Seeking self confidence and self esteem. ?

Question

Im a female, 14 year old. And i dont really have a high self confidence or self esteem but i was just wondering if anyone can give me any advise for me to boost my confidence ..
Any advise that you may wish to give, i will be most gratefull for.
Thanks for taking the time to read is.
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Answer 1

find something you love to do...throw yourself into it...develop the talent and you'll find happiness and confidence. ie. art.

Answer 2

The great thing is, you're only 14 hon, and you've got tons of time to develop who you are! It's not uncommon to feel this way (especially us girls, right?). Use your talents and abilities to develop who you are. If you like to draw, enter art shows! If you write, then write your heart out. You can be anything you want to be, and don't let anyone ever tell you that you can't do something, or be something. Be your own person too, don't go with the crowd, even though that may seem hard. I wasn't the most confident person as a teenager either, it is definitely a trying time, especially for females. Don't let anyone or anything get you down. And the best thing to do? Keep your head up, and a smile on your face, that, at least shows that you're confident, although you may not feel that way. Everything will be just fine! Have a good one!

Answer 3

First of all, 14 is a hard age. I'm 24 now and I remember how much I hated that age. You're not a kid anymore and not quite an adult. Let me tell you a story...
My father was in the military and at 13 we moved overseas. A few weeks at my new school and I got into a fight with the most popular girl in school. I was shunned out of the "cool" crowd. At the time it seemed like the end of the world. It mattered to me sooo much what the other kids thought of me. I ended up making friends with two of the most genuine people I've ever met. We had the best times together. In the back of my mind, though, I always wanted back into the "cool" crowd. A couple of yrs goes by and we move back to the states.
Fast forward to now...I always kept my grades up and continued to college after high school. I'm about to graduate with a degree and I will go on to get my Masters. I was able to find a lot of the "cool" people from my old high school on Myspace and guess what? They haven't done anything with their lives. They are all, I hate to say it but, losers!
Here's my advice... Keep your head up! Don't let anyone make you feel less than what you are. Self confidence comes from knowing who you are and what you stand for and being proud of it. Don't give in to peer pressure. Last but not least, just be you. As you get older you will find that the self confidence issues become easier to handle. I think at some point in our lives everybody goes through what you are going through.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Even though I am a man and 35 years old I have a 14 year old daughter who went through that. The main thing to remember is that confidence and esteem are found within. Nobody can take them from you unless you want them to. If you project that and don't let anyone make you feel less than it will only improve. Just remember that if you walk the walk people will see you leading by example and follow that lead. Before you know it you will be in a completely different emotional state.

Answer 5

Read the Great Gatsby and "learn"...spend the next 7 years becoming the person you want to be...poised, articulate, well mannered, well dressed, versed in etiquette, polite, a good listener and physically fit. 7 years is plenty of time to accomplish this and what you'll find is that by the time you're 21 you won't have to worry about self-esteem...jealously from your female friends and a stick to fight off all the men maybe, but not an issue of low self-esteem.

Answer 6

One sure way to regain confidence is to believe that u as a person or human being possesses a feature, a uniqueness that no one else can claim; but is really up to u to develop that feature the best of ability. also u must remember that no matter how low u think of urself there are ppl out there who truly wish they have wht u got , it either is ur health , ur smile , ur physical standpoint , the way u conduct urself , ur humility etc...i will assume from ur post alone that u have a great sense of humor used to ur advantage. U GOING TO BE JUST FIND.
best of luck!!!

Answer 7

Don't look at anyone else for a standard of yourself. Find confidence in the things that make you likeable, unique, and talented. If you don't think you have a talent then try different things sports, hobbies, etc to figure out what you can do. Feed off of that for confidence. You also have to do a bit of soul searching to figure out who you are and be at peace with that.

Answer 8

I went through the same thing when I was that age and I am now sixteen and I have a good level of self esteem!!! You just have to find it in your self!!! People cant make you like your self!!! In time you will start to love your self!!!!

Answer 9

Try to see the bright side of things. Surround yourself with positive people and things. Devolp a hobby. Think about good memories and create new ones.

Answer 10

Quit caring what other people think. For the most part, any people you meet out in public won't know you and will likely never see you again. Do what makes you happy and care less about who is watching.

Answer 11

first above all else dont listen to other people that say bad things or try to bring you down. but, you do need to do first is belive in yourself and have pride in yourself. that will reflect out for everyone to see. now you are young teen and i know teen pressure and how teens can be mean sometimes. i know i was one once. but carry yourself in a nice manner and get your hair done and nails and you will feel better and that will also shine out. good luck