I have always known that I did not want to have kids. I never kept that fact hidden. I have never liked infants. I have never even held a baby once in my life because I dislike infants, and I would never want to experience preganacy. When I was in my early 20s and people asked me when I was going to have kids, they would always say you are young you will change your mind or what till you find the right guy. I have been getting this response for years. Now I am 30 and I still hear it despite the fact that I am with a man I love. He knows I don't want kids and is fine with that. People still ask when we are having kids. Some of the same ones ask over and over. How should I handle them? Next time they ask, I am tempted to say I can't I am sterile.
2007-06-24 03:18:56 · 6 answers · asked by M L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So, there really are people out there with my same prospective on children! :) I'm 28 and have been married for almost 6 years. We do not want children either. Usually, I'll just politely say, when asked, that we have chosen not to have them and explain we are very into our careers. If they push it and become judgmental or rude, I'll make a comment about having never judged them for making a decision (having kids) that I would never make. And, on occasion, I get the people who think its wrong and get mean about it. To these people, I just tell them I can't have kids. The conversation ends, and they are left feeling very uncomfortable about something that really wasn't any of their business to begin with.
Just remember, there are other people in the same boat as you & there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! :)
2007-06-24 03:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try the we've been trying before the sterile part or what ever to make a game out of this and keep them talking to whoever they talk to. My wife had two when we got together already in the post infant stage (done with diapers and bottles) but I have had no desire for one of my own and there are plenty more like us. If you are close to family your nieces and nefews can come around and visit if you wish for some of that kind of companionship.
2007-06-24 10:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the possiblities you could change your minds but that is ultimately your decision. if you do not want to be a mother you should not as the baby would suffer.
tell every one you are too selfish to have a baby.
tell every one it does not fit in your future schedule.
tell them it is none of your business.
you should do what you feel is best and if you do not want one you should not have one. I on the other had love children and have 5 living children and one who has passed on into Gods hands.
do not let people push you remember the baby would suffer if really do not want one.
2007-06-24 10:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you both decided not to have kids. There is nothing wrong with that, its your decision, after all. For the one's who keep asking over and over, tell them politely again, that you don't want kids and say something like 'didn't I already tell you that? I thought we already talked about this.'
2007-06-24 10:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. So simple, just say no. Say it matter of factly, like nope! What are they going to say? Be assertive and confident in your answer. Who cares what they think. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Not everything is about procreation anyway.....simple.
2007-06-24 10:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might sound rude to say, but just tell them that you do not want children and that you would appreciate it if they did not ask you again. It's simple and honest.
2007-06-24 10:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by J. S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋