Family & Relationships - 24 June 2007

After a 2 yr relationship me and my bf are now having a long term relationship after me coming to uni last sep...for the first few months everything was working really well...however since xmas he makes no effort anymore. I have spoken to him about it but nothing has changed..its always me phoning and although he is lovely with me, he just doesnt seem bothered to speak to me...we go 7-8 wks a time without seeing each other and when i do see him its like again hes not bothered..there is no big effort to see me straight away, no big hug an kiss when he sees me and its like he just expects me to slip into his life he lives when im at uni..its no different. We also hardly ever have sex and I jsut feel like he finds me unattractive..he says he does love me and want to be with me but i differ...i belive he would be making an effort when seeing me or phoning me more etc. I never get any random sweet messages like i used to and im finding it all very hard..its breaking my heart coz i love him

2007-06-24 09:19:41 · 11 answers · asked by H 2 in Singles & Dating

She is a house wife by choice, who complains about being stuck at home with the kids all day. SHe then complains that she has no adult interaction all day and when I get home from work I don't talk to her. She also complains that I don't help out enough around the house, but I get 2 of the 3 kids ready for bed everynight, I have a full time job which more than provides for my 5 person family, mortage payment, 2 cars, and all the extra crap she could ever want. money is never an issue so she spends as she pleases...

WHY IS SHE COMPLAINING ABOUT HER LIFE????

I told her to put the kids in day care if she's can't "handle it" and go back to work, she is educated and would have no problem finding a job.

so basically, I dont appreciate her house wife duties enough...I don't talk to her enough and she gets mad when I expect her to keep the house clean and change the babies diapers....

again, it was her idea to be a house wife...thus, its her job to take care of this stuff, right?

2007-06-24 09:18:16 · 20 answers · asked by Colbert Nation 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-24 09:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by Lilly L 4 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend who got engaged after only dating for a month or two. I'm afraid that they decided to get married when they were still in the lovey dovey phase, and now it seems to be waring off. Before he proposed, she was very affectionate, and now she's not anymore, and says that that's just the way she is. She just seems totally wrong for him. He wants constant affection, someone to cook for him, and he loves the outdoors and the heat. She seems cold and distant, isn't very affectionate, actually told her friends that he's a big kid who needs to grow up, she doesn't cook, she owns a restaurant, but won't even bring food home,works the opposite hrs that he does so they never spend time together, hates the heat. This is her 1st marriage & she's 40 and wants kids. It's his 3rd, he's 48, and doesn't want kids. I'm afraid she just sees this as her last chance. I want 2 b a good friend, but I'm not sure that supporting the marriage is the best way. He's been hitting on another woman too.

2007-06-24 09:14:08 · 25 answers · asked by Julie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I met this girl and asked her if she wanted to have dinner with me saturday and she said ok and seemed really happy. Come saturday i call her and she seems happy that i called but she tells me sunday... come sunday i call her and she doesn't pick up.

Should i just forget about her and move on? I can easily get another girl but im not sure if she just doesnt wanna see me... or is genuinely busy... i know she has a test the next day... but i dono

2007-06-24 09:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend is always annoyed by one of her brother's best friends when he likes to tell her "Go make me a sandwich." And then when she tells him to make his own, he always says, "Go in the kitchen where you belong."

Can anyone think of a good comeback to that so that we can get him to stop?

2007-06-24 09:11:39 · 36 answers · asked by shenanigans=] 1 in Friends

Ok so my religion says i have to be married by the age of 25 or im shunned to death. So as you can see, I desperatly need a guy. I have not had a boyfriend since Fifth grade, that only lasted two days. My brother Calls me the 40 year old virgin. What should i do?

2007-06-24 09:10:31 · 19 answers · asked by Bugaboo 2 in Singles & Dating

i dont know if its going to go anywhee or not with this guy , we've kissed each other a couple of times at work on the lips and we talk all the time, we take our breaks and our lunchs together. but on the hand my b/f and i broke up a couple of weeks ago we were fighting so much and just couldnt get along, i had just had a miscarriage a month ago today and we havent been right since then with each other, but we already have a two year old, and the guy at work is 45 and im 19 and hes married. so any advice would be nice thanks

2007-06-24 09:08:53 · 6 answers · asked by momma4christopher 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

http://img146.imageshack.us/img146/6168/jeiemz2.jpg

http://img263.imageshack.us/img263/8108/1006060726copyyku6yq3.jpg

she's 15 years old.
sorry if it's kind'a blurry...
i need yoour honest opinion guys.
pls tell me what does she looks like in that pic.?

and nope. that's not me..she's my friend`s gf =(

2007-06-24 09:06:52 · 1 answers · asked by sarah c 1 in Singles & Dating

Hi All,

A while ago I posted about my estrangement from my parents.
We are no longer in any contact as all I get is verbal abuse.
I am ok with this,and carrying on with my life and my own family.
Trouble is I always try to do the right thing,and dont like causing hurt or upset.
Both my parents have birthdays coming up.I have no desire to get in touch as the hurt they have caused me is great.However am I a bad person if I choose to ignore thier birthdays?
I would worry that if I send a basic card-that will be wrong,if I send a nice card they may interpret it as me wanting a relationship again.If I dont send I will be called a ***** again.
Any input greatly appreciated.
Bungle

2007-06-24 09:05:36 · 17 answers · asked by bungle 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am dealing with a serious dilemna. I gave my heart and soul away 15 years ago to someone and never got it back. He left. Not for someone else, but he left because the stress from his family and mine took its toll. I got involved with another man, had a child, and eventually ended up marrying this man. I loved him, but I could never get over my first love. And we found each other recently, both realizing that we still love each other. I don't want to hurt my family, especially my children. But my heart belongs to someone else. I tried so many times to let him go, and he tried to let me go. But we are still very much in love with each other. My husband and I have always had problems not getting along...so my question is "Is this fate"? I know the cliche that if you love someone, let them go...and if they return, it is meant to be. But I do have a family...i don't know what to do....I am not a whore, or slut.....but my heart is not in my marriage anymore...and it probably never was.

2007-06-24 09:04:37 · 8 answers · asked by creamy2005 1 in Marriage & Divorce

it was at mortons in boston, and i dont know if it was worth it.

2007-06-24 09:02:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i stay because her mother can,t pay for her to marry some one else. so i,m thinking of her feelings . at the mean time i live hafe dead. what should i do. 4 years of marrage and we haven,t had real sex. only forplay. and i,m not a cheater and never will.it feel like she,s a friend not a wife. is there some wrong with me. from me a zomby.

2007-06-24 08:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

So. All my life I have been the ugly girl w/ pretty friends. So all the guys I have ever liked, Have liked my freinds. So I am 15 years old, never had a boyfreind.
So, I met this guy and he is 17... yupp two years older. And we had talked a lot. I was at house (he invited me over) and he kept putting his legs all over me and tickleing me and what I considered flirting. So I stayed for 2 and a half hours from 9:30PM to 12:00AM. Than I got home and about 12:30AM I got a call from him. We talked for a while and he said "But seriously, do you like me?" and replied "I don't know..." and he said "Thats not a serious answer" and I said "Yes it is... there is things I like about you and things I dislike about you" And than I asked him the same question and got the same answer. We talked about both those and he said I was easy to talk to... and beautiful and some other stuff. Then today he said I am to young. And asked me to hook him up w/ one of my freinds. Im so confused. Whats he thinking?

2007-06-24 08:58:34 · 16 answers · asked by ☮ Miss ♥ Sloan ♫ Amor ツ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 08:58:00 · 6 answers · asked by marieahawkins@btinternet.com 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Why is it that a woman can tell a man whom is interested in her that she would like to "just be friends" but if the situation is reversed and a man says it to a woman he is looked upon as a jerk? What's wrong with this picture?

2007-06-24 08:57:20 · 2 answers · asked by curious 2 in Singles & Dating

Long story short. My wife and I are 26, have been married almost 2 years, and together almost 7 years. Last year I found out that she was having an affair. I stood by her, even while she continues to have the affair, and she finally ended it with him, and we have been back together for a year since then. She says their relationship was not sexual at all. Her and I did not have sex before we were married, and that didn't improve much afterwards either. We have not had sex since January of 2006, which was right before the affair. We occasionaly "mess around", but not all that often. When we do, she very rarely lets me touch her or pleasure her. If I mak the first move, she says I'm pushy or annoying. If I ask, sh gets bothered. We also do not kiss at all, if I try, she moves away. I try to be romantic, helpful, all of that stuff, and nothing works, She finally realizes this is a problem and says she wants help. Any advice for me, or her would be greatly appreciated.

2007-06-24 08:54:40 · 23 answers · asked by I.M. Worried 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm so desperate to have sex. I want it so much. But i couldnt find a decant guy for years. I'm afraid of starting to have sex with people i dont know for just getting it. How can i get off this phsycology??
I really feel so desperate

2007-06-24 08:46:59 · 27 answers · asked by befirsttoknow 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 08:46:13 · 27 answers · asked by greenocks_mad_hatter 1 in Weddings

Okay...this could get nasty....I really am trying to resolve my differances with my wife of nearly 19 years.This morning she says that we are not compatable. She also said that her therapist called me a controlling man...yet she told me on several occations that they (her & him) never discussed me in their sessions.Every day I question myself of why I work so hard to make this work. We are in therepy, and she says she still loves me. She just refuses to show any affection or remorce for her past actions.I do not want to do this...if I do, it will erase all efforts to reconcile. But if I don't, I will remain alone in my bed, and miserable. I asked my children what they want, and they said they want to see us work things out. But she remains sleeping on the couch in our living room, telling me the bed hurts her back, and that her brian won't let her. See my bio 4 details.
According to her, I have been sexually abusing her for years.Where does THAT come from?

Serve, or not to serve?

2007-06-24 08:40:29 · 26 answers · asked by not for now 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-24 08:37:33 · 21 answers · asked by chelsey 1 in Singles & Dating

Sex ! .. Now that i've got attention ill like 2 ask what is so great about sex, well i know it a form of creating a new life, and expressing your love for someone. But i mean why do people go crazy for it unessecary? But im a kid, and still a virgin. And guys that i know my age, brag to there mates about the people that they have slept with. But why, is their such a need for telling people who you have slept with, and it makes u more cool for doing it :S ??

2007-06-24 08:36:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070624/ap_on_re_mi_ea/lebanon_violence
Jesse Davis having her 2nd baby by a married man with a track record of violence having an affair with her, then he kills her and his baby, and worst, some people blame the victim for making bad choices.
Predators like Cutts prey upon women with low self esteem, so do MANY MEN, they seek them out in the crowd in order to victimize them from murder to rape to just your run-of-the-mill date rape or one night stand/never call back situation.
Why do many men think it's OK to victimize women who obviously are in need of love, support, and a friend? Do they ever think with their big head, or just the little one?

2007-06-24 08:33:55 · 5 answers · asked by SQD 2 in Singles & Dating

ok heres the deal...my dad left me and my mom when i was just a baby and my mom had ALWAYS told me that he gave all rights away to me.. well i moved out of my house when i was 17 to live with my aunt and uncle and they had to get legal guardian ship over me.. well the thing is that my dad really didnt give his rights up for me..well i got ahold of him he signed righs away and all that jazz but the thing is that we still talk and that he wants to meet me in august.. my mom doesnt no about ne of this and she would kill me if she knew that i got in contact with him.. im going home for a couple weeks.. do u think i should tell her or keep it to myself.. please help me i dont no what to do.. i dont want my mom to get mad at me an my stepdad to think that im trying to replace him.. i really want to meet him though so what should i do.. HELP!!!!!!!

2007-06-24 08:33:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-06-24 08:33:12 · 26 answers · asked by sotfball_hotte 1 in Singles & Dating

i have trust issues when it comes to men and i figured its because my parents were never in a healthy relationship and my dad cheated on my mother for the longest time.....im dating someone now and he seems like a really nice guy but my question is HOW can u tell if a mans there for a serious relationship....are there any signs???

2007-06-24 08:33:08 · 15 answers · asked by kera 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so I am going to see my crush tonight at a party. I think he only likes me as a friend, so does anybody (ESPECIALLY GUYS) have any advice on how to get him to notice me and like me back?

2007-06-24 08:31:39 · 11 answers · asked by Catherine 1 in Singles & Dating

there is a cute guy :)

2007-06-24 08:28:34 · 13 answers · asked by em_the_gem 1 in Singles & Dating

Im biracial and ivebeen sleeping with my best friends boyfriend for 2 months. How it started was i was sitting up on the kitchen counter with a skirt on and he came up to me and pulled my panties off and stuck his d*ck inside of me and thats when he start stroking it and it felt so good i couldnt help myself so how do i stop screwing him???

2007-06-24 08:24:29 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 08:21:31 · 10 answers · asked by me 1 in Other - Family & Relationships