Last night i emailed my ex to ask him something, we were emailing each other then like he always does he goes i thought we had agreed not to email each other? then this morning i got a reply to my last email i sent him and we were emailing each other a bit this morning, i mentioned how he went for me because i am younger and i think he got annoyed then and goes can you change the subject please or just dont talk! i dont understand why he continues to email me back when he goes i thought we had agreed not too?! does he really mind speaking to me? we used to get on so well and it seems a shame!
2007-06-24 03:08:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it seems to be adolescent but, guys like the last word! I mean, every word from you could be the last. You broke it off, so, now there really is nothing more to say. However, due to immaturity he "needs" to have the final say. The Last Word. It's a closure thing, he is probably a bit insecure and for you to break up with him did nothing to strengthen his self esteem. Listen....if you want him back just say so. If not, then stop the e-mailing! It's not productive and is really only hurting him further. Why pour salt into the wound and continue the "remember me" scenario?
2007-06-24 03:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's making a power play. Like he is going to call how your "relationship" is. I know it might seem like a shame to you, but come on.........he's your EX. And, I'm sure it 's for a good reason. The best thing you could possibly do is just stop emailing period. Don't ask or answer anything. If you're spending so much time emailing your EX....how are you going to see what other relationships are out there?
2007-06-24 03:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by J. S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he likes the chase - as soon as you respond to his emails, he knows that he has still got you and then, you continue to email him and he gets annoyed. If it were me, I would stop all future correspondence with him immediately and move on. Honestly, he is an ex - it's difficult to be "friends" because there is always one side that really wants more but are settling for the friends approach because they know they are not going to get anything more so in their eyes it is better than nothing. Let him mess someone else around. You take control and let it go. If you don't believe me, he will do it to you.
2007-06-24 03:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subjects that make him uncomfortable are going to get you an anger responce. Its as simple as that. When you email and the conversation is about things that are neutral, or things that he wants to talk about, that's one thing. But as soon as you hit upon something that is a sore subject, he's going to get all butt hurt.
I'd suggest that when he says "I thought we weren't going to talk about that" you might want to either change the subject or stop emailing him that day. Then, later on, you can send him an email that just says "Hey, how are you doing?" and go from there.
2007-06-24 03:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has made his wishes known..but for some reason you just "had" to ask him a question? Seems your having problems letting go of what once was or making excuses for yourself to keep in contact with him. He emails you back as a courtesy to not be rude and answer your question while letting you know that you were not supposed to be emailing. I suggest you erase his email addy from your address book and respect his wishes. If he asked to not have contact with you, then you should respect his wishes.
2007-06-24 03:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want him to write you anymore? stop sending him email and don't reply to anything he sends you. if he calls don't answer the phone. Leave him alone and he will get the hint that you are done.
divorce sucks, and it sucks even more to lose a person that you shared everything with. It's a nice fantasy to think that the friendship that brought you so close in the first place will still exist when the relationship/marriage is over.
2007-06-24 03:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do with not wanting to talk to you i imagine he is just wanting to move on its hard to sit and talk to your ex's all the time esp if you had alot of feelings for them. i think maybe you should lay off the emails for a while and just leave him be and if he emails you back dont reply to it. sounds like you both just need some closure and to move on with your lives if it didnt work out then it didnt work out no sense harboring old feelings and trying to stay in contact.
2007-06-24 03:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladydarius20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing u for a fool, sweetie! You need to be done with the loser once and for all. He is just stringing you along for whatever reason. He has control, obviously, in this 'relationship' and you continue to let him. Stand up for yourself and don't contact him any more. If he can't have respect for you via email, I don't he would have any for you in person. love is tough.
2007-06-24 03:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by chansigns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just delete the emails and do not read them, nothing good will come out of this do you like the pain you are going through???
2007-06-24 03:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh Ahh Ahh...just lk similar scenarios.
Trust me if this is how annoyed you guys get of eachother by a simple email, but then u start talking bak up again...hun you gotta cut him off
Its the right thing to do...simply say something along the lines of u sick of him doing wat hes doing (explain a littl) hes being a hypocrite! and then just keep going wat u think
U shouldnt be tlking to ur ex who u dont get along w/ and dont think u will get bak together w/! and put the PAST BEHIND U! or ul be miserable
hope this helped
XOXO
2007-06-24 03:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋