i stay because her mother can,t pay for her to marry some one else. so i,m thinking of her feelings . at the mean time i live hafe dead. what should i do. 4 years of marrage and we haven,t had real sex. only forplay. and i,m not a cheater and never will.it feel like she,s a friend not a wife. is there some wrong with me. from me a zomby.
2007-06-24 08:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, Seriously your Sex Life is not a BIG issue you can do without it and you will live. But if you do not LOVE her then you need to let her now and tell her the truth! and you need to find out if she really does love you or not! Plus, she may not be having "real sex" with you because she thinks your cheating on her or that when you have sex with her your just ganna be thinking of another girl,or maybe she does not wanna have sex with you because she feels you do not really and truly love her. So, you need to take care of your problems first before you can take care of her problems. But if neither of you really do love each other then you need to get a divorce. And next time think about this before you commit to someone.And dude your such a player from your last question about the girl you see on the site everyday and you breathe slowly how lame are you? No wonder your wife won't give you any.!YOU MAKE ME SICK!
2007-06-24 09:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by boychooser14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you lookig for friend or life companion. Maybe you did not think before you made the decision, you did not choose the right prson, perhaps you were in hurry. If you dont have any children, no one can pin you down and force you stay, you know the way to the door and out. She will look for another guy and he will pay for her wedding. You already paid for the first wedding. It is not your responsibility to pay for her wedding
2007-06-24 16:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by spiro goken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask for a behavior change.
When she says something in a controlling way, tell her that she can get what she wants easier and faster if she asks nicely instead.
It's not necessary (or even effective) to bare your soul and explain everything to her at once, but if you tell her on EACH occasion when she misbehaves that you appreciate her, but want her to do things slightly different, she will begin to try to please you.
It will take a few months, but your ability to be sensitive can work in your favor in this situation.
2007-06-24 17:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship . Your staying is not good for you or her . Life is to short .I know I would not want a man to stay with me if he was not madly and passionately in love with me . If you have to , go get some professional help . But get out ! You will both be better off . Money means nothing if your not loved .
2007-06-24 16:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by darsow@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel so sorry for you cause that's what a woman is suppose to do shes suppose to satisfy her man. not leave him half dead. seriously, if you have no kids with her let her mess with someone elses life. you need a woman that will do what ever to make you happy. (this is why i hate feminist, I'm proudly not one of them.)good luck. and leave her.please.
2007-06-24 16:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Linda B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok ask her flat out hows she feels about you an give her a little bit of what she gives you make it work theres nothing wrong with you take her out do something real crazy with he that you have never done before an dont tell her sup. her get real kinky with her ok good luck
2007-06-24 16:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by candi m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that happens to a lot of people. You have to think about yourself. That is no reason to stay with somebody.
2007-06-24 16:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by jarvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay because her mom can't afford another wedding?? What! Seriously...divorce her...she won't need her mom to pay for the wedding...you'll be paying for it ;)
2007-06-24 16:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think she's bossy and controlling now wait till the divorce.
seriously though you need counseling and communication. stand up for yourself and talk it out. good luck!
2007-06-24 16:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No there is nothing wrong you. How can you love someone who does crap like that to you.
2007-06-24 16:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋