Question is not about whether you did or not but about if you have been in a situation where you seriously thought about it in the last year. I would just like to know how common it is. I am 34 and married with kids. I have been working with a lady over the past 8 months and have had real thoughts about having an afair for the first time in 12 years of marriage.
2007-06-25 08:57:32 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All the time, dude. Now, you'll most likely get a lot of responses on here that get all high and mighty and will reek of moral righteousness. We are human beings. We were created as sexual creatures. It is all this false construct of society that tells us to deny that animal part of us. The point is, IMHO, there are 2 types of people in this world that are in committed relationships: those that have thought of stepping out and those that have lied about it to themselves. I can't believe that seeing another person that catches our eye won't give us the even momentary thought of ....hmmm, wonder what that is like. Now, whether or not we act on that is another question and was your question. I don't think that we as humans were meant to be monogamous.
2007-06-25 09:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about it, but once was enough. The damage control efforts are so extensive and difficult to take care of that it is not worth the fun and excitement that I know would be benefits. The kicker is you think you won't get caught but something almost always goes different than you expected and the risk is just too great.
2007-06-25 09:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Toosense3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been with my husband for type of 18 years (married 10 of those). i presumed approximately it interior the initiating yet found out what i might lose & the soreness it might reason my husband to boot as myself. on each occasion the stray concept entered my head, I remembered that & never acted on it or perhaps gave it yet another concept. i haven't even concept approximately it for no less than 12 years. What I surely have is in basic terms too invaluable. it may well be like giving up a diamond ring for one I have been given from a gumball device.
2016-12-08 18:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on it dude. An hour of fun is not worth a lifetime of regret. Sure, people have feelings. But talk it over w/the wife. See what she says. After throwing stuff at you. Is she not doing something? Time to re-evaluate. Dont give up on her. Fight through this. Dont be stereotypical.
2007-06-25 09:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I have not and if you are having thoughts about any woman besides your wife you have already basically cheated on her. I agree with the person that said you need to separate yourself from your coworker. I feel the same way because My fiance works with so many he says are cute and it bugs me....
2007-06-25 09:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Paula C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three to four times. I think more single women are looking at married men, why I don't know
2007-06-25 09:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the women will say no never thought about, the men will admit to it and say yes, married 37 years ,i think about almost daily but know better
2007-06-25 09:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have thought about it and have met someone who I think about doing it with. People who are not in the situation should not judge. Feel free to e-mail if you want to tallk about it.
2007-06-25 09:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by oursnowbaby32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah, i'm secretly in love with someone. but deep down i could never leave my husband. so i just enjoy the feeling.if he asked me out, i would be so tempted. but that saying (better the devil you know". and you have kids. better not to do it, that's my objective advice.
2007-06-25 09:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Knowledge is Power. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought about it? Yes.
2007-06-25 09:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋