Family & Relationships - 19 June 2007

I have always been attracted to Black guys Only and i'm still attracted to them..but I do not want to limit myself...I broke up with my Ex 3 months ago..I have been introduced to new and different Night spots by my colleagues and I have seen some good looking white men...

I don't think I will have a problem at all getting a white man, if I want him...That I know for sure..the question is:

Do you think it's a good idea??..Should i stick to my own race??..

For those who date white guys...What are some of the PLuses about white guys...

What I'm about to say may offend some of you, please forgive me..You know what most of us black girls have been told about white men (you know the small D**ks, can't last longer and all that stupid staff)...BUT I'm still curious, though also fear being disappointed...

Can any white men reassure me that those stories are NOT True.

PLEASE some of you..do NOT tell me..."why does it have to be about race"..I do not want to hear that...

2007-06-19 07:55:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

how do u know u r ready to ask a guy out?! i mean there wer severeal times i've asked a guy out and he said he didn't think we wer ready to be in a relationship. so how do u know wenit is the time!? HELP!!

2007-06-19 07:54:30 · 1 answers · asked by SamaraSecurity 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-19 07:52:59 · 22 answers · asked by Varayla D 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-19 07:51:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i havent had a boyfriend in 3 years! i'm 18!! people tell me that im not ugly, im very smart --going to a great university in september-- guys are just not attracted to me, oh yeah, and im pretty shy but only around new people

i know where to meet guys but it just never works out... i even tried going to this club but all of the guys were completely wasted ...and i should basically give up because this is pointless....i will never meet anyone willing to give me a chance .......

2007-06-19 07:51:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 2 years and some change and my wife just recently got back from a deployment. I just found out that she has cheated on me while she was gone. Her explanation was that she was very stressed out and he became her support system. They got drunk and had sex twice while she was gone. She also have been emailing 1-2 other guys and one of them she's known for a while and they email back and forth and acting flirtatious and talking to each other like they are together. My wife has told me that she is very sorry for cheating on me and that she will change her ways because she doesn't want to lose me. She knows she made a mistake and wants to do everything to keep me. I love my wife so much that I'm willing to forgive her for what she's done and stay together for the sake of my daughter. I believe that she has learned her lesson and it will not ever happen again. What should I do to ease my pain and also if you were in my position what would you have done?

2007-06-19 07:50:00 · 30 answers · asked by Jan R 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It is your spouse's parents' anniversary. They are ENORMOUS tightwads. Your spouse wants to buy them something really expensive. Would you agree to it?

2007-06-19 07:47:04 · 11 answers · asked by ♫Problem Child♫ 7 in Family

well me and my boyfriend have been going out 9 months from today.but we have been more mad at each other!ive notice he is texting a girl from school all the time!i cal him becuz he tells me 2 but everytime i do he says he will cal me back cuz he is txting her and he doesnt like a phone conversation while txt.it ends up he never does and now that were in vacation i never see him or hardly talk to him what is he doing?guys please help!tel me the truth am i being a bad girlfriend or selfish? help please ASAP!!cuz he is leaving town 4 a month and i dont know if i should just finish he says he loves me when we get 2 talk. wat do i do?

2007-06-19 07:46:14 · 14 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend with a physical disability. She can't move the right side of her body (she had a stroke, or something similiar when she was just a toddler). I have never met anyone quite like her. Most of my friends with disabilities are fiercely independent and competitive. This person is meek, co-dependent and can be very snappish and mean at times. We have been friends for over a year, but she is starting to wear on me. She's needy, meek, dependent and angry at everyone. When I go places, she gets mad at me because she wants to come along. I have a small car (honda civic) that simply can't fit all her gagets (her wheelchair, a breathing machine, a bag full of medications, etc). I would love to take her to places, but I have to help her eat, put her contraptions together, make sure her breathing machine is working. I just can't handle it anymore. It's too hard. What should I do?

2007-06-19 07:39:22 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have read in this book http://kkf2006.alexander2.hop.clickbank.net that women deep down inside want sex just as much as men. But, because of social programming, women will be more selective in who they have sex with. In other words, they are scared of being labeled "slutt" or "too easy". The book says that women will many times deny sex to a man because of the bad "consequences" that might result from this action. What's your opinion?

2007-06-19 07:38:43 · 17 answers · asked by Myssteriouss01 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a wonderful career for which I worked really hard (universities, masters etc etc). I have also a wonderful boyfriend, but we are in a long distance relationship (different countries), because of serious family problems of his, so he cannot move here with me. Right now he cannot move where I live, but I can move to where he lives, sacrificing though my career. How do I know what to choose? Please help!

2007-06-19 07:37:52 · 8 answers · asked by Martin 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

We are planning to marry in a church and would like to have a small dinner and cake reception immediately following the ceremony in the church fellowship hall.

The problem is, our guest list runs well over 100 people of our immediate family, extended family, close friends (like family), other friends and aquaintances/ co-workers, etc.

We invited family and friends that we would like to attend our marriage ceremony, but would like to spend our dinner reception with our immediate family and close friends ONLY.

What is the etiquette on this, and how would we word that in an invitation insert so that only our CLOSE family and friends attend the dinner?

2007-06-19 07:35:08 · 11 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Weddings

I am one of the victim of indian laws tilted towards women. I had bad married life and some how by god grace it seem moving towards mutual divorce. she left home after 2 month of marriege and now not even in contact ( phone, email nothing for more than year now) it's been 1.7 years to my marriege. all family drama and fight been happened but being a guy and laws not favouring i had to keep quite to avoid 498A and save myself and family from punishment with no reason.
She asking for sum of 5 lakh to go for mutual divorce is it wise to throw this money and buy peace. how much time does it take to have decree after filing divorce petition ( mutual divorce). i really dont want to shed my hard earned money for as she destryed my life and have to bear so much because of this. why should i waste my money for someone who never been part of my life and just used me. kindly reply

2007-06-19 07:33:37 · 5 answers · asked by sammeer j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-19 07:32:05 · 1 answers · asked by Mychelle B 1 in Singles & Dating

1) If them came at you all at once?
2) If they came at you 1 at a time in 5 second intervals?
3) If they came at you 2 at a time in 5 second intervals?

2007-06-19 07:31:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Just got engaged & am being a total girl looking at options, etc. =) but this stuff is WAY more expensive than I ever imagined! Can anyone give estimates on *approximate* prices for the following:
cake
food (catered, buffet style -not formal)
photographer
rental of chairs, tables, etc.
I live in Ohio, if location matters.
Thanks so much! I want to do a lot of it myself, to save money, but really don't want to skimp on what I have listed above.

2007-06-19 07:29:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I have been w/my bf for about 4 1/2 yrs and he has had a vasectomy about 12yrs ago and he told me from the start that he cant not have any more kids. (this was when we first started dating and he said that I had to make sure this was What I wanted not have any kids and be with him) or have a kid and not be with him. But at the time I wasn't thinkin gabout haveing kids but know i really want one maybe because all of my friends have them and my Brother has two a boy and a girl I love them so much that most of my money goes to them.Everytime I am sad it's because of this and all my bf ask is whats wrong and all i have to tell him the thing we don't talk about .well on fathers day i brought it up and he ask why was i in a bad mood all day long. then he ask the thing we don't talk about and i told Whats it matter if its the thing we don't get anymwhere with it you don't talk to me about it and he kinda yelled at me and said WHAT do you want from me?? oh that pissed me off so I walked out

2007-06-19 07:29:40 · 9 answers · asked by Blah Blah Blah 2 in Singles & Dating

okay im writing a story, kinda sad, but i need help.
a 14 yr old girl, who just happens 2 be an alien hybrid, has a greatr life. then her mom dies while giving birth. her dad is very sad and leaves her alone 4 a while. when he comes back he is very very drunk. he blames her 4 her mom's death and then they get in an arguement. he hits her and then leaves, leaving her with her brother and 1 mon. sister. wat would u do? i really need alot of help. writers block i guess.

2007-06-19 07:29:21 · 3 answers · asked by Shiri 1 in Family

I am doing it nicely not to hurt her feelings... Once she was almost ready and then she changed her mind... Are there any arguments I can use to persuade her to do something that will benefit our relationship?! I am running out of patience and seem to be losing attraction since she is only a b cup! Why am I always the only one trying to work things out!

Btw, before you start criticism... I am well packing down there!

2007-06-19 07:28:00 · 34 answers · asked by Ronnie 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay I have been going out with my boyfriend of 1 year now, and i recently told him I didn't not wanyt him anymore. Keep in mind he is older then me by seven years. i really didn't mean what I said now i want him back what is the best way to get him back......

2007-06-19 07:21:45 · 2 answers · asked by asia 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are separated, but share custody of our 5 yr old daughter. Every year we go with my family for a beach bash on 4th of July. We have stayed friends and he adores his little girl. I know she wants him there, and I do too. He and my boyfriend hate eachother. For my daughter's sake , should I continue tradition and invite him along? Or do I owe it to my boyfriend to start new traditions?

2007-06-19 07:21:21 · 28 answers · asked by nina 2 in Marriage & Divorce

. . . to break off an engagement because his fiance wasn't willing to do something in bed he wants?

I was in love with this girl, we had a great 2 years, but no oral. She wanted to get married. Everything seemed about right, I was open to the idea, and she even told everyone we were getting married (but I hadn't proposed yet) when I got tired of her excuses. I was faced with a long marriage of incomplete sex, and didn't want that. She wasn't willing to compromise, thought I'd get over it. Well, I didn't, and I left her. She blames me now for ruining her life and has said repeatedly that she wants to get back together, but she still won't do that. And it's that important to me. I've moved on. I wish she would. I've decided I'm old enough to know what I want, and that's part of it. I still kinda love her, but I have to put my self-respect first. Was I wrong?

2007-06-19 07:19:54 · 21 answers · asked by Creamer 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-19 07:17:09 · 48 answers · asked by Sasso's Babygirl 2 in Friends

my fiance have been through alot and we have made some big mistakes and when i was pregnat he was always wanting to party and and did some drugs and i know he made some big mistakes and i just wish i could forget about them well i have been really grumpy with him b/c every time i think about it i just get so mad at him and he is my world and we love each other so much and i know this but i just wish i could get rid of the past

2007-06-19 07:14:32 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffany T 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i don't want him to be like all 20 questions on me.............he started datign at like 12 so he can't say i'm to young............i'm also afriad my mom will be like OOOOooooooo tell me about him.........

anyways to get a quick yes then get away b4 the questions come flying at me

2007-06-19 07:10:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Whether your married or in a long-time relationship...have you ever found yourself thinking of wanting to have sex with just one more person, one more time?

2007-06-19 07:08:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im 15 going on 16. I have pakistanni parents. They dont trust me. I want to go cinema and my parents wont let me go as there is no one to watch us. How can i resure my parents that it will be ok. Also How can i get my parentsto trust me they didnt trust me before but hey dont trust me as i skipped school for 1 day. So how can i get the to trust me and give me freedom.

serious answers please

thanks

2007-06-19 07:07:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I was married for last 6 years, Last week my wife moved out with my 2 sons 1 year old and 21/2 year old when i was at work, send me court papers for divorce, I found out after she had moved out that she moved out because she was cheating on me and she is seeing someone else.
I told her if you want to move on with your life fine but you should leave the kids at home she said to me " I talked to attorneny and there is no way you can have kids" She is not into drugs.
But I found out that she drained my bank accounts in last 3 months, she forged my name to get money form our bank she will write a check in my name forge my name and withdraw cash.
I have her parents who are willing to testify for me that kids will be better off with me.
I went a saw attorney to get custod of my kids but I am not getting a very satisfying answer from them.
Can someone sugest what can I do I want my kids out of that mess.

2007-06-19 07:04:45 · 7 answers · asked by SJ Grewall 1 in Marriage & Divorce

anyyyyythign will help me

2007-06-19 07:03:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have just come home from school and found my mum in bed with my boyfriend what should i do should i tell my dad

2007-06-19 07:01:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family