I just started going out with my bf and Ive met his friends and family and they are all really sweet. The problem is that now I have to introduce him to my friends. I was very shy in high school and didnt start making friends until college, its summer now so all of my friends went home far away so I cant introduce him to them. Even then, they arent like best friends cuz Ive only known them for a little while. I have a few friedns at home but they arent best friends either. I can introduce them to him, but Im worried that it will be ackward, or that my friends just dont care who I go out with or care about me at all really. I guess, since I moved a lot and I have trust issues its hard for me to get close to people. I wish I had more close friends to introduce him to. If any one else had gone through this, please tell me how you did it. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks!
2007-06-25 06:41:08 · 28 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's alright, my gf does not have many friends, so its no big deal. Your family would be most important for him to meet.
2007-06-25 06:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your bf how you feel about not having any close friends to introduce him to, and maybe he won't mind. If you decide to introduce someone to him, try to find out if any of your friends have anything in common with your bf and go do something together to break the ice.
Besides, at this stage in your relationship, it's more important to get closer to your bf, learn more about eachother and let the relationship grow. The friends can be an issue a little later on, right?
2007-06-25 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mike the Fireman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you're kind of in the same situation I am in now. I moved around a lot and don't have many close friends, and the man I am dating has a few friends but none of them live around here. There is one other couple that we interact with on a pretty regular basis; otherwise, it's just the two of us.
Is he pressuring you to meet your friends, or do you feel obligated because you met his friends? Explain to him that you don't have a lot of close friends, and the ones you do have are away for the summer. The people you should introduce him to are the ones that you associate with on a regular basis. Otherwise, there is no rule that says he must meet your friends, unless the group of you are going to be spending time together. And if you don't think the people you are friends with really are your friends, I wouldn't continue associating with them. If they make you feel awkward or that they don't care about you, they aren't your friends anyway.
2007-06-25 13:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I understand that it is very hard to make friends now a days. Don't be embarrassed, just tell him exactly what you said in your question. Tell him the truth and be honest, and should should understand and respect that, if he doesn't then hes probably not right for you. I have been in the same place ten years and have one best friend, sometimes people are shady and turn out to not be the type of people who care about others, so its ok that you don't have friends to introduce him to.
2007-06-25 13:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain your current friend situation to him...he'll understand. Otherwise, just introduce him to acquaintances as you run into people when you're with him! And if you make a trip back home, take him with you...to meet your parents and hopefully you'll run into some old friends while at home! All of us go through stages in life after going to college or moving to a new town where we don't know many people and it can some of us longer than others to really build up a good group of friends...so don't fret! I have a feeling you'll meet many great friends through him, his friends and their girlfriends!
2007-06-25 13:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a big deal, you don't have to introduce him to anyone, be up front, tell him you didn't have to many people around you in high school or college, or now there your in college they are too far away for you to meet. he should understand or think nothing of it. Its really not a big deal. but if you do go out with friends from home just bring your boyfriend with you, and introduce him, not a big deal. it would be like a casual night out.
2007-06-25 13:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by stephied323 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he will just have to understand that and accept you as you are or leave you now! You gotta communicate and tell him the truth about things sometime right... Just tell him as you told us... he should understand! If he doesnt... well, hes a loser then! But, you always have your family to introduce him to! That may be scary though.... Lol. In my case, my bf's family is all fanily oriented and has money, etc, etc... So I was kinda embarassed to take him to meet my party animal, disfunctional, just barely makin it by family!! But, hey thats part of who I am, and I love them all! He will either accept them or not! But, he did... he likes them... if he didnt and was talking bad about them to me, then we might have a problem!!! My family is great even though they are all i mentioned above!! I would do anything for any of them! Sorry, Im babbling! Lol... Good Luck!!
2007-06-25 13:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have just made one of the most important friends in your life so far. Enjoy. Why worry over something so trivial as to the quality or quantity of your friends. If you make one really good friend in your life, you are a success. I got lucky, I met a young lady who was a co worker, then a friend, then my best friend, then my wife. 23 years later, she is still my wife and my best friend. What more do you need?
2007-06-25 13:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. My girlfriend introduced me to her large family and millions of friends when we started dating over a year ago. I to was very shy and have a very small family. I intruduced her to my small family. I introducted her to my few friends when ever the time came to do so. Now I have many friends and even a bigger family.
2007-06-25 13:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by wurm_15136 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it to much..... if you happen to run into any of your friends, then introduce him, other wise just enjoy him and the relationship..... if he ask about friends, just explain to him about the moving around a lot and the whys behind not having close friends in your life..... it is realy no big deal......... God bless
2007-06-25 13:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also moved around alot. and I know it is hard to make new friends, when you know you will be moving agin. But the way I see it is, if this guys likes you at all, it won't matter to him how many friends you have. I'm sure he will understand. But also try to tell him ahead of time. Maybe he wont want to meet them at all. And that way you have less stress to deal with. Just tell him your story, and see if he still wants to meet them. If he does, then you know it wont matter to him if they like him or not. I mean like you said, They're not your BEST FRIENDS. good luck!
2007-06-25 13:48:04 · answer #11 · answered by Blazed-n-Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋