My boyfriends father has been ill for several years. He waits on edge every day worried that hes going to get the phonecall that hes passed on. He was supposed to call me yesterday but he didnt. I tried ringing him several times today & got frustrated that I couldnt get hold of him- sent him several not so nice texts to let him know. I felt like I was being ignored & I couldnt figure out why.
I eventually got a text from him saying that his Dad went in to the hospital with a stroke. I feel AWFUL. I didn't know at all that this was wrong. I had known I wouldnt have been so peed off I couldnt get hold of him. He also said that he thinks we should just forget about this relationship. I texted him back & said I didnt know what was wrong, how was I supposed to & that I was sorry. He texted back to say he'll talk to me later that he wasn't in the mood right now. Do you think I've messed it all up? Things were going SO well and we both love each other. Does he just need time to calm down?
2007-06-25 06:24:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he loves you, he'll contact you. Leave him alone for a while, he has a lot to deal with right now.
2007-06-25 06:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he just needs time to calm down. even though ive never had this problem with my boyfriend, i hve gotten pretty upset when i couldnt get ahold of my best friend, and also sent her some not so nice texts when she never answered her phone or decided to ignore me or whatever. but then it all turned out okay, so i think you just need to be there for him and try not to feel ignored, because im sure he wasnt doing that on purpose, and kind of let him cool down from all the stress he's going through. if you guys really love each other, you'll make it through to the end strongly!
2007-06-25 06:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's facing a tragedy and feels like he's losing so much already! Give him some space. If you send him a text at all, just tell him that you're thinking about him and let him know that you are there to talk when he's ready...and then wait for the call!!! Good luck, but the last thing he needs right now is a pushy girlfriend!!
2007-06-25 06:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends on what you said in the text.....
and also, he needs time to be with his family.. his father is ill, may not make it.. and is prob real depressed.. what you can do is send a card to his family at the home, tell them you hope everythin will turn out and that you are around to help in any way.. and maybe send his mom some flowers.. show him that you truly care about his family and you are NOT giving up on them... call him and tell him you are truly sorry for what you said, that you love him, and will be there for him.. even get hime a card separatley from his mom and father and write in it what you feel.. from the heart..if the relationship doesnt work out, at least you know that you supported his family thru everything, and im sure they will appreciate all youve done.. and things will most likely turn out in the end... give him time....
2007-06-25 06:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely give him time and space. He's obviously very hurt about his dad. But after maybe even a week or to try calling him n talking it out if he hasnt called you already. But wait for him to call first if he doesnt then after awhile you call. let him know that your still there n your sorry it was a miisstkake n that you had no idea. See how things go from there. Good luck.
2007-06-25 06:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Streetluv919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just a bit emotional right now. If i were you, just let him know that you are sorry, that you will give him a bit of space but that you are there for him if he needs you. I think he will be ok, esp. if you have told him how sorry you are. We all say things we don't mean when we are angry, i certainly have done myself in the early stages of my relationship and we have now been together for 8 yrs and married for 1 yr even tho i was a bit of a cow at times! So just hang in there! I think it will be fine, it might be that he realises just how much he needs you if his dad is ill and something happens...
2007-06-25 06:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Proudnewmummy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him cool off. Maybe send some flowers to hospital or if his mother is around send her something etc..
Be thoughtful and patient, as his father deserves this time and you really should not intrude...sounds harsh, but men can only focus on one thing at a time.
You need to be zero drama and 100% helpful. Even if that means just staying out of sight.....
Hard I know,,,,,but good luck..
2007-06-25 06:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other I dont think one bad day on both your parts will make a difference in the long run. Just be there for him, he's hurting and he needs to you to be selfless and be there for him right now. Sometimes we have to put aside our own needs for someone we love...when he stronger he will be able to pour into you more. Thats the awesome thing about relationships - they go back and forth - sometimes you have to be the strong and sacrificial one and sometimes you get to be the weak and needy one! Just remind him that you know you made a mistake, that you love him and that whatever he needs from you right now you will give. Good luck to you both.
2007-06-25 06:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would go and talk to him, explain your self to him, I think he might need you in this hard time.
Each person deals with death in differnt ways, some get angry some get sad some get depressed, some it seems not to bother (still hurts but does not let it show!)
I think he does need you. But if you do meet him and he dont want to talk you have no choice but to give him a few days to 'heal'
I KNOW he is not DEAD yet but, that is what he thinks is going to happen.....
So just try your best to eithre give him his space or help him out.....
2007-06-25 06:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Adam D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a bit not himself with his father at the hospital. Leave him for w hile. If he loves you as you said, he will come back to you. Try not to over react the next time. Hope it will turn ok for you 2.
2007-06-25 06:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by marga_bam23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and space. He`s in a bad place right now. Offer your support without crowding him. If the relationship is strong it`ll survive this.
2007-06-25 06:28:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋