the wedding is about the two of you and your commitment to each other. Don't allow him to make it about somebody else. Who cares what the other woman has? As long as you're happy that should be all that matters.
2007-07-25 22:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by lybertas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK why don't you compromise and go for a wedding that costs about $15K. That will allow you a lovely reception hall, a dinner, drinks, and a DJ.
2007-07-25 22:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋