i have trust issues when it comes to men and i figured its because my parents were never in a healthy relationship and my dad cheated on my mother for the longest time.....im dating someone now and he seems like a really nice guy but my question is HOW can u tell if a mans there for a serious relationship....are there any signs???
2007-06-24 08:33:08 · 15 answers · asked by kera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try proposing
2007-06-24 08:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by dave c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi there!!!!! it's easier said done done ( don't go by others experience ) but i find it that it's true. i'm 27years old and i am now happily married wiyh 3 children but before my husband i had 2 previous relationships wich were serious but it was me that din't think it was what i wanted, anyway for me to find out wether they were serious about me or not i created a 4 months rule ( see the guy everyday if you want,have dinner do all the things a normal couple would but don't sleep with him for the first 4 months and if he can wait and not harrase you about it for all of that time,then give him the benefit of the doubt and try to trust him not 100% straight away but bit by bit.) the reason i created this rule is because i'm a strong believer in having self respect and that you shouldn't go around sleeping with the first man that comes into your life.
why 4 months? well i just figured most men tend to be rather weak in that department and want to get down to bussiness straight away, also some men won't mind waiting a month or two because it does go by rather fast but 4 months it's a bit of a long stretch for a guy that's not serious about you. anyway goo luck.
2007-06-24 08:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by dialindo_amorepaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you'll find out if he's totally trustworthy will be in a time of crisis. You have to remember in the first few months most relationships are based on an instant attraction having met in a bar, club or similar and you go with your more lustful feelings. You don't say how you met but maybe best to take things slowly if it's still early days!
2007-06-24 08:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bumfluff McGuffie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a firm believer from both sides trust is earned not giving! You have to give the guy a chance in order to see if hes worthy of trust! You may have your heart broken but thats how you live and learn!
2007-06-24 08:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive been cheated on by just about every girl ive been out with. At first i thought it was something i did. Then i realized i dated losers. i dont really trust women (except friends) anymore. I guess you have to trust him or you`ll never trust anyone again. not much help i know. x
2007-06-24 08:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ghost Boy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell. I have discovered that time is the only way to know. If it feels right do it. The divorce rate is over 50% so no matter how you look at it. It really doesnt matter at all.
2007-06-24 08:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by afterworkllc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him you have male trust issues and need reassurance. If he's a nice guy he'll set your mind at rest. Good luck!
2007-06-24 09:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lyra B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, from a guy that has cheated once or twice, if you ask him if he wants to come over, and has an excuse more than twice in a row, there might be some suspicion.Watch for avoidance. hope this helps!
2007-06-24 08:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by lvl 324 DIAGLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the same for a man, all you can do is trust him ...after all whats a relationship without trust
2007-06-24 08:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by swell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sayin if the guy is there for u in your time of need every time he wants to be around u all the time he cars for u he puts u in his plans for that day i mean things like that think bout it.
2007-06-24 08:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, the sign says "No U Turns"
2007-06-24 08:35:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋