After a 2 yr relationship me and my bf are now having a long term relationship after me coming to uni last sep...for the first few months everything was working really well...however since xmas he makes no effort anymore. I have spoken to him about it but nothing has changed..its always me phoning and although he is lovely with me, he just doesnt seem bothered to speak to me...we go 7-8 wks a time without seeing each other and when i do see him its like again hes not bothered..there is no big effort to see me straight away, no big hug an kiss when he sees me and its like he just expects me to slip into his life he lives when im at uni..its no different. We also hardly ever have sex and I jsut feel like he finds me unattractive..he says he does love me and want to be with me but i differ...i belive he would be making an effort when seeing me or phoning me more etc. I never get any random sweet messages like i used to and im finding it all very hard..its breaking my heart coz i love him
2007-06-24 09:19:41 · 11 answers · asked by H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so much. Im lost for things to do or say...do i just leave things and get on with it...im currently in the middle of a major exercise and healthy eating plan to look as good as i can when i go back in 3 weeks time but feel like its all a wasted effort..im not big or anything im a british size 10, but i just want to look my very best. I just want to walk into a room and he looks blown away or he tells me im beautiful. I want to feel wanted....what do i do?
2007-06-24 09:21:55 · update #1
I think he's very comfortable with your relationship and knows how you feel about him and wont leave him because of that. Show him that you are not afraid to move on. Once he's faced with the possibility of losing you, he'll come around if he really does care
2007-06-24 09:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jeebes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but basically you don't have a relationship. You could change yourself into one of the Victoria Secrets models and it wouldn't matter. He has someone else. Don't waste your time trying to make something out of nothing. It's not your fault, it's the way it is. He's not man enough to tell you it's over. You deserve a full life and happiness, so start looking elsewhere. I wish you the best.
2007-06-24 09:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are not happy with his attitude toward your long distance thing, and if it doesn't change you will have to break things off until school is over and you are closer together. He will either get scared and straighten up ( because hes mad about you deep down) or he will take this opportunity to be single, and not have to be the bad guy ( because he is basically over it and wants a way out). At least you will know where hes at.
2007-06-24 09:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by zeroambition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to make the effort of making yourself look good just to get a compliment, then he's not worth it. If he loves you, he should make the effort too. I feel that maybe he has just lost his attraction to you. He may still love you, but not enough to make the effort. If I was in your spot, I would break it off.
2007-06-24 09:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's taking you for granted. I say leave the guy for a bit or say your going to see him then don't show and see if he calls you. If he does say something came up if he asks be aloof and say you can't talk right then and hang up with him. You must make him at least think you have your own life and that you don't need him to be happy
2007-06-24 09:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Move on. He's probably cheating on you. If someone that you are dating cannot treat you right, then he is not the one for you. I imagine there are many other guys at UNI that would love to get to know you. Let him go, you will be happier than always worrying about him.
2007-06-24 09:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not making the effort, talk to him about it and how you are feeling.
If he continues not to make an effort even after you've talked about it, then dump him because obviously he is not the one for you.
2007-06-24 09:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by bbgirl180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart and gut it will never lie to you*... His behavior does not demonstrate his love and affection for you *...
2007-06-24 09:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sryy if my opinion offends u but dump him and find a better guy.
2007-06-24 09:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by angusrocker1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have probably gotten fat and ugly stinking a s s and pimplee faced,,,sorry but thats just not very attractive
2007-06-24 09:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋