Men are egoistic in nature. If a girl wanna protect a relationship, should we become secretive in all accomplisments we achieved/be a little low about it? Shouldn't we be proud of it?
2007-06-18 18:22:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Proud of it and flaunting it are two different things.
Be proud of your accomplishments but do NOT push it in his face, boast to friends that you make more than him--especially in mixed company or in front of him.
Tell him that his contributions to the household and finances are important. That you couldn't do it alone without him. Let him make financial decisions. And above all---don't use the phrase "it's my money"----no, no---"it's OUR money".
2007-06-18 18:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most companies try to hire minorities so they can be more diverse(it looks good on the books).As far as who is tuffer to work for, I would say a minority working for a minority. I am white and used to have a black boss,he was hard on everyone that worked for him,very demanding. He was much harder on other black people when he found them slacking on the job than he was white people.The reason was because he expected more from them. This may sound racist in a way, but I don't think it was at all. He was the only Black supervisor in our entire division when he started. Now we have about 20 Black people working in management, almost every one of them promoted from his departments by upper management. He is second in charge of the entire division now. I have seen this man fire both Black & white people for making racist comments. It all depends on how you look at the whole thing.Was he being a racist? Or trying to teach others how to get ahead and get the promotion through disipline. Also I don't believe in being politicaly correct ( African American ,Caucasion, etc). There are Black people in Austrailia too. Personally I am more of a Heintz 57 lol. I hope this doesn't offend ,and maybe even helps.
2016-05-19 08:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can be proud about it just don't boast or brag or belittle the other person. I'm sure he has alot of gifts himself that he can do even if he dosen't make as much as you. Maybe he's a good listener kind loving towards you great around the house. SO don't measure a man by how much he makes. He can make a ton and be terrible towards you. Be thankful he's a good man and he makes you happy. thats more important than any amount of money. Money can't buy happiness and true love.
2007-06-18 19:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have been raised to believe that, and are continued to be petty in that way because women continue to guard their so fragile egos from every being challenged. If a man loves you and wants to be with you, than who makes more money shouldn't (although I know it does) define the relationship. And all accomplishment of both partners should be celebrated equally, LIFE TOGETHER Should be celebrated every day, and the life of your partner should be brought up to the level of understanding that accomplishments in life of any nature and the way they are responded to by others defines the core responses of one who is doing the accomplishing. Good luck.
2007-06-18 18:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is training to be a chef, which is notoriously badly paid, but it's what he loves doing so I'm not standing in his way. At the moment I earn more than he does, but it's not an issue as I know he is working so hard, the hours he works are crazy and in the long run it will be worth it because when he makes head chef his wages will be more than mine.
2007-06-19 03:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man loves a woman....he would be proud of her accomplishments nomatter what.. Might spark a bit of competition between them but a healthy one..
I think honesty is the best policy..
And yes be proud!!!
2007-06-18 18:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rebel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be the case with me and my husband i dont think he cares. Just remember he's the man of the house so treat him so. Treat him as a king and never put him under you because that's not how its supposed to be. Even let him be right sometimes even if he isnt lol Never will have a problem.
2007-06-18 18:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a better lifestyle, you're going to have to pay for more than he does simply because you have more than he does. If this doesn't bother you or him, then what does it really matter who earns more money??? Believe me, the real problem is when neither person in the relationship has money...otherwise, as long as there's money coming in, enjoy yourselves. Neither one of you will be able to take it to the grave with you.
2007-06-18 18:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by sunny1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. My hubby never did like when I made management! It didn't matter what I made. As we grow older together, he said he wouldn't mind if I had a big salary and took care of him like a sugar mamma!! lol We as WOMEN,,should not hide anything about ourselfs and our accomplishments, but no one likes a bragger! You have to be yourself from the start, love yourself for who you are and ROCK THE WORLD!!
2007-06-18 18:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case my wife can make more money then because of over time..she is an RN and can put in a lot more over time then i can..im in the marines and have a degree in engineering...i dont feel like less of a man because of that....its great to know that if something were to happen to me my wife can make a life for her and my children....im just lucky enough that im able to provide for my family right now which enables her to be a stay at home mom...but believe me if we were in trouble financially i would be mr mom and she would be working...its how secure you feel with yourself as well as your relationship..
2007-06-18 18:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by adrik c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋