Family & Relationships - 24 June 2007

A know a girl who at age 18 had a 2-year relationship with a 35-year old married guy. She was hoping it would lead to something permanent. At age 20, she dropped him and had a 2-1/2 year relationship with a 54-year old married guy and she was hoping this would lead to something permanent. Partway through this second relationship, she met a 52-year divorced guy, who has lots of money. He wined and dined her and about 6 months later, she dumped guy #2 and hooked up with guy #3. Within 2 months they were engaged and 9 months later were married. What would drive a woman to pursue these older guys? Super gold-digging? A total lack of insecurity? Trying to figure this out. Do you see the marriage lasting more than a couple of years?

2007-06-24 03:20:03 · 11 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have always known that I did not want to have kids. I never kept that fact hidden. I have never liked infants. I have never even held a baby once in my life because I dislike infants, and I would never want to experience preganacy. When I was in my early 20s and people asked me when I was going to have kids, they would always say you are young you will change your mind or what till you find the right guy. I have been getting this response for years. Now I am 30 and I still hear it despite the fact that I am with a man I love. He knows I don't want kids and is fine with that. People still ask when we are having kids. Some of the same ones ask over and over. How should I handle them? Next time they ask, I am tempted to say I can't I am sterile.

2007-06-24 03:18:56 · 6 answers · asked by M L 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

He is the love of my life, i been waiting for this day for years, he says he loves me and that we are going to try again, get engage and marry me. i luv him to death,. if he ever gets STD's he would get fire of his job (just for the type of job that he does)., what am i going to do? i dont wanna loose him, but yet; i dont know how to explain him what i have. i am so scare of loosing him, so scare of what he is going to think of me, and if he leaves me? i dont want him to loose his job. he will be here next month, and first time in 2 years that we see each other again, and this time should be for-good. how or when should i tell him? or should i keep it a secret? since i am on medication he wont get it ( i guess, and hope) i dont know what to do please, please help me :(

2007-06-24 03:13:53 · 13 answers · asked by SG 2 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 03:13:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, my husband and I have been married for about 6 amost 7 months. He was in basic training with the army and during his christmas leave we got married. When he graduated he got on a plane to go to his duty station and met a woman and sent her dirty pictures and was talking to her and everything, I quickly got that to stop. My husband then made a myspace account and found an ex girlfriend, they exchanged dirty pix, emails and everything ( i have those pix and emails) I also have the emails between her and myself. My husband then continues to get in contact with alot of his ex's and just "talks" to them. Well at the end of may he starts going out ALOT and meets this girl Melissa and i dont know what they did but everytime I found a text or a call to her I called her and she threatened to beat my ass because of it. Him and I have since separated and there is alot more than mentioned. But I want to know if i can sue on these grounds. Also he gave me an std and HPV. does anyone know?

2007-06-24 03:12:28 · 10 answers · asked by majesticgirl85 1 in Marriage & Divorce

me with my m8 n fings at home aint been every gurd eitha n all i wanted to do was cry n so i slit me wrists n i told a couple of me m8s who told me they have done it be4 n der eya 4 me n im scared of gettin hurt again its happened so many times n i have slit me wrists lik 4 times in me life i ust feel it gets away the pain n now im fallin 4 dis lad but i found out e a playa n i duno wt 2 do helpppppppppppppppp..x

2007-06-24 03:12:22 · 5 answers · asked by Pink..Suga..Fairy..x 1 in Singles & Dating

We were on a family vacation and she met this local boy there..He is 2 years older than her..I let her go and hang out with him a couple of times and he seems really nice. Now she has it in her mind that she is going back next weekend to see him.. Maybe it is the overprotective mother coming out of me but I am just worried over this..All I can think of is the Natalie Holloway story..but she is 20 years old and views this as another road trip...thoughts please??

2007-06-24 03:11:16 · 14 answers · asked by transcriberchick63 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

a) how are household responsibilites shared between you and him?

b) ballpark frequency for intimacy, please....

c) any comment you'd like to make as to why your relationship is healthy, happy, and working...

2007-06-24 03:09:38 · 12 answers · asked by Puresnow 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Last night i emailed my ex to ask him something, we were emailing each other then like he always does he goes i thought we had agreed not to email each other? then this morning i got a reply to my last email i sent him and we were emailing each other a bit this morning, i mentioned how he went for me because i am younger and i think he got annoyed then and goes can you change the subject please or just dont talk! i dont understand why he continues to email me back when he goes i thought we had agreed not too?! does he really mind speaking to me? we used to get on so well and it seems a shame!

2007-06-24 03:08:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

in regards to shared household responsibilities.

I think most men know to take the trash out. Are you one of those guys who needs a reminder?

I think most men expect they will mow the lawn....

is there any other activity of daily living that you anticipate being responsible for?

ie: grocery shopping, managing the finances, cooking, doing the dishes, doing the laundry, changing diapers, etc...

2007-06-24 03:05:19 · 7 answers · asked by Puresnow 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Long hair or Short Hair?

Blue or green or brown eyes?

Tan or pale skin?

make-up or none?

blonde or brown or black hair?

I need to Know!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-06-24 02:58:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 02:57:20 · 11 answers · asked by Seema S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im 15 female & in 9 grade. i take computer class. it manditory. my teacher is ms. bryant. she saw me cheating in class. i dont type the right way. she put paper over my hands. i got so hot & nervous. now im scared of her. she walk around the room to see how were typing. she walks by me 10 times a day. when she does, i get hot & nervous. i get so nervous , i cant type. i cant get out of the class. i dont want to talk to her about it. what should i do? she makes me really hot. i dont have a crush on her. she is nice & smiles at me & says hi. but she makes me nervous in class. how can i keep my cool when she walks by me? please she stands behind me for a while and i get hot & blush! help!

2007-06-24 02:57:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been dating my girfriend for a few months and we are living together. I have a very checkered past and I have told her about all my affairs in previous relationships. Her sister moved in a couple of months ago. I told my girfriend I was not sure if it was a good idea considerying my past. I started sleeping with the sister shortly there after. I just came clean to my girlfriend. She said she has known for a couple of weeks. She came home early and heard us in the bedroom. She didn't say anything at the time. She said she does not want to loose me no matter what. So I said in that case I want to date both of you. I could tell she was sad and yet she just said okay.Her little Sister is happy with the arrangment.This is the first time I openly dated let alone lived with two women at the same time. I like not having to sneak around.Is this all going to blow up in my face?Is it doomed to fail?can I somehow make it work? If it were up to me I would keep it like this til my death

2007-06-24 02:56:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I lied about my age in a personal ad. (I am 43 and I said 40). I met someone who is younger and we’ve been dating for 4 months and plan to move in together next month. To sit her down to confess my real age seems somehow unreal to me. Do I tell her my real age before she moves in with me, or do I wait until we are living together and when an easy opportunity presents itself?

2007-06-24 02:55:15 · 15 answers · asked by chnx 1 in Singles & Dating

my soon to be ex played the perfect person on the outside. bible studied, said she believed in god, went to church, volunteered, works in a helping profession with kids but....and this is a big but...behind closed doors she was the nastiest person i've ever met. no one would ever believe it on the outside. i heard more foul mouth garbage and was subjected to her throwing things at me and abuse behind closed doors. so was her daughter and my kids. she hated her mother because she said her mother tried to be perfect to the rest of the world and yelled and dragged her through the house by her hair when she was a little girl. she became what she hated and she didn't even know it. anybody else married to someone like that? wasn't it hard to convince people afterwards that they were like that? nobody believes you. then they always play the victim. it was the most frustrating thing in my whole life to go through. anybody else?

2007-06-24 02:52:43 · 8 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf does not want me to go ballroom dancing , when he is busy, but I see anything wrong with ballroom dancing

2007-06-24 02:40:44 · 11 answers · asked by ang7371 1 in Singles & Dating

If you do answer, would you show them your response?

2007-06-24 02:40:31 · 8 answers · asked by Puresnow 6 in Marriage & Divorce

she was born in mich(my doughter) where i still live and she (the mother)took them both to missippi and changed her last name(the doughter) to hid her from me now i have found her i want visition but the mother x girl friend say no still after 11 years of hideing iam not some wierd o or sick lunitik there in no reason that i should not be able to be a part of my doughter life the mother is greddy and belives she does not need a dad she can raise her fine on her own with her new boy friend and that i should not inter fear and confuse the child as she wrote in a letter 11 years ago i still have the letter but now is enough i think my doughter should be aware she has a real father who loves her and miss her and who is looking for her my name is james wingett III my doughter name is sonni patrica wingett as on the birth certict i was told the last name in now parker the mothers name in celeste amanda parker witch the last name i was told is dunn hafte her boy friend james dunn

2007-06-24 02:37:30 · 2 answers · asked by jimboschevy 1 in Family

2007-06-24 02:36:28 · 5 answers · asked by hateit10 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've just turned 20, this is my 2nd year out of high school, I’ve just moved back from uni that mum made me go to, I quit because I didn't like the course, didn't like where I was living & I've picked up a course in IT & goes for 12 months. I’m working part time at a supermarket, I did live with my boyfriend but my parents laid the ’guilt trip’ on me that I was living with him, but the reason I was living with him is because my parents where upset on my decision & were rejecting me. So at first that were really happy that I was back, & my father was saying comments like "welcome back to the family" & I told him "I didn’t know I left?" that hurt me. At the moment I'm lost in choosing a career path and what I want to do with my life, I’ve made a interest list to try to help figure out what I want to do. But now my father says comments that hurt me & put me down like "You have a soulless life" I can’t make a decision if he puts me down like that, I want to leave, I don’t know what to do?

2007-06-24 02:36:10 · 9 answers · asked by Simone T 1 in Family

This guy he knows I am in love with him but he clammed up on me. He often tells me he can never get angry at me and one time whenIi got angry at him because he won't answer me so II told him he sucks and he still isn't angry ( I apoligized later) but why can't he get angry at me? He doesn't have much time because he is doing his military service. He is not under the American system we are both in Asia. I can't understand whatever I do he never gets angry at me is this strange?

2007-06-24 02:35:30 · 13 answers · asked by iloveanairforcesoldier 1 in Singles & Dating

well yesturday my girl told me to find a better gf because she was not going to chance the way she is because she do stuff that will make her go to jail and i told her that i will help her chance what should i do about it

2007-06-24 02:34:16 · 3 answers · asked by Jose C 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-24 02:34:03 · 18 answers · asked by C P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband cheated and try to work things out but hes cold and wont open up..and wont even acknowledges he did wrong all he says i deserve better..but wont let me see other people.

2007-06-24 02:32:13 · 13 answers · asked by Sylvia G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ship where you have allowed a female to walk all over you due to the fact that you think you can not live without her?

2007-06-24 02:31:07 · 9 answers · asked by MJ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I met my boyfriend (now ex) at this car wash at school.
so we met and stuff it moved quick, we started having sex on the first date- while gettting to know each other. so i didnt have no boyfrined- i wanted one dude to be with to see everyday. so basically we never put no title on our relationshipp until the thursday after the tuesday we had sex on the first date.
So his possition was that he had a suga mama, giving him money just for him to have sex wtih her that was there agreeement - thats what he told me.
So basically we were togheter for 3 weeks lovely i saw him everyday.
until i stoped seeing him. i cant see him during the summer cuz of my situation my parents wont let me out of the house , only for school time.
Anyways he used to call me every day during those three weeks, after he stopped seeing me everyday , he stopped caling me for 2 weeks.
So i wondered what happend to him.
he gave me the fone number to his boy- and his boy told me last week -he advised

2007-06-24 02:29:29 · 9 answers · asked by ErOtIC DeSiReS 2 in Singles & Dating

all of the girls in my grade say they love their boyfriends the first day they are going out, but i seriously doubt they do. i dont love my boyfriend yet, i just really enjoy being with him and spending time with him. he knows how i feel about the word love. very few girls think the way i do. in my opinion if you say you love them that soon, youre just setting yourself up for heartbreak. what are your opinions on this?

2007-06-24 02:24:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I had a dream that I was getting married to my boyfriend. Someone asked me to see my ring and I didn't have one and I said that it was last minute. When I got to the church for the wedding there were a lot of people there and everyone was getting sat down. I wasn't dressed up at all. I was wearing khakis and shirt with a jacket. My boyfriend hadn't shown up yet. So I was waiting and waiting out in the lobby for him while everyone was sitting down. After a while people were looking at their watches because it had been so long and I looked at my mom and said that he wasn't going to show up. The wedding was his idea though. I cried and cried. Afterwards, people left me cards saying how sorry there were and told me to keep the presents and money anyway. I had a conversation w/ my boyfriend the night before and told him I wanted to spend more time with him because we only go out a couple nights a week. I was upset. He thought I was blaming him but was't. What does this mean?

2007-06-24 02:21:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend code is 3007-4123-3839 my town is La La And my name is Ciara. My friends code is 5026-0469-7328 her name is Savanna and her town is Linland.

2007-06-24 02:20:19 · 4 answers · asked by dolphing354 1 in Friends