Family & Relationships - 18 June 2007

my wife and i have been married for 12 years...our whole marriage i have been in the marines...although its a hard life we get through it...our love is strong enough that it gets us through the minutes, days, months and years away from each other...i just got back from a deployment one of the longest i have had...i just got orders to report to japan for 6 months....although our love is strong...i haven't even been back for more then two months and i feel that even though we would make things work if i go to japan i feel it would be too hard....i know that i am the only one who can answer this question..but i need some support....i love being a marine..but i have missed every birth of my children except one...i have missed first words first steps...my wife graduating from college. i have missed enough...i have talked it over with my wife and she said 12 years in the military whats a few more...being in military or out life is still hard...

2007-06-18 18:45:03 · 14 answers · asked by adrik c 3 in Marriage & Divorce

what do i do?

2007-06-18 18:43:31 · 23 answers · asked by kool_mysterious_kid 1 in Singles & Dating

ok... a guy that is 5yrs older than me wants us to be friends with benefits (he has a gf too). He keeps saying he wants to make out with me...I will have to sneak out at night to see him though. I really really like him and we have been friends for a LONG time. i dont know if I should trust him though because he has a gf. We talk constantly about making out and how we both want to do it.
Should I trust him????????? I need help!!!

2007-06-18 18:42:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-18 18:38:44 · 9 answers · asked by lexie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i don't sleep around, i'm mostly a one man girl. but being single now. there are some nights when i just want to do almost any mildly attractive guy. even if i'm alone with a male co-worker, i secretly wonder how they would react if i just went over and stradled them when we're alone in the back office. i never act on it though.

2007-06-18 18:38:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The way I see it there is none. The advantage is all to the woman.
If the marriage ends in divorce ,she gets 1/2 his wealth.
What does a man get that he could not have unmarried?

2007-06-18 18:32:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mom promised me should would stop smoking but its just gotten worse than ever. My moms frnd ambre smokes a lot could that be an influence for her to smoke? I need to get answers i dont want her to die because of lung cancer please help.

2007-06-18 18:28:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Men are egoistic in nature. If a girl wanna protect a relationship, should we become secretive in all accomplisments we achieved/be a little low about it? Shouldn't we be proud of it?

2007-06-18 18:22:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and can it be considered rape if u have sex with sumone 2 yrs. younger...or 1 yr. younger??

im just wonderin cuz i saw a show about how a guy went to jail cus he was too old to have sex with sum girl..it was weird..

2007-06-18 18:14:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-18 18:10:38 · 6 answers · asked by longleggs 1 in Singles & Dating

We've been together a total of three years. She's had 4 sexual partners before me. She's was my first sexual partner. Recently I've been insanely jealous of her previous sexual partners. Even though I know she was never serious with any of them, I still seeth inside at the thought of her 'like that' with another man.

I know that she loves me, and that I am the first person she has truly loved. The same if true for me. Love is not a problem, I have no doubts about her affections. I also have no reason to be suspicious, in all the time we've been together she's been nothing but the perfect loving partner.

But I cannot help but think of her having sex with her previous guys she dated, even if she didn't love them. These thoughts have caused some performance anxiety problems for me of late in the bedroom, but I keep thinking that she's had better than me and is much more experienced. She tells me she really enjoys the sex we have...

I'm really confused and need help...

2007-06-18 18:05:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We've been 2gether 15 yrs married 4 1yr. We have an 11 yr old. It seems 2 me that he has always tried to make me feel bad about myslf. A few yrs ago that changed. I broke our relationship off in 04', we were apart for 11 mnts, he wld call everyday, except when he was drunk somewhere saying he loved,missed and wanted his fmly back-he is a smart guy great at his job, but when it comes to home life, he puts his frnz and pot b4 d family. i was so tired of it, he promised to stop, which he did for a while!He went back to his old habits rt after we got married.now i think he drinks&smokes more.this wkend he almost had a confrontation w/ my mom, he has never disrespected my parents, he actually told my mom "if i dnt care wt my own mom has 2 say why wld i care about ur opinion"i am so mad! When we got home it turned in2 a big fight &he wntd me 2 choose him or my family-i gnored him then he said he dsnt luv or want me n-e way (we dont have sex often but im ok w/it)now he's sorry!

2007-06-18 17:54:35 · 10 answers · asked by mita07 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We're having our reception at a country club and it really can't be beat for price. We're paying no facility charge, and only per meal, the max being 29/person if we chose filet minion.

However, when I went in today to pay the downpayment, he talked about some of the other costs. For instance, if I want the napkins folded any way other than standard folded in a rectangle, I have to pay 1 dollar per napkin "because it takes a lot of time and is tedious"

Is this normal? They also wanted to charge me 5 dollars per chair if I wanted chair covers. They told me I can decorate however I want and come in anytime that day (or my family) to do so, so I'm thinking of just renting the damn linens myself and folding the napkins and covering the chairs for much, much less.

Another hidden charge: 1 dollar per person to cut and serve the cake. That might be normal though.

2007-06-18 17:44:02 · 19 answers · asked by xvnicolevx 2 in Weddings

my fiancee is cursing at me, calling me a f*#@&ng ***** and saying things like he should break my neck. The next morning he says he doesn't remember it happening. He appears to be fully awake and coherent and it happens more and more frequently. Is this something I should be afraid of? How do I know if he is serious or if it is just something on a subconsious level. What shold I do?

2007-06-18 17:42:04 · 33 answers · asked by fnkyjunkie 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay well I know that I'll be recieving some good and bad advice, hey I need it.
I am involved with a married man for 2 1/2 yrs.
I know Im scum HOME Wrecker all that B>S .
But when it started we were friend's nothing more, as time went by, I noticed he would defend, help, or try to catch my att.
he would then ask if I was ok. I guess just to start a conversation, what Im trying to say is that I was'nt interested, and there was nothing there until he started to chase a younger girl, Im 25 he's 47 lol I know.
I never really looked his way, never had an interest,, until he figured me out, knew what I was attracted to.
Humor, Nice teeth, so our relationship is to weird we are bestfriends, I am so hurt because I knew, but I never thought I could love him, we never argue, and he's everything to me, I finally got the courage up to tell him I was miserable I did'nt want this, but he tricked me, and I dont want to be the cause for a divorce, I need to forget him...its his fault....

2007-06-18 17:36:13 · 10 answers · asked by luv2nvu2002 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we have a baby together. We live with his mom. Both of us are attending college and we are both currently working. He just picked up this new job in a business called primerica, and lately he has no time for me. When he gets home from work, he gets in the computer or starts playing games on his x-box. It drives me crazy!! I feel so lonely sometimes, and want to go back home. What should I do??

2007-06-18 17:33:38 · 58 answers · asked by wendy_90011 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-18 17:31:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is it wrong to date or go out with a guy thats 12yrs older? does the guy feel awkward/uncomfortable? i'm 19; he's 31. does he think i'm immature? do you think that he thinks i'd cramp his style -socially amongst his friends? he told me that he doesn't know when i asked him after working with him for a year if he liked-liked me. he said that our hearts are close - whats that mean? he said that i am like his little sister - what on earth is that suppose to mean? i really like this guy, he means the world to me. i feel heartbroken and hurt. when i worked with him it was as though he recharged my batteries - i was so happy full of life, he told me that he also felt that way. he also said which he never brought up in conversation before that he was in a relationship whilst saying that its nothing deep - again what on earth is that? i'm confused and upset - mixed emotions. would like to get deep and thoughtful responses.

2007-06-18 17:29:52 · 10 answers · asked by z 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-18 17:26:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met my boyfriend June of 2005. We had a wonderful relationship. February of 2006, I found out that I was pregnant and I informed him. The baby was delivered September of 2006 and she came out healthy and strong. From the discovery of my pregnancy to date, he has not proposed. Fellas, after pregnating a female, y wont u propose?????

2007-06-18 17:26:44 · 16 answers · asked by Sidudzile 1 in Weddings

She is 13 years old and is now pregnant, I dont know how I can help her or react, my parents think that shes a bad influence on me and I shouldnt be hanging around her, but I love her to death and we have always been best friends. She also wants to name it Priscilla and I dont like that name at all, but I dont want to hurt her feelings!?!?! Please help me!

2007-06-18 17:24:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I just met this guy like 3-4 weeks ago at my best friend's baptism, he's her cousin. That night, my friend asked me to hang out with her and him and a couple of other people, so we've been kinda group dating. It was always him, his best friend and me and my best friend. My friend told me he likes me and he really has taken an interest in me. He asked my number only a week ago, and my mom already wants to meet him! We've only been on alone dates two times, and the first time it was barely a date, just a walk around my neighborhood. The only thing we;ve done so far is hold hands, but that was like for a couple of minutes! I'm still shy around him, and even though he talks alot, I can tell he's kinda nervous too. He just said he's guna come over tomarrow night and I don't know what to do! We're not even officially dating yet, and he's the first guy I'm ever taking serious, no other guy i've hung out with has ever met my parents, but my mom really wants to meet him! I'M FREAKING OUT!

2007-06-18 17:22:57 · 18 answers · asked by Chic 3 in Singles & Dating

So, funny story. My fiance proposed to me on March 4th, when we were vacationing in Edinburgh, Scotland. I took some antibiotics before we left, which renders birth control useless (something I did not know). So, I literally got pregnant the day he asked me to marry him. We came back and started planning the wedding and everything was going great until suddenly I was three weeks late and throwing up everything I'd eaten since the age of ten.

The problem is: his mother is very, very conservative. She told me in a very no-nonsense way that I was to return my beautiful white dress for a cream or ivory one because I was pregnant. I obviously don't want to do this.

What would you do?

2007-06-18 17:20:39 · 15 answers · asked by Eleni 3 in Weddings

If you had just met a woman who would do ANYTHING to make your "fantasy" come true... What would your fantasy be and how would you want it played out? My man says he doesn't like surprises, but I don't know what it is he wants...

Just need something to help my imagination. Any ideas?

2007-06-18 17:20:28 · 16 answers · asked by oOMissMoonOo 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-18 17:17:12 · 16 answers · asked by skyuae 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-18 17:06:59 · 16 answers · asked by deep 2 in Marriage & Divorce

we didnt see each other for a long time and i told her that we should go on a date or something. but today i went to burger king because i was hungry. but she was there but outside the burgerking. i sense that she was there but i never thought i was right so i just went home without noticing that she was there and she didnt realize i was there too. what do you guys think?

2007-06-18 17:05:04 · 2 answers · asked by Im here just to inspire others. 2 in Friends

I would like to know if this is gramatically correct..or if it can be phrased better....

2007-06-18 17:03:53 · 10 answers · asked by KoolG 1 in Weddings

2007-06-18 16:51:51 · 7 answers · asked by p_bontz 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I can't see each other for 3 weeks and can't talk period for a week. When he gets back I wanna get him something special and from the heart! Please give me an idea! Nothing expensive..something cute..he likes things like that!

Thanks : - ]

2007-06-18 16:51:46 · 5 answers · asked by YoungLove 1 in Singles & Dating