I have been w/my bf for about 4 1/2 yrs and he has had a vasectomy about 12yrs ago and he told me from the start that he cant not have any more kids. (this was when we first started dating and he said that I had to make sure this was What I wanted not have any kids and be with him) or have a kid and not be with him. But at the time I wasn't thinkin gabout haveing kids but know i really want one maybe because all of my friends have them and my Brother has two a boy and a girl I love them so much that most of my money goes to them.Everytime I am sad it's because of this and all my bf ask is whats wrong and all i have to tell him the thing we don't talk about .well on fathers day i brought it up and he ask why was i in a bad mood all day long. then he ask the thing we don't talk about and i told Whats it matter if its the thing we don't get anymwhere with it you don't talk to me about it and he kinda yelled at me and said WHAT do you want from me?? oh that pissed me off so I walked out
2007-06-19 07:29:40 · 9 answers · asked by Blah Blah Blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He had a vasectomy. What the hell do you expect - that's he'll get it reversed so you can keep up with the Joneses? I suspect that if you stay with this guy you're going to end out an old, bitter woman. More so than you are already...
2007-06-19 07:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you walked out ?!!?!? WTF !?!?!?!
You've been with this guy for 4 and 1/2 YEARS, he let you know going into the relationship that he didn't want any kids and you agreed. Now - 4 and 1/2 years later, "I um, I guess I changed my mind".
And your the one that's pissed - that takes the cake !!!!!
I'd say its a deal breaker and I would not be surprised if HE's the one that calls it off.
What if he just came home one day, was all sad and poutty, you ask him what's wrong and he tells you he decided he's GAY ???? Then got mad at you for not understanding.
You F*cked this one up big time. You should have NEVER let it go 4 and 1/2 years if you EVER thought (in the back of your tiny little mind somewhere) that you might want to have kids someday in the future.
I'd want to b*tch slap you from here to next week if I were him.
Its over - go pack your stuff and move on - hopefully you can learn from this before you go and waste another 4 and 1/2 years of your's and someone else's life again.
2007-06-19 14:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his mind cannot be swayed, I'd say you're better off leaving each other...the way you guys are going now, it'll just be a matter of time before you drive each other way...
Your maternal instincts have kicked in by the sounds however, he isn't going to change...
So ask yourself what it is you really, really want here.
Addition: Even if he did get the vasectomy reversed, there is no guarantee that it will be sucessful...then what will you do?
2007-06-19 14:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having children? or your boyfriend? Since you were thinking long term with your boyfriend at the beginning, now your at the fork in the road where you Have to choose, b/c it depends on your happiness. Does he already have any children? Most females dream of having their own children and everything, would he consider adoption? Give him options so y'all can talk about it, if he's not willing to compromise than you might just have to move on. Good luck
2007-06-19 14:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥NotJustaPrettyFace♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had a vasectomy...isn't it impossible for him to have children? In any event, he was upfront with you, he doesn't want children..you should have listened to him in the first place & u wouldn't be dealing with this years later. Personally, I know I want to have children & if I started dating a guy who said I don't wanna ever have kids then I'd be like then we r not meant to be...
Anyways, i say if this is really impt to you, then you need to move on b/c it doesn't sound like he will or can chnage his mind. good luck.
2007-06-19 14:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jen J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miss Blah Blah Blah ! Hon the guy sounds hard hearted and clueless ! Find a man with whom you can be one minded wih ! Get married and have a family ! I will pray for that.
2007-06-19 14:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ok with not having kids, then no problem. BUT, if you know that someday you will want them, then get out now! Don't waste time, he will not change his mind, and you shouldn't try to change him.
2007-06-19 14:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by o b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try adopting a kid maybe?
2007-06-19 14:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him
2007-06-19 14:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋