Time and again I read women on here stating the fact that it is "on the inside that matters".That is such a crock of dung. You NEVER see a good looking woman dating some short, fat, balding loser, with shabby clothes and no money. You women are just as shallow ( if not more ) than men.When asked on here what attracts you all the women say cute, well dressed, muscular. Why can't you just be honest?
2007-06-25 08:25:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh dear Stepie Poo, I am not alone ( i'm juggling 4 women and dealing with a crazy exwife ). This is just something I have observed and was curious about. And the women are very beautiful I am juggling. Maybe you have a guilty conscience?
2007-06-25 08:50:19 · update #1
James , I will be the first to admit I'm shallow. Never disputed that fact. I just wanted to know why women don't admit it when they write all this nonsense about looks don't matter, they look for heart, personality , character , etc.
And all the women who say they like a bad boy that treats them good, doesn't exsist. He he treats you good he's not really a bad boy and you would just cheat on him and leave anyway.
2007-06-25 08:56:02 · update #2
Erin thanks for the honesty. But when was the last time you considered dating the guy that worked at a fast food resturant ( not the manager) or a Janitor?
2007-06-25 08:58:38 · update #3
June Heart that was honest thank you also, but do you deserve better or do you just think you do?
2007-06-25 09:00:42 · update #4
hannah - I'm not your date from last night , you have mistaken me for someone else. And please learn correct spelling and grammar. You are impressing anyone with you slang and you aren't that cool. You just come off as unintelligent and uneducated.
2007-06-26 02:56:16 · update #5
Well to me the inside is very important but looks is a factor also. A man must have something about him that attracts me to him. Whether it be his eyes or smile.. But something has to make me be interested in him..
Now if I work with someone that is not that attractive but I get to know him for him and he seems like something I want. I would put looks aside and date him for his personality.. Everyone is different.. If a guys has a perfect personality but is short and fat, I wouldnt not be interested in him because of things he can not help... Because I am not perfect and I have my own flaws..
2007-06-25 08:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by MonaLisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let me address this one by one.
Short: I have dated men shorter than me. I'm 5'4".
Fat: I've dated men that are on the soft side. One could even be considered fat during part of the time that I dated him.
Balding: More than one man I've dated has been bald or had thinning hair.
None of these qualities bother me.
Loser: It's all in the personality. If a person acts like a loser, they are not worth my attention.
Shabby clothes: If the clothes are well-worn, but clean, then that is fine. If the clothes are dirty and in disrepair, that person has no care for personal hygine or his appearance in general. If he cares so little for himself, why should I care for him?
No money: I am no one's mother. I am not going to support a man because he doesn't have the sense to get a job. I don't care if the guy's a CEO or works for McDonald's. The only thing money-wise that I care about is if he can take support himself financially.
That is honesty for you.
2007-06-25 08:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this question, even being a guy, is kinda bogus man... Think about it, what do you look for first in a woman?
When was the last time you saw any male hollywood start or abercrombie & fitch model dating some short, over-weight, loser chick? Never... so it goes both ways.
The whole idea of looks and the body is to ATTRACT the opposite sex... once your looks, health, face, hair, whatever it is that the woman or man is looking for has seen what they like in you, then its the inside that counts... but nobody respects or enjoys some scrub that doesnt take care of themselves... and that goes for dudes & chicks...
So the answer to your question is your question... what do you look for in a girl? - Chances are she's looking for the same in you... take care of yourself and dress to impress, the rest is fate and personal character.
2007-06-25 08:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, anyone who says that looks have no place in a relationship is lying. Its the first thing that attracts you to someone. But that doesn't mean that if you aren't attracted to them at first, you can't have the perfect relationship. What most women mean when they say that 'looks don't matter - it's what's on the inside that counts' is that looks aren't the defining factor of a relationship. If you lose your looks through age or disease, most women will be able to look beyond and continue to love.
2007-06-25 08:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by vanessamaypan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alright...looks are number one for me because I have to be attracted to a guy before I can be interested in getting to know him. I like a guy that takes care of himself and works out and has a nice body. I like a sorta bad boy but he treats me perfect. I like a guy that knows how to dress and what he looks good in. i love a guy with confidence thats number one for me..or wait number 2 haha. I want a guy with goals and a guy that can take care of me.
And the only time you'll see a hot girl with a fat, ugly bald guy is if he's rich...lol
2007-06-25 08:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by EMPRISSEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What we dont like are men who are bitter and alot of anger inside. I'm not a shrink and I dont plan to be one in a relationship.
It's true I want to be with someone who is cute and well-mannered because it appears they can take care of themselves. If a guy doesn't look good on the outside, then he represents himself as someone who cant take care of himself or doesn't care at all. I certainly wouldnt wanna be with a slob. I derserve more than that. We all deserve the best. You only live once.
2007-06-25 08:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bitter? Look, not all women are shallow just like not all men are a**holes! If a guy is good looking but he has a sh*tty attitude, then that makes him undesirable. So quit putting us all into the stereotype of shallow gold-diggers, maybe your bad attitude is the reason you're alone.
2007-06-25 08:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Physical attraction is the INITIAL attraction. I am good looking and married an ugly, overweight, poor guy and got cheated on. So I guess the trick is to just find a man who can keep it in his pants.
2007-06-25 08:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Vwgirl18 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It relies upon on the girl and the form of makeup she makes use of. i think of maximum look their ultimate with basically a tiny little bit of makeup, no longer sufficient so as that they do no longer look " organic ". some makeup designs, many times around the eyes look distinctly cool IMO.
2016-10-03 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by alarid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a 50/50 thing. i want him to be attractive (atleast to me) but it's also important that i like him on the inside too. i wouldn't date a jerk just because he was hot. and to be fair, i wouldn't date i guy i wasn't attracted to physically either.
2007-06-25 08:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋