A guy that I've dated (he asked me out) and have been sleeping with for the past 2 years just told me he didn't find me attractive. I consider myself very attractive-e.g. blond hair, blue eyes, skinny, sexy body, dress sexy etc. And many men find me attractive. Nobody has ever told me this before. So I am confused about the definition of attraction. Then I asked him, "So there are even men out there who would find a hottie like Jessica Alba not attractive?" And he said yes. He said beauty is in the eye of the beholder/is subjective. Is this true-that each of us find different people (e.g. their face and body) attractive? I feel I have all the standard/typical physical qualities that a man would consider attractive in a woman. And I don't think he would have dated and had sex with me all those times if he didn't find me attractive. So I don't understand why he would say something like this.
2007-06-25 08:44:12 · 11 answers · asked by Citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does seem a little warped given his history with you, that is for certain.
But he is right. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And some men would choose a Jordin Sparks or Kate Dillon type over Jessica Alba any day and vise versa.
2007-06-25 08:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think ur boyfriend is just over u , and it has nothing to do with ur attraction or not. Its very true that different guys like different girls but is not always the case, they're some girls out there who all the guys or at least majority of the guy find attractive.
There are very few guys out there who dont find jessica alba attractive. my advice to u is to stay confident , u will find someone who appreciates u more.
2007-06-25 15:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Thedream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder and what one person finds beautiful, another might not. Your boyfriend might not find you physically attractive, but there's something about you that he does find attractive. Otherwise, why would he have asked you out in the first place?
2007-06-25 15:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although it is true that every person has a different definition of what they find 'attractive', attractiveness is about more than just looks. it has to do with the way you carry yourself, how confident you are, etc. he could find your interactions with him unattractive. are you being to pushy or needy? can he sense some insecurity on your end? do you trust each other? all of these things can affect a person's attractiveness in the eyes of their partner.
if he doesn't find you attractive, why are you two continuing to date? to borrow from my favorite sex columnist, DTMFA (dump the mofo already)! you deserve someone who thinks you're the hottest thing that ever walked the earth.
2007-06-25 15:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by aoisora05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok-obviously he had to have found you attractive to ask you out...so that is bull. Yes, there are men who have different taste. My husband thinks skinny blondes are very unattractive, I also have a friend who has a huge crush on Rikki Lake-pre diet...so there are people out there for everyone. It sounds like he LOST attraction, and that could be for many reasons. He could be seeing someone else, he could have just lost interest, or maybe he felt like things were either going to have to progress or stop. Either way, it sounds like it's his problem, not yours, and love is not superficial, so just let it go.
2007-06-25 15:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Justin&Oliviasmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question....
When you see a 300+lb woman walking with a 150 lb guy who is pushing a stroller........When and how did that ever look good?!
Now as for you......
Blonde hair, blue eyes, petite..........
Maybe your B/F is just tired of you, or he has seen some greener grass on the other side of the fence.
Just be glad that you haven't had any children to someone who wanted to cut out after two years.
The Rat
2007-06-25 15:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so attractiveness varys for each person
2007-06-25 15:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by PhatCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Citygirl, Some people just like to hurt others. My x wife pulled that line on me too ! So don"t worry hon we both have had close encounters with "nasty" people. To be honest the most beautiful body part is the heart ! So darlin don"t be angry or bitter put a smile on your pretty face and be happy to be free.
2007-06-25 16:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being an a**!!!! He probably got his ego smashed somewhere along the line and wants to make you feel like shyt now too. You sound very attractive so don't listen to him. Kick his a** to the curb and move on to a guy who will truly appreciate you beauty,
2007-06-25 15:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is pissed at you and thinks that your personality is unattractive. Many people equate attractiveness with personality. By the sounds of you, you seem to be great. Who knows maybe he's into big booty girls? Seriously, who knows? Go right to the source and ask him what it is about you that HE thinks is unattractive. I wouldn't let it get me down. Maybe he's jealous!
2007-06-25 15:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋