Should I dump him?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we have a baby together. We live with his mom. Both of us are attending college and we are both currently working. He just picked up this new job in a business called primerica, and lately he has no time for me. When he gets home from work, he gets in the computer or starts playing games on his x-box. It drives me crazy!! I feel so lonely sometimes, and want to go back home. What should I do??

Answer 1

This boy wants the benefits of a live in relationship but not the responsibilities. Hes not a man yet. Go home where you will at least have someone to talk to. Next time pick a man not a boy.

Answer 2

Hey girl. I know where you're coming from. I know how hard it is for both parents to work and go to school, spend time with the baby and then give each other the attention you want and need. It's hard to balance it all. Seems almost impossible. What I suggest is for you to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. The both of you can think of some suggestions on how to better the situation (Come up with a realistic plan). One other very important suggestion is for YOU to take some initiative to do something with him. Make some plans without his input. Put something into play yourself instead of waiting on him. Maybe once or twice a month you guys can get a babysitter and do something really special together. Maybe during the week you can do some of the little things that can make a big difference. Taking a shower/bath together, eating dinner together, watching a moving together (go out and rent a movie on your own, invite him to take a shower with you, light some candles and have a nice quiet dinner) What? is he going to say no or straight up tell you that he rather play his game? Hopefully he'll follow your lead and he'll want to do something special for you.
Because you guys are stressed and tired all the time It's easy to get stuck in the same routine day in and day out. And you forget how to have fun together, lose the romance and ultimately become miserable with each other.The video game is his way to wind down at the end of the day. It's a mindless activity for him to do and a way to
"get away" for a while. It's ok for him to play as long as he gives you the attention you need too. Do you have any hobbies? if not, Look into getting one. Do something that you love doing b/c you need your time away too.
Try being spontaneous and do things that will please him.
The idea is to get him motivated again not to kiss his *** and not get anything in return. You both have to put forth an effort to make it work. But someone needs to get the motivation to take the initiative and make a good change in the relationship. If after you've tried and tried and you know that you've given it 100% and you don't see him putting forth any effort then don't continue to waste your time. Time is precious and you don't want your baby growing up seeing you unhappy.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

GO with your gut. Try to communicate with him and see if he wants to change back to the great guy you met. If not, maybe he needs a wake-up call. Those games are an addiction just like gambling and drinking. His family should come first. The fact you are living with his family is also putting a strain on your relationship. You guys need to get out of there and get your own place, and set aside a "date night." Also, if he's home anyway, go out with your friends a couple of nights a week. That will whip him back into shape because he will see that you're just fine without him. Don't be needy or lonely, be confident!

Answer 4

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't care- and does not make any changes and if you feel that you don't love him anymore- you can leave. However, his new job maybe keeping him very busy and he may need to unwind playing video games. He needs to move out of his mother's house with you and the baby- and it is important for him to work hard to get enough money to do that. In that case you should support him through this. You're in a sticky situation and a child is involved. Think hard before taking any decisions.

Answer 5

Well you guys have to talk. And tel him that he's got to grow up both outside the house and at home. Becuase he's got a family now and he needs to take responsibility for both his wife & child. If he insists on not listening then tell him that you will leave him unless he changes. If he doesnt really change then pack your bags and take your baby you've got to get out of there before things get ugly. But seriously, have a sit down with him and tell him how you feel and hopefully he'll understand and change.

Hope things work out <3

Answer 6

I don't think you should dump him right away. First of all your married and have a child. Tell him that he needs to spend less time on the x box and more time on his child because that should be his number one priority. Talk to him about it and if he can't drop his games for you than you should leave him and than he will see your really what is most important to him not a video game. Some people get stuck in a gaming world and lose track of reality.

Answer 7

You've been with him for 2 years and have a kid together and you want to dump him because he plays some video games?? How old are you? You sound like a 12 year old. Be a responsible adult, think about your child, and talk to this guy if you really think you are having problems. Dumping him because he is playing his X-box is hardly a good reason to leave the father of your child.

Answer 8

Sales is a really tough business to get into. He has been listening to people lie to him all day and make lame excuses and can't call them on it. I am not saying that he is neglecting you but I want to put you to have an idea of the frame of mind that he is in. Imagine making 200 phone calls (this is a conservative estimate) in one day listening to all those excuses. The only thing that you can do is talk to him. Also, I would get his mother on your side somehow. Chances are she is tired of him playing X-Box, too. Especially, if she is letting you guys live with them. I wouldn't dump hm just yet....you are just starting to root down and I wouldn't throw all that away but let him know what is going on most definitely!!!!
Good Luck,
-H
PS-he needs to help with the diapers!

Answer 9

You are basically a single parent and he is marries to video games. Is this the type of man who will be a role model for your child? And a role model doesn't start when the child starts school. If he can't spend time with his family, then a tough decision may actually be an easy one to make.

Answer 10

You have a child together, you can't simply "dump him" - you will most likely have to be dealing with him for at least 16 more years - since you don't have your own place and are not happy there, yes, move back home where you can at least interact with other people who know you!