For the ladies content with their relationships....?

Question

a) how are household responsibilites shared between you and him?

b) ballpark frequency for intimacy, please....

c) any comment you'd like to make as to why your relationship is healthy, happy, and working...

Answer 1

A. Shared equally.
B. Minimum, 3 times a week.
C. We share the same interests, truly enjoy each others company, spark each others creativity, support each other, etc.....
BTW, we've been married for 36 years......

Answer 2

household responsibilities are pretty much divided fairly, at least we are ok with it. He does dishes, I cook, he takes out the trash, I do the laundry, he vacuums, I dust & make the bed, he does the shopping & errands 90% of the time, I pay the bills. (we both earn, I just do the check writing)
intimacy....... we're both comfortable after 7 years, no cheating or complaints. It has varied anywhere from twice a day to zip, nada. We're ok.
we're comfortable and happy because we both have been married before and know what does & doesn't work, we don't sweat the small stuff, we never fight, arguments are usually something stupid, over something like the answers on the "fifth grader" show, or whose turn to clean out the chicken house. The big reason though, is probably that not only do we love each other, we also like and trust each other, and are considerate of each other. He asks me every day "have I told you today I love you"? and I always answer "yes, and I love you today too". Corny, I know.

Answer 3

a) He does most of the house work. Laundry, dishes, trash, cooking are all his jobs. I do the vacuuming and dusting, and occasionally help out with the dishes, especially when he is feeling a little overwhelmed. I bring home the money, he attends the kids school functions and does the shopping. I will start a load of laundry if I notice that it is ready, he will finish it while I am at work.

b) jeez... hard question because it changes depending on time of month and time of year. I am far more active in the fall and winter than spring and summer for some reason, more in the mood. Less active when it is my time of the month. So lets say ballpark, twice a week in spring and summer and three to four times a week in fall and winter.

c) I don't expect anything of him, I ask. He is my partner not my homemaker. I stayed home with the kids until they were old enough to make their needs known verbally and could communicate with their father clearly and he felt ready to be with them, now he stays home with them. He worked hard to pay bills and take care of the family and when he started to feel over worked, I took my shift. We have plans to change places again in about three years and I will stay home again and he will return to work again. We keep things lively and interesting, are both willing to take risks and try new things. Last year we were in China, this year in Japan, next year in the UAE, and part of the reason is that we both wanted to see the world. We worked together to make that possible.
and finally, we talk. Communication is key to a healthy happy relationship. We work together to make these things possible. If he ever gets bored with something he isn't afraid to tell me, and even if I get a little nervous about something or don't like something (for example, I hate madden football for the PS2... hate it when he plays the game, just plain hate it) I am not afraid to approach him to ask for a little cooperation. (He plays when I am not around and doesn't play when I am around. Pretty easy compromise if you ask me)

A little give, a little take.

And don't forget that you need to have time to be you. I take a yearly week long vacation out with friends. Usually I fly off to see a place I have never been, sometimes I even go alone. I always budget enough so that he can do the same.

And since we have kids, we also plan for alone time with each other away from the children, because that is necessary in a relationship too.

Not just content... satisfied and fulfilled. and very very happy.

Answer 4

A) I am a stay at home mom, and everything that needs done in the house that does not involve a "repair" is done by me. I also pay all the bills and take care of the social planning. ALL cooking, cleaning, and laundry, bills, etc. ALL outside work is done by my hubby, he takes out the trash, mows the grass and takes care of the vehicles (washing, gasing, repairs etc).
I have two children, one is 9mo, and the other is almost 12. My 12 y/o is autistic, and I was a single mom to him for 8 years. I worked up until my newest was born, (accountant/manager for 6 years, and prior a social worker for11 ) and we decided to have me not work and take care of the boys. Which I had always wanted to do!!

B) Sex is about 5-7x a week---that doesn't include any oral gratification in between to one or the other. My hubby has a HUGE ravenous appetite for sex, and he gets it when and where ever he wants--because he is such a good man!!!

C) My husband is the most amazing man on the planet. When he comes home from work he takes care of the baby, so I have time to do other things like go to the store, get my hair done. I ALWAYS cook him something home made from scratch ( I love to cook), we eat out only about 3x per month. His house is spotless, his clothes are always clean, and he never has to worry about money. He is an amazing lover, my best friend and a man that most would DIE to have!!! He is the one that I have looked for my whole life, I know that there is nothing in this world that he wouldn't do for me. He treats me like a queen, rubs my feet, gives massages and NEVER leaves me unsatisfied during sex!!! IN RETURN--- there is nothing that he wants that he does not get either--sexually or otherwise. Arguing is the abnormality in our house--I couldn't even tell you the last time there was one---and then it was soooo minor, I wouldn't even be able to tell you what it is over!!! We are on the same page with everything, we are one.

Answer 5

we share chores, take turns w/ stuff like cleaning the living room or doing Laundry. I always end up cleaning the Kitchen. Sometimes he will bribe me to clean w/ money, lol
we are intimate about 4 times a week, but very affectionate all the time.
We love each other alot and tell each other all the time,we live together and even when we are at work we miss each other and love to spend time w/ one another.

Answer 6

In a relationship you can not share house hold responsibilities equally. My husband and I do what need to be done. given the situation on any given day. some days he does every thing and works a full time job. some times I do every thing, and some times we are able to share.

there is no ball park for frequency. if you are talking about sex we do not have sex. we make love and making love is not always for the final O.

we love each other. we know what needs to be done for our family to function. and when one of us does more then the other. there is no anger or accusations. we do what we have to do and then we love each other every min of every day.

Answer 7

a: I take care of the home - he takes care of providing for our home.
b: Depends - intimacy can be shared by a slight touch. So I guess as often as we can :)
c: It's working because we communicate and trust. We had some issues come up this week that led to a huge argument but we worked through it because we TALKED about it. :)

Answer 8

a. Inside the house is mine, outside is his. I don't mow the lawn, work on the cars, grow vegtables, or anything in the sun. He dosen't do laundry, vacuum or dust.

b. whenever one of us wants it.

c. we both understand one another and we have GREAT communication skills.

Answer 9

A. They're not I'm a house-wife he works.
B. A lot
C. Make sure you know you're with the right person.

Answer 10

frequency for intimacy? do you mean sex? because they're not the same thing.