I've just turned 20, this is my 2nd year out of high school, I’ve just moved back from uni that mum made me go to, I quit because I didn't like the course, didn't like where I was living & I've picked up a course in IT & goes for 12 months. I’m working part time at a supermarket, I did live with my boyfriend but my parents laid the ’guilt trip’ on me that I was living with him, but the reason I was living with him is because my parents where upset on my decision & were rejecting me. So at first that were really happy that I was back, & my father was saying comments like "welcome back to the family" & I told him "I didn’t know I left?" that hurt me. At the moment I'm lost in choosing a career path and what I want to do with my life, I’ve made a interest list to try to help figure out what I want to do. But now my father says comments that hurt me & put me down like "You have a soulless life" I can’t make a decision if he puts me down like that, I want to leave, I don’t know what to do?
2007-06-24 02:36:10 · 9 answers · asked by Simone T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to him that if you choose a career he forces on you and it turns out you hate it, it will be natural for you to feel resentful towards him.. Tell him you want to make your own decision because you will have to live with it. Try to do something you enjoy.
2007-06-24 02:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a job (full-time) and a roommate to share expensies with. Move out and try a couple different jobs and talk to people. Then take a few courses if needed on a oppisite shift that you work. If your family feels so and it bothers you then find a female house mate to share the expenses with. But do have a conversation with dad and ask him his opinion on what to do for your career path so that you know what he thinks and might expect not that it matters so much since it is your life. You are twenty and at home with ma and pa. He needs to see you prosper and move on out of the nest in a good way. May just try and get more hours and continue with your classes but pa needs to see you working on growing and starting to support yourself at this age.
2007-06-24 02:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very nearly ended up doing a degree I didn't want, because I felt I had to - but I took a year out and changed my mind. It's your life, you're obviously quite independent already - you're working and you were living with your boyfriend - so I'd focus on making yourself happy, and choosing something *you* want to do. Parents are tough, but at the end of the day, you're your own person and if they can't respect you for that then there's something wrong.
2007-06-24 02:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life start making your on decision about where you want to be in life. I, understand that your parents want the best for you and I don't blame them, but, they need to let you make your own decision, even if it's not what they'll except. Life, is a experience, only you control where it takes you.........
2007-06-24 02:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Fannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by luera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let them rule your life. You need to concentrate on your own success. It sounds as though he is upset that you arent his boy. He is jelous of you & doesnt want you to be successful. Go with your heart. Do not give up on YOUR dreams & do not feel guilty. Be strong.
2007-06-24 02:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it over with your dad let him know what you are dealing with and get his opinion on it. serious as hell your dad will be ok with you doing what is right for you if you let him know that you are doing some thing and most important let him see that he is still a part of your life and that you respect his opinion as a trusted source of help.
2007-06-24 02:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by tott1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its your life and not his. Your the one whos going to be living the rest of your life and you want something that interests you so you wont get too stressed. Tell him to accept it or f'uck off.
2007-06-24 02:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by Constipation 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wel... i thnk he is upset coz u r wth ur bf, n b4 taking the dcn u shld hv convncd him.. no??
any ways... now the only way is 2 prove urslf that u were right in ur dcn, wrk hard n achv new heights so that some day he'll proudly say, "welcome 2 the familly!!" gud luck!!
2007-06-24 02:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋