Family & Relationships - 25 June 2007

My wife and I have been having problemd for a bout 6 months.

We've been trying to conceive or adopt, have had many stresses and generally have not been getting along on this subject.

Recently, I 've noticed her becoming secretive, distant, our sex life has suffred, we been bickering and I became suspicious. So, I installed a spyware program on our computer and was able to gain access into her e-mail.
I discovered correspondances with a couple of her girlfriends where she was discussing a crushon a married co-worker.
I admitted what I had done and how I gathered the information and confronted her. While there has been no action on this crush, there has been a flirtation that has gone on for a coupe months.
She feels that she has done nothing wrong by having this crush/flirtation and feels I have crossed a line. I contend that while my behavior is certainly worthy of an apology, I fear for my marriage (which is in trouble) and am just trying to gain answers.

Am I over reacting?

2007-06-25 06:59:51 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

One of my guy friends said "I wanna lick you in the nuts." Then he said he meant "kick." I'm grossed out.

2007-06-25 06:57:45 · 1 answers · asked by swbl89 1 in Singles & Dating

Why is it that females who have bad men or no man at all are the first people to tell you about your relationship? This is something that is really startimg to piss me off!

2007-06-25 06:54:53 · 2 answers · asked by shasha 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Theres this guy in my neighborhood. He's really cute and one day he told me he liked me. Now i find dat hard to believe cuz he flirts with girls non-stop. But, NYWAYZ, theres this shortcut in my neighborhood and i use it to go home. And one day he followed me there and we started makin out. well, he tried to get me to go to his house 1 time but i couldnt tell him no. Luckily my dad called and i had to go in. What should i do??

2007-06-25 06:51:41 · 8 answers · asked by cutie with a bootie 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-25 06:50:58 · 17 answers · asked by possessed Regan 4 in Singles & Dating

I have this guy friend who is extremely shy but tries his hardest to over come it... but .. he confuses me alot.

I try really hard to not read into things.. but the signals he sends are just too complicated.

We went out for coffee last week and all he wanted to talk about was marriage!! The last time we were out thats all he talked about as well.. the weird thing is.. we're not that good of friends.. I was telling one of our mutual friends (who is a girl) that when ever we're out the subject of relationships gets brought up everytime! She said that was odd because she's known him longer and he has never talked to her about those kinds of things.

So guys... do you generally just want to talk about marriage? Or, is a guy trying to feel you out?? or is he just anxious and feels like he can talk to me?

2007-06-25 06:50:47 · 6 answers · asked by Hannah Leigh 2 in Singles & Dating

He is divorced and had an affair during his marriage. He has not cheated on me, but did cheat on his last girlfriend (who was the one he had the affair with) who still wants him back. I caught him in a lie about her. Also, we live 2 hours away, but we see each other every weekend, and he has been really wonderful and open, but I just can't seem to completely trust him. Are some people just not trustworthy, or can people change?

2007-06-25 06:49:49 · 9 answers · asked by muffingirl 1 in Singles & Dating

My bf has had to go to physical therapy(PT) and there he saw this girl that he thought would be a good girl for our roomate to go out with. He mentioned this to me today saying that she's cute, attractive. He said they have been talking when he's there b/c she's his PT.He also said that she's been flirting with him. I got so jealous when he told me this. I don't know why, he wanted to hook her up with our roomate not him. He also mentioned that she ask him if he had any plans for the weekend and she just moved here. I asked him if he told her that he has a gf, bc just asking her if she would like to go out with his friend might be a little weird. he said no! I don't know how to take this. he told me that he loves me. why am i so jealous?? Should I be?? This makes me sorta loose confidence in our love/relationship. HELP ME PLEASE!

2007-06-25 06:48:39 · 19 answers · asked by pink 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-25 06:47:10 · 8 answers · asked by Robert Young 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok there is this boy i went out with for 3 years and the only reason i went out with him was cause he was lame but kinda cute.i broke up with him 3 times to and the only reason we got back together was cause i felt realy realy bad he would go home and cry to his mom like all night.and now we are broken up for good but we are so called friend but he never wants to talk to me.he makes me feel so bad do i just tell him get out of my life and move on or will it brake his heart?

2007-06-25 06:45:18 · 38 answers · asked by TayTay 2 in Singles & Dating

We are eloping in a few months, and the family is throwing a party for us after we get back from Vegas. I have a friend that I've known forever, but we go stretches where we lose touch because of moving, life, etc. I havn't talked to her in a couple years but I always consider her to be one of my best friends because I've known her over 20 years and we grew up together. The thing is she has one of those personalities where she can do things that embarrass me when we go out. I'm not talking like table manners, but like throwing a hissy fit or starting a fight in a restaurant or bar. I'm afraid someone will say the wrong thing at our party and she will fly off the handle! Should I invite her anyway or just let it go, since I havn't talked to her in a while anyway? I dont want her to be hurt that I invited others but not her, but I dont want her to embarrass me in front of my "new" family! Anyone have experience with this?

2007-06-25 06:41:13 · 12 answers · asked by Dig It 6 in Weddings

I just started going out with my bf and Ive met his friends and family and they are all really sweet. The problem is that now I have to introduce him to my friends. I was very shy in high school and didnt start making friends until college, its summer now so all of my friends went home far away so I cant introduce him to them. Even then, they arent like best friends cuz Ive only known them for a little while. I have a few friedns at home but they arent best friends either. I can introduce them to him, but Im worried that it will be ackward, or that my friends just dont care who I go out with or care about me at all really. I guess, since I moved a lot and I have trust issues its hard for me to get close to people. I wish I had more close friends to introduce him to. If any one else had gone through this, please tell me how you did it. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks!

2007-06-25 06:41:08 · 28 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-25 06:40:17 · 19 answers · asked by possessed Regan 4 in Singles & Dating

A pretty good friend of mine is getting married this weekend and I (like most guys) have not even thought of what to get them. I need something that they will be able to use and is really unique and personal and (as bad as it sounds) as cheap as possible I am hurting for money right now. PLEASE HELP ME!

2007-06-25 06:39:31 · 18 answers · asked by copter_180 2 in Weddings

in our country, it is a big deal to introduce your girl/boy to your family. what will you do and how will you feel if your boy neglects to do that???

2007-06-25 06:35:48 · 37 answers · asked by crazy_kingkong 1 in Family

Been nice to someone and then asked yourself why you even bothered to try?

2007-06-25 06:33:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-06-25 06:31:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i was with someone for almost 3 years and just last month she wanted to date other people and she has been hanging out with this guy and they just started dating a few days ago. i would do anything to get her back in my arms but i dont know how to approach when i should call her or when i shouldnt please help me i cant sleep even after a month im still in pain and agony.

2007-06-25 06:31:01 · 2 answers · asked by d_smugglin86 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

He and I are both over 40 and the term "boyfriend" sounds like we're teenagers or 20 somethings. I don't care for "lovers" because it connotes an illicit relationship or the term "significant other" because it just sounds too cold and impersonal. The word "partner" is often used by homosexual couples which, of course, we're not.

Can anyone come up with creative ideas?

2007-06-25 06:30:19 · 24 answers · asked by susandiane311 5 in Singles & Dating

every guy i like ends up just liking me as a friend and every guy that ends up liking me is nasty or scarey.is there still hope for me?

2007-06-25 06:29:25 · 11 answers · asked by Andy Terror 2 in Singles & Dating

the time we had was the best i ever had cos i felt like everything was complete , even though she travels alot i know how much i care about her . any and everything i can do for her i done and beyond.i flew to see her after her birthday to find out she was seeing someone else. she kept telling me nothing was happening and she loved me .cos she knew i have trust issues from my last relationship . now she avoids every chance we have to talk she never replys to my messages and even took me off her friends list .
i feel so betrayed but i still want her back cos i feel like nothing matters without her. if she wont talk to me is it cos she feels guilty or that she simply dosent care enough about what we had .
i dont know if i want to get revenge or kill myself caus i see no other way. either way i am not the man i was before. can you help me?

2007-06-25 06:27:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-06-25 06:27:27 · 4 answers · asked by ramramram m 1 in Singles & Dating

like the young 14 15 16 year old girls.... i mean seriously thats soo wrong.... u hear about these old guys goin and producing child porn sites like gogomoms.com and stuff like that.... whats everybodys opinion?

and btw if anybodys wondering... im 15... so dont call me a pedo or somtim

2007-06-25 06:26:43 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's been 2 days, I added my crush into my yahoo messenger list (his email address is hotmail)...but why till now, I didnt receive any report from yahoo, whether he accepted or refused my invitation?
does it mean he ''ignored'' my invitation or he wasn't online till now? how do i know???
people...please tell me, I keep thinking bout it.
Thank you...
PS: he was my classmate, now our class is over...n he's back to his country..n if it's mean to be...in October we're going to study in the same town. I hope so...

2007-06-25 06:25:58 · 6 answers · asked by Vivienne 4 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been dating 4 1/2 years. We are high school sweethearts and go to the same college now as well. During my boyfriends junior year of college we got an apartment together because he needed to get away from his parents who use money to control everything he does. He paid for school and everything all on his own so they couldn't control him. This year I decided that the apartment wasn't working out because we were just spending too much time together and my grades weren't good enough so I am moving back home in a week and he has already moved back home. The problem is his Mom won't let him spend any time with me. He is 21 years old and a college student. I don't find it inappropriate to be going on trips and sleeping over his girl friends house of 4 years. If we were going to have sex we would just do it anyway. Sleeping over isn't going to make it more likely. His dad doesn't care about what he does as long as he's successf but his mom stresses his dad out

2007-06-25 06:24:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriends father has been ill for several years. He waits on edge every day worried that hes going to get the phonecall that hes passed on. He was supposed to call me yesterday but he didnt. I tried ringing him several times today & got frustrated that I couldnt get hold of him- sent him several not so nice texts to let him know. I felt like I was being ignored & I couldnt figure out why.

I eventually got a text from him saying that his Dad went in to the hospital with a stroke. I feel AWFUL. I didn't know at all that this was wrong. I had known I wouldnt have been so peed off I couldnt get hold of him. He also said that he thinks we should just forget about this relationship. I texted him back & said I didnt know what was wrong, how was I supposed to & that I was sorry. He texted back to say he'll talk to me later that he wasn't in the mood right now. Do you think I've messed it all up? Things were going SO well and we both love each other. Does he just need time to calm down?

2007-06-25 06:24:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I started seeing a new person a few weeks ago that i met at a deli. She's right on the edge of age that i would consider dating. I'm29 and she's 23. So, with that i have told her a little about my past and have introduced her to some friends and family. (We spent the entire day sat. joy riding on one of my families boats.) I however didn't tell her i was once married and that i had 2 kids either. I didn't think it was any of her business b/c i didn't know where this would go. Ex. Friends or Girlfriend. She lives in a different town and has just moved from a different state. She found out about the kids and that i was married through my niece this past weekend. She asked why i didn't say anything so i told her that i didn't know where we stood and i don't put my business out there for everyone. I consider that i'm not looking for some to replace their mother at all- she could never be replaced. So i didn't want her to have that impression either. I love my kids and aren't ashamed.

2007-06-25 06:23:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and the love of my life have been together for almost 3 years now, we live together have pets together, and we have tossed around the idea of getting married to the point that he randomly around the house calls me his wife and little stuff like that. However almost his entire family has had atleast 1 divorce so he shy's away when it actually comes down to asking me to marry him or plan a wedding. I would like to formally ask him, so we can actaully plan this and do it, however I don't want him to feel like less then a guy. He is very old school, "tuff guy" auto mechanic kind of guy so I don't want to make him feel pressured and I am scared he would say "no" if I just ask him at dinner or something.

2007-06-25 06:22:28 · 13 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Weddings

we have not lived together for 6 years I know the city where he is at, but cant find a address he lives with anyone who will let him stay,mainly girls. any help would be appreciated

2007-06-25 06:21:06 · 15 answers · asked by Pearl P 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-25 06:20:47 · 6 answers · asked by rae rae rae 1 in Marriage & Divorce