We've been 2gether 15 yrs married 4 1yr. We have an 11 yr old. It seems 2 me that he has always tried to make me feel bad about myslf. A few yrs ago that changed. I broke our relationship off in 04', we were apart for 11 mnts, he wld call everyday, except when he was drunk somewhere saying he loved,missed and wanted his fmly back-he is a smart guy great at his job, but when it comes to home life, he puts his frnz and pot b4 d family. i was so tired of it, he promised to stop, which he did for a while!He went back to his old habits rt after we got married.now i think he drinks&smokes more.this wkend he almost had a confrontation w/ my mom, he has never disrespected my parents, he actually told my mom "if i dnt care wt my own mom has 2 say why wld i care about ur opinion"i am so mad! When we got home it turned in2 a big fight &he wntd me 2 choose him or my family-i gnored him then he said he dsnt luv or want me n-e way (we dont have sex often but im ok w/it)now he's sorry!
2007-06-18 17:54:35 · 10 answers · asked by mita07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If u read this on the singles&dating section, yes this is the same person, I thought I originally posted here. Sorry to the single people hope I didn't scare you about "marriage"LOL and thank u so much for your replies!
2007-06-18 17:57:11 · update #1
Ask yourself.. are you going to endure him till the day you die? Or, can you endure such behaviour till the day you die? When someone says sorry and never do it again, then it means that he is sincere about the apology but if it happens again and again, under influience of alcohol/drug, ???
Please think about what you want in life and move on with it.
God bless you.
2007-06-18 18:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You just described my previous life. My ex husband was an alcoholic, pot smoker, random drug user, etc. He was constantly abusing me, apologizing after getting drunk and then doing it all over again. The breaking point was when he called my mom a c*** for no reason. He left to go get high and I moved out. He had no idea it was coming. I dealt with it for 4 years and then I divorced him. It was the best decision of my life. I am now happily married to a wonderful man and do not ever regret my decision for one second. Hope this helps. Email me if you want to talk more.
2016-05-19 07:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your child to grow up and be just like him? Or think it is okay to treat his/her partner the way you are being treated? Or allow himself/herself to be treated?
Leave. NOW!
If he can complete a drug abuse program and get counselling for the abuse issues-then talk to him in a year. You also need to get counselling to find out why you have allowed this treatment to continue. Do not isolate yourself from the people who love you and care about you. The "pick me or your family" coming from an abuser is used to cull you from the herd and prey on your weaknesses.
Please think long and hard about how you want to live your life and how you want your child to behave as an adult!
2007-06-18 18:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is right for you and your child and to be honest, having him around doesn't sound like a great influence on your child. You need to decide what you want to do then do it. I personally would leave and not let him back until he was totally cleaned up and I saw that for a while but I would also go on with my life until that.
2007-06-18 18:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by caligal68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 14 yrs ago.
2007-06-18 17:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by icraftyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short to live miserable, and only you have the power to make your life what you want it to be. Sounds like you need to dump the loser and enjoy your life before its to late!!!
2007-06-18 18:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Larissa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that enough has been enough a long time ago, time
for you to move on, and do what is best for you and your
family. he not going to change it sound like so you have to
be the bigger person.
2007-06-18 18:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relationship is no good. get out. i made it alone with three kids in a strange state with only 15.00. you can do it. get away from him. find someone else. someone that makes you happy. life's too short!
2007-06-18 18:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he says he's sorry doesn't mean he really is. If he was sorry for all the hurt he is causing you and the kids he would stop.
2007-06-18 18:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by clairebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you either need to let him know that he needs counseling or just get out. You don't need to take it from him. you also would benefit from some counseling.
2007-06-18 18:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋