my husband cheated and try to work things out but hes cold and wont open up..and wont even acknowledges he did wrong all he says i deserve better..but wont let me see other people.
2007-06-24 02:32:13 · 13 answers · asked by Sylvia G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LATER.....
2007-06-24 03:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sylvia,
your post upsets me. Uhm, did you "let him cheat"? So, how could he possibly "let you see other people". YOU are in control of your body. Just like he is.
He is CHOOSING to continue to allow you to live in this world of "doubt" and "mistrust" by not opening up to you. This is an indicator to me that this guy is not loving you the way you deserve to be loved. When a man is sincerely remourseful about something he did, he will put your feelings first. If he wanted to work it out, getting it all out in the open is the only way to help you restore the trust that was lost. Your husband is NOT doing that for you.
you asked "whats the best answer?" My thoughts, He's not sincere. He's probably still cheating. I'm sorry to say that. He's not putting you or your relationship with him first.
My advice - take time off from the relationship. leave him. He's not working on the relationship. it takes 2 people to "row the relationship boat". If there is only one person rowing, the boat will sink anyways. I say, Jump ship now, and if he gets his act together, then give it a second chance. but irght now is not the time for a second chance.... he doesn't deserve it yet.
2007-06-24 02:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by the_lady_next_door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right. You do deserve better. This would include dragging his a.. thru divorce court. If he won't accept the fact he did wrong why should you stay. My wife cheated and I spent months while I was at work wondering is she at home or out with someone. She finally moved out. Why should you put yourself thru hell doing this. You are not here for him to crap on. Get on with your life.
2007-06-24 03:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by jerry b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't look at cheating as their fault. Everyone or circumstance is at fault. Most blame lack of intimacy from their partner, while others want variety, some say they were conned into, or use it as a means to "better" their career. They may not admit to cheating but they will make excuses for doing so
2007-06-24 03:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since homicide is illegal in all 50 states the best thing to do is leave..hes got one thing right you deserve better and who cares if he will or wont let you see other people..he didnt care when he was cheating on you then so why care what he thinks now? its time to throw the loser back and hook a REAL man
2007-06-24 02:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is now doing the same thing he got fired from his job because he was fooling around with a girl he was the boss of and they had him on tape i went to her house and got him out of her room but he still thinks he is doing no wrong there is nothing we can really do about this just try and get over them and know that you deserve someone who is going to love u and only u
2007-06-24 07:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by big_brat28546 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know he is your husband but you can call him "b*stard? I do am sorry for what your going through. Yes there are some men that never act guilty for what they did, they think that it's our fault, or we pushed them, or we never there to listen but the reality is they still want to see or prove to themselves that even though that they are already married,they still can attract the opposite sex..
Don't let this consume you or else it will ruin you in the long run. either he talk to you about it or just let him go,you do not deserve this emotional roller coaster........
2007-06-24 03:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes right, you DO deserve better. if he cant even accept that he did something wrong, then it doesnt seem like theres much of a chance that he'll change.
Divorce his a55 and sue for alimony!
2007-06-24 02:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by J3NN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he cant see he did anything wrong,why is it that men think they can get away with it (some men may i add ),the best answer for you hon is give him what he deserves,the door and say bye bye xxxx
2007-06-24 02:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave... if he can't accept that he has done wrong, then he will continue doing it again. Admitting the problem is the first step toward change and improvement.
2007-06-24 02:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dave F 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He will understand the word "GOODBYE!".
You do deserve better and when he's gone, you can see other people and get on with your life!
2007-06-24 02:36:49 · answer #11 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋