i havent had a boyfriend in 3 years! i'm 18!! people tell me that im not ugly, im very smart --going to a great university in september-- guys are just not attracted to me, oh yeah, and im pretty shy but only around new people
i know where to meet guys but it just never works out... i even tried going to this club but all of the guys were completely wasted ...and i should basically give up because this is pointless....i will never meet anyone willing to give me a chance .......
2007-06-19 07:51:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing is wrong with you. Odds are if you are very shy that guys don;t feel comfortable approaching you because they can feel the vibe coming from you that you are uncertain.
You sound like a great girl. Have some confidence in yourself and go out and talk to some people. Join a few clubs when you start college. Get involved with a few things. It'll start getting easier. I was SO shy is High school... I almost fainted the day my crush found out I liked him... but he was so good about it.
Now I'm married to him. Just move at your own pace, don't rush... but start to get involved like I said. The more people you meet the better. Don;t worry if you are a little awkward at first. It'll come.
Good luck!
2007-06-19 07:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by supergirlandguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your ONLY 18!!! Don't think there is anything wrong with you. You should be thinking about yourself right now. Your going away to college in the fall and there will be plenty of guys around.
It seems the more you want to have a boyfriend the harder it is to find one. Sit back a relax. You are going to have a great time at college. It happens when you least expect it.
Good luck in school!
2007-06-19 08:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not think of it as pointless, you will meet a person who will be everything you ever wanted. If it has taken you this long then it has for a reason and when you find that person it will make it all the better..Maybe you are just looking to hard? Dont give up because there is someone out there for you.
2007-06-19 07:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by slayer1252001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from the sounds of things, either A, you're not looking for the right kind of guys, or B, they're intimidated by you. Most men don't like intelligent women, despite what they say, because it makes them feel inferior. The testosterone in their system makes them feel that they have to prove their dominance in every aspect. Men have a bad habit of being ashamed of being surpassed by their female counterparts in any aspect of their life. There are those that can deal with this issue, and others who simply don't even think about it, but these are the men that are referred to as "few and far between" just be patient, good things come to those who wait.....just be open, remember that ANY guy COULD be Mr. Right, he's just gotta be right for you.
2007-06-19 07:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Radley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about your attitude. If you know you're gonna get someone you will. If you're constantly "knowing" your not going to get someone you won't. Your attitude will attract people, it's like a sent. Be confident, don't worry about not having a boyfriend, enjoy being single! Shoot girl, you should rock the single life at 18, I know I did. I flirted with every guy in a 10 foot radius and it was fun times!
2007-06-19 07:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, don't say that you are only 18, you still have time if the world isnt ending tomorrow! Don't give up! Someone will notice you or maybe have enough courage to approach them, alot of guys are just as shy...sadly so who will make the first move? Good luck!
2007-06-19 07:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by lyricessgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18. You have plenty of time to find someone worth going out with. Don't give up on yourself. Try looking outside of the bars and clubs. Don't despair. Just keep looking.
2007-06-19 07:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by r.p. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all a club is not the right place to met a guy or a guy you would call (the one). Its certainly not you, you just cant go out and expect some one to jump into your arms you got to give it time you know. the right guy will come at the right time.
2007-06-19 08:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out meeting people with the notion of finding someone. Noone likes to be desperate, nor are they attracted to desperate individuals! Keep an open mindset, and just go out there, be yourself and have fun. :) Make new friends, get to know them. Your time will come.
2007-06-19 08:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Honeyonfiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try an Internet dating service when you find someone of interest write them spend a while writing them, then talk on the phone and eventually meet in a public place. I found my husband this way good luck
2007-06-19 08:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋