I started seeing a new person a few weeks ago that i met at a deli. She's right on the edge of age that i would consider dating. I'm29 and she's 23. So, with that i have told her a little about my past and have introduced her to some friends and family. (We spent the entire day sat. joy riding on one of my families boats.) I however didn't tell her i was once married and that i had 2 kids either. I didn't think it was any of her business b/c i didn't know where this would go. Ex. Friends or Girlfriend. She lives in a different town and has just moved from a different state. She found out about the kids and that i was married through my niece this past weekend. She asked why i didn't say anything so i told her that i didn't know where we stood and i don't put my business out there for everyone. I consider that i'm not looking for some to replace their mother at all- she could never be replaced. So i didn't want her to have that impression either. I love my kids and aren't ashamed.
2007-06-25 06:23:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of them. My marriage was a bad one. One that i would love to forget. A lot of wasted years. Do you think i was wrong for not saying anything when i didn't know where this was going? She's cool with it and the reason why i didn't say anything but glad that she knows now. Another thing is that i told her that we could leave somethings in the past. Am i right for saying this? We have so much in common. She feels totally safe and comfortible when with me as i do her. We are taking it pretty slow but at the same time we are just a lot alike. What is your option?
2007-06-25 06:27:06 · update #1
you're doing the right thing by not jumping into a relationship. if she's not mad that you didn't tell her, and is accepting the fact that you were married and have 2 children, i dont know what exactly your asking...you seem to have it figured out, i'm not sure what you need answered??
2007-06-25 06:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by lysh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't want to date other people with kids; nothing wrong with that. I guess she could've asked too. At 29 nowadays, a lot of people have kids.
2007-06-25 13:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have just told her from the start regardless of where you two stood. This is going to reflect her thoughts about you now. Just be yourself from day one and hold nothing back.
2007-06-25 13:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by One_Of_A_Kind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is crissy i think i have an answer to your problem just try spending more time with her or u could play 20 questions and ask her what you want to know
2007-06-25 13:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Crissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...If you expect any future with this gf, you need to tell her about your kids...
2007-06-25 13:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your question is???? you sound like a player to me
2007-06-25 13:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋