Family & Relationships - 25 June 2007

i am totally in love but he has a wife

2007-06-25 09:15:07 · 38 answers · asked by Sonja D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Im a female, 14 year old. And i dont really have a high self confidence or self esteem but i was just wondering if anyone can give me any advise for me to boost my confidence ..
Any advise that you may wish to give, i will be most gratefull for.
Thanks for taking the time to read is.
x

2007-06-25 09:13:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My dh & I have been married for over 5 years & are both in our 40's (me early 40's - him late). He used to be SO considerate & sweet, but things are different now.

He used to talk bad about men that walked ahead of their wives, now HE does it if he's preoccupied. He used to call me pet names, rub my feet every time we were sitting down, make candle lit baths for me, & hold my hand when we were walking or driving. He'd do 1/2 of the housework. He made me feel like a princess.

Things are changing. I don't consider myself spoiled, but sure loved the way he used to treat me. Now I do most of the housework, all the laundry, help work in the yard, pay all the bills & run errands. Plus, I have a fulltime job like him.

He's home right after work every night though & says he's happy (I asked him recently). Is this what happens when things 'settle down'? Is the friendship part of the relationship starting ALREADY? I love him very much-should I be worried? Is he just spoiled now??

2007-06-25 09:13:12 · 18 answers · asked by nite_angelica 7 in Marriage & Divorce

Romance

2007-06-25 09:12:29 · 33 answers · asked by Gõlden angel 4 in Singles & Dating

Awhile ago I posted a question asking what I should do with an outrageously nasty bridesmaid (my fiancee's cousin, whom I graciously asked to have stand with me). None of us had any inkling what the spoiled rotten prick would do. Long story short, she verbally trashed everything we planned, complained about the dresses, the rehearsal, our decision to have a Jack & Jill, etc..). I had asked if I should give her the boot or talk to her and tell her how I feel. Well, I sent her an email since she can't return a phone call. Only to find out she twisted all of my words around, and told everyone she felt left out of the planning and me and my bridesmaids are doing everything without her ( we haven't done anything but go to the fittings and have lunch - which she refused to join), and that I'm not letting my fiancee have a stag (not true - we decided to have a big beach bbq for all of our friends instead), and has basically twisted everything around to look like I'm leaving her out of things, and now her mother is on my case. This is really hurting me (so hard to explain in words how I am),but I'm one of the most easygoing people ever, I haven't asked anyone to do anything, and I let the bridesmaids choose what they felt comfortable with. I guess I really don't know what to do - I haven't had anyone treat me like this since grade school! If I did something to provoke it, I'd admit it, but I'm lost. I have continuosly tried to get in touch with her, but she says she has a baby and has no time to do anything. But yet she's twisting the truth, saying I'm excluding her. Asking her to step down is not an option now - it would probably cause more strain. My fiancee's mother is also battling cancer and I don't want her to have any grief. But this is supposed to be such a happy time, and one person is making it unhappy. I don't think I can control myself if I try to talk to her. Do I ignore her until the wedding (4 months, and we rarely see her), or is that poor etiquitte on my part? Or should I allow my other bridesmaids, who are now furious with her, to follow through on their threats of itching powder...etc...how would you handle it?

2007-06-25 09:09:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i've been in love with this man sience i was 12-13 years old. when i turned 20 we got together (he said he prayed to God for me). now, 8 years and 2 kids latter he doesn't want to be with me. his new girlfriend has 3 kids by 2 diffrent fathers. I gave him all i could give as a women and he just ups and leaves just like that. as time goes on i'm realizing that almost every man that comes accross my path is out for one thing. i'm not a your girl in junor high or high school i''m a women with goals and responsabilities. I don't see anyone offering me anything i can't buy in a store for myself. How do i get past the hurt, pain and confusion of this situation with out losing myself in the process.?

2007-06-25 09:07:37 · 16 answers · asked by miss_g2300 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It seems like just about every girl I meet either online or in person tends to fall for me almost immediately. I'm a married man, and I can only see so many girls at one time.

Any advice on how to "common myself up" would be appreciated.

2007-06-25 09:06:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-25 09:05:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-25 09:04:49 · 23 answers · asked by sweetpea 2 in Weddings

I had known for a while now that my son was gay and was not surprised when he finally came out to me yesterday. the problem is his father (my ex husband) is going to hit the roof when or if he finds out. He is extreamely religious and i mean extreamely. He and his new wife are pastors of their own church and have publicly condemed homosexuals. In fact they are one of those types who belive that it can be cured "as long as they have god into their lives." He and my son already don't understand each other because my son is not into religion at all. his father forced him to get baptized to quote" keep the evil away" My son was not happy after that and told me he never wanted to see his dad again. He is going back and forth as to ever tell him, but he knows his father will find out eventually and either try to "cure" him or worse flat out reject him. He is scared of both outcomes even though throughout his life his father has never really been there for him. What should my son do?

2007-06-25 09:04:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-06-25 09:04:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband is constantly comparing our sex life to his coworkers and I am sick of it. He hears the story how everyone got extrmly "busy" over the weekend and he feels we should have as well. first of all he is comparing us to barely 20 something kids and second their wives do not hold a 9-5 job (I work in the insurance industry) and then come home and take care of the kids and cook like I do! (one sits at home and plays on the internet all day and the other one is a cashier at a tire shop). If he doesnt "get lucky" then he acts like a 4 yr old and pouts for the rest of the week or he comes at me like some friggin horn dog. like its his married right to get it when he wants it and if I don't give it to him (and I DONT) then i have to deal w/ his attitude. i am at the point where I want a divorce because i am sick of his childish behavior and dont get me started on what he thought he should get when i was pregnant thanks to his coworkers!!! I love the dumbA** but he just doesnt get it!

2007-06-25 09:02:15 · 43 answers · asked by lou 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for over 6 years. The first 2-3 years were good. We had alot of rough patches but I tried to put them aside and focus on the love we had for eachother. It was alot of rumors about him cheating on me, my dad didnt like him, his unwillingness to open up and his constant picking on me. But I thought my love was strong enough to get past that. He moved into my house around our 3 year anniversary.

Then his grandmother passed away a couple of months after our 3 yr anniversary. He was really close to his grandmother, she practically raised him. So it really broke him down. His life took a turn for the worse, he got really depressed and started drinking alot. I tried to be there for him as much as I could but he kept pushing me away. I never gave up and held up hope that he would eventually let me in.

He finally gave me some hope that he was coming back to me when he proposed on Christmas morning 2004. Of course I accepted.

2007-06-25 09:00:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What is the weirdest thing about you?
Mine is my toes....the 2nd & 3rd toes are longer than my big toe.

2007-06-25 08:57:56 · 13 answers · asked by boobookittyy 1 in Singles & Dating

Question is not about whether you did or not but about if you have been in a situation where you seriously thought about it in the last year. I would just like to know how common it is. I am 34 and married with kids. I have been working with a lady over the past 8 months and have had real thoughts about having an afair for the first time in 12 years of marriage.

2007-06-25 08:57:32 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Why is it that Men who are so lovey dovey while courting, so understanding, charming, caring, passionate, affectionate, loving, flexible, polite, humorous, life-of-the-party suddenly change couple of months into the marriage?

All their charming attributes goes puff!! Before marriage they kinda encourage their lady to take on the world, be career oriented, be trendy, chic and fashionable. After marriage - ?

What brings about this change? Marriage? Just by getting married everything changes? Just like that? So does the argument favor live-ins? Will romance be kept alive if the couple didn't marry?

Why does the woman suddenly appear to be from Venus after marriage? Till then she is the apple or diamond of his eye. His heart thuds and pounds the moment her thought flashes by. He continues to converse with her even in her absence. He understands and tunes in to her very soul. Then?

Not logical at all. Is it Men? Women? or the Institution of Marriage?

2007-06-25 08:55:07 · 11 answers · asked by Preacher 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've already asked that question but it was impossible to open previous links.So..I'm trying myspace.Do I look boring?Or wuld you change my hair or anything?I'mjust curious.Thank you

myspace.com/diianaylosta

2007-06-25 08:54:09 · 36 answers · asked by **Diana** 3 in Singles & Dating

jealous type of girl and all of my past boyfriends have learned to deal with it if u were dating me would u?




i'm not the bitchy type of jealous i'm the type that i hate it when u will flirt with a girl right in front of me.

2007-06-25 08:52:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband has a dual personality that's very confusing. On the one hand, he could be very affectionate, other times emotionally disconnected.and insensitive. He kisses me good morning, good night, before he goes to work & when he comes back. He takes care of the 2 boys, 5yrs & 18 mos old, bathes them, feeds them. Does housework, dishes. But theres a side of his personality that's very cold & distant. he pretty much lives in his own world. Has no friends and no interest to have any. I don't think he needs people really. He's even cold & distant w/ his immediate family.He doesn't go anywhere except work & back. Goes out w/ me & the boys. After sex at times I feel used, because I don't feel that were close. We dont spend enough alone time w/ each other w/out the kids, they even sleep w/ us. He finds me attractive sexually & physically & enjoys sex w/ me but mentioned a few times to go somewhere to watch other people have sex. Sexual deviant? Doesn't like anybody. Social deviant? Sick??

2007-06-25 08:51:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just went through the worst 6 years of my life and now im realizing that my ex wants to be with my little 18 year old cousin. She is very unattractive but has big breasts. Why would someone hurt me like that and is there any men out there that will not always choose someone younger?

2007-06-25 08:50:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-25 08:47:14 · 31 answers · asked by aldona9 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I have been married almost 2 years. We went from 1-2 times a week to 1-2 times a MONTH. We talked and she asked me to be more romantic and less touchy-feely (I thought she might want that before we had sex. WRONG). I have done those things and I've been patient but it hasn't improved. Am I doing anything wrong, and if not, what can I do to fix this situation? Do I threaten cheating or moving out? Do I stop doing chores around his house? Need advice.

2007-06-25 08:45:59 · 18 answers · asked by gardener411 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A guy that I've dated (he asked me out) and have been sleeping with for the past 2 years just told me he didn't find me attractive. I consider myself very attractive-e.g. blond hair, blue eyes, skinny, sexy body, dress sexy etc. And many men find me attractive. Nobody has ever told me this before. So I am confused about the definition of attraction. Then I asked him, "So there are even men out there who would find a hottie like Jessica Alba not attractive?" And he said yes. He said beauty is in the eye of the beholder/is subjective. Is this true-that each of us find different people (e.g. their face and body) attractive? I feel I have all the standard/typical physical qualities that a man would consider attractive in a woman. And I don't think he would have dated and had sex with me all those times if he didn't find me attractive. So I don't understand why he would say something like this.

2007-06-25 08:44:12 · 11 answers · asked by Citygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

If you are having a black tie wedding do that mean you do not wear a hat even the brides mother ,secondly when invitations are being sent out you do NOT send invitations to the two sets of parents or siblings on each side of the family that is automatic I am referring to the traditional wedding .

2007-06-25 08:42:12 · 9 answers · asked by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 in Weddings

Time and again I read women on here stating the fact that it is "on the inside that matters".That is such a crock of dung. You NEVER see a good looking woman dating some short, fat, balding loser, with shabby clothes and no money. You women are just as shallow ( if not more ) than men.When asked on here what attracts you all the women say cute, well dressed, muscular. Why can't you just be honest?

2007-06-25 08:25:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Going camping with my boyfriend and maybe a couple of his friends. Taking his boat out on the lake and fishing/swimming/getting some sun, toasting marshmallows, roasting hot dogs. Sleeping under the stars, playing some music, talking and just hanging out. Just for Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon. What do you think?

2007-06-25 08:25:23 · 23 answers · asked by ♥Infatuation 3 in Singles & Dating

what can i do in my relationship to make it more exciting? I give my boyfriend massages, but i want to do more to make the relationship more exciting and fun so we are both happy when we're with each other.

2007-06-25 08:23:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend of only 3 months lived in PA and was about to get evicted, everyday tellin me how he hates his job and dont have enough money to pay the bills after child support. So he decides he is gonna quit his job with no notice. I told him I didnt mind him coming to live with me in WV but make sure he really wanted to quit his job. After the first few weeks and his kids (ages 5,13,13,18) visiting. It was overwhelming he didnt have a birth certificate so no quick job, we had the cable upgraded and now no money for that, he was denied unemployment, everything was overwhelming and it got the best of me. So I told him that I thought it was best we call it quits and he could stay with family . I felt bad but he was gonna be evicted anyway. Now he blames me for not having a job and said that I was wrong, but he really shouldnt have assumed so much when we didnt know each of for such a short time. OK! there are more details but with these alone was I wrong for callin it quits early?

2007-06-25 08:22:25 · 2 answers · asked by suzzybella68 1 in Singles & Dating

I have heard of a book called Men are Just Desserts.

I guess the idea is, to get women not to be dependant at all on having a man.

The idea seems to be, after a woman has already solved all of her problems and basic hurdles in life, getting along socially, getting and keeping a good job, finding an adequate place to live etc...

Than! The reward is - She gets a man, because then she is the most capable to have the relationship. She then has enough independence ( her car, her own job, confidence, etc ) to be happy within the relationship.

What do you think of this book? is my question.

2007-06-25 08:21:59 · 9 answers · asked by smoothsoullady 4 in Marriage & Divorce

How does somebody get saved?

2007-06-25 08:19:12 · 16 answers · asked by bloodline7777 1 in Friends