Family & Relationships - 11 June 2007

i want this guy to like me

2007-06-11 05:00:01 · 4 answers · asked by F*ck*n Er*n 2 in Singles & Dating

He is very wealthy and well respected in the community, I am a stay at home mom, and dont have any friends as people keep on running to him about stories of me bad mouthing him. I can't deal with his ex or his daughter, neither can he deal with mine. He has a very aggresive streak, which scares me, but for the first time he hurt me, hit my head against the wall, gabbed me by my neck, pulled my hair out, I hit him back, all this happened infront of our kids that we had together (ages 2 and 4) He demands me to get out his house, if I dont he will disconnect the electicity, show the world I cant look after my children, he takes away the car. But when he calms down he cries, says what a bad man he is, bad father, and I forgave him every time.
Now 2 weeks after the abuse, it hit me that THIS is what I never wanted from a relationship, this is not me. But I can not speak to him he will get angry again and ......knows what he would do, should I go for councelling?

2007-06-11 04:59:43 · 18 answers · asked by Ella 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he hasn't answered me back about the question yet. im worried

2007-06-11 04:59:24 · 5 answers · asked by Lynn21_1999 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been hanging out with a guy for a couple of weeks who says I'm cute and funny, and better to hang out with than his other friends. We talk every day, we've been to the movies, had lunch by the river, walked around the city, he came to the pub with me n my friends etc...
He knows I dont hook up or sleep around, and he says thats what he likes about me. He was meant to meet me at the pub last night but there was a 2 hr line to get in when he go there so he said he was goin to another place with his bro, but wanted me to go too and said i could sleep at his place. I didn't go. His brother told me he speaks very highly of me.
We always joke about giving each other massages as compensation for random insults, but tonight he went that step further and actually organised for me to come over to give me a massage in a few days.
One of my guy friends who doesnt even know the guy says he could be just after a hook up... is this true? I thought he really liked me?

Dont tell me 2 ask

2007-06-11 04:59:01 · 10 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend's boyfriend rapes her and she's been tryna break up with him but everytime she tries he starts yelling at her and says he's gone marry her and if he buys her a ring and she breaks up with him he's gone kill her and idk what to tell her. Only adult she's told is her counselor at school and her counselor says she cant tell her what to do so she doesnt know what to do.

2007-06-11 04:58:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Do friends of opposite sex hold hands as a friendly gesture? Or is there something more?

2007-06-11 04:57:35 · 35 answers · asked by tangy 2 in Singles & Dating

Theres this guy and i have liked him for about two years.. he is my best friend that is a guy and he is always there for me.. when i am with him a am constinatly smiling and i am so happy..and when im not with him i am thinking about him..hes about to go to collage so i just dont knwo what to do??

2007-06-11 04:56:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:56:35 · 11 answers · asked by the_lady_1984 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

now, im not one for low self confidence, but lately, my relationships arent going very well. lately, whenever ive asked a girl out, she says yes, but a couple of days later, ill get a text on my cell saying that "its not working out", now im a sweet, caring and loyal guy, what i dont understand is why this keeps happening to me, im not the worst looking dog in the pound either... please, could i just have some friendly advice?

2007-06-11 04:55:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

tell me if i ask over and over if my man is cheatin g i just dont know.he dont call me any more andand when were on the phone we argueabout his cousin.and if is always talking to his homeboys when i am on the phone and most the time he did not tell me he love me any more. do you think he is cheating.

2007-06-11 04:55:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok long story but I will make it short. My husband's aunt (who he is not all that close to) passed away yesterday. It was not unexpected (she had cancer). The memorial service, not funeral (due to cremation), is this Saturday. In another state, about a 5-6 hour drive and definetly an over night stay. We have been planning a big party with my family for some time now which is on Saturday, and my birthday and Father's day is Sunday, which would be the day we drive back. Spending almost all day on the road. Which by the way I did on Mother's day, due to the exact same trip just different reason. I have met this aunt once and never really talked to her. We have 2 children which are very young, neither of which I would like attending a service like this. But it would be hard for us to find a sitter, due to the fact that my mother-n-law will be traveling as well. Should I go or no?!

2007-06-11 04:55:05 · 4 answers · asked by Lauren J 2 in Family

2007-06-11 04:54:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and 3 other guys have been good mates since University (3 years ago now) but in the past year everything has changed. Two of us are from middle class backgrounds and have recently become very very arrogant and enjoy playing down the other two's lifestyle. The other two are from working class backgrounds but have made and making great efforts to improve life. The middle class two are very snobbish and make comments like; I bought a playstation for 500 pounds just because I can etc... Hilariously the poorer two although they lack the advantages one is a successful business man and the other is doing another degree at a better university and set to get a 1st class well over the other two's 3rd and 2/2. The last few months have been more and more intense competition and pay to look good but it doesn't wash since the poorer two are well overtaking them now in every way.

But I thought we we're supposed to be friends? What do you think happened for it to be this way?

2007-06-11 04:54:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am 24 and she is 53. I know, big age gap. But we are in love and have fantastic sex together. I know I asked previous question about me worrying about our relationship and I have sorted that out. But she worries as well. She feels I am wasting my life away with her. What can I do to reassure her that it is her, and only her that I want to spend the rest of my life with? She has been hurt by a lot of men in her life and I want to reassure her that I will not leave her. She also worries what other people thinks about us having a relationship together and what we get up to in the bed room. I have tried everything. What can I do?

2007-06-11 04:53:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:52:14 · 27 answers · asked by phoebe13 1 in Singles & Dating

Yes, It is Monday, Yes, I am tired and really do not want to be here at work. I am going to be married 20 years soon... (second marriage for both of us) kids and step kids are gone, no more of that drama, husband is semi retired, but I work full time. I am just wondering if I am happy. I used to be. I am in a rut, (my husband is happy with this rut) I am not sure if I want to continue with this content life. I love him, like my life, but don't know if I am really "happy" or if I am really able to experience happiness. Sometimes I think if I was alone, I would be happy, but who knows. I ask my husband all the time to try different things, but he wont.. I do things by myself or with my friends, concerts,walks, (things that he will not share with me) I want to do things together, but he just says sure, but we never do them, but I share in things that he wants to do that I have no interest in just to be with him. Has anyone ever had doubts about continuing with a long relationship

2007-06-11 04:52:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think 40 is a bit too old but thats my opinion,what's yours?

2007-06-11 04:51:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:50:15 · 2 answers · asked by safwan_condecora 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:50:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and my bf went out for over a year. we broke up a few weeks ago, and now he's being so ******* cruel. We were friends for a while after the break up, and were even talking about getting back together, now he's hanging out with this stupid ugly fat senior chick, and flirting with her, and talking crap about me with her. he told me he thought she was prettier and cooler, and i asked him if he really thought that, and he said he didnt want to talk crap about her so he wouldnt answer. I feel so heartbroken, why is he being so mean?

2007-06-11 04:48:12 · 13 answers · asked by Pixie 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:47:50 · 20 answers · asked by foreignclown 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, here goes….

I have four children (2 biological (15 & 7)and 2 step (7 and 10) all boys). My mother singles out my biological 7 year old and babies him and actively shows favoritism toward him. She also comes to my house and when seeing the boys, will ask them to ask me if we can go to the movies or go out to eat. Or she will ask them to ask me if they can have a snack before dinner or lunch. I think that is putting them in the middle and have told her NOT to do it anymore. I told her that the grandparent has different rules and when the grandparent it the authority figure (when I nor wife are around) she can spoil them rotten(different rules when with grandparents) but when around me or my wife, we decide what happens with them.

She even actively scolds me in front of them for disciplining “her pick” if she doesn’t think he needed to be disciplined. Given the fact that this is my house and I (my new wife and I) have custody of all four boys, I think she is way out of line and have told her that this is my house and not to question me in front of them with I am doing that. She also tells her friends and some of my family that she is supporting me because she takes all of us out to eat and shopping a lot.

I don’t have a job near as good as hers and she knows I can’t afford to go out to eat or go shopping or to the movies all the time. I nor the children am not in NEED of food or anything else, she just buys things for us that “makes life easier” . Like she bought a riding lawn mower for me to use with the condition that I mow her yard too. The mower she later told me she wanted to gibe to my great uncle. I said, you bought it, you can do with it what you want. She said she would replace it for me. I spent 10 hours going from store to store looking for the best deal on models, features and prices. After that work was does and presented to her, she asked if I would rather have a Zero-Turn mower (about 3 times as expensive) I said sure, who wouldn’t. But it is so much more. She wanted to get the more expensive Zero-Turn for me so I said, OK. She put it in my name. She also had paid for me to have Dish network installed and paid for it for six months for me for my x-mas present one year.

I have told her before that I am not comfortable with her spending that much on me because I want to be independent ( I am now 40). She now has told her friends that she is tired of supporting me and wants me to stand on my own two feet. She has told them and my family that I am asking her to take us out for food and clothing and lawn equipment. I have told her in the past that when she is in my home or with me, I am the authority figure for my children (all four of them). I have also told her to stop actively showing favoritism to the one child. I know it is hard to love non biological children the same as biological, but I have asked her to not SHOW it. She still does. She still contents that she is supporting me. I have asked her not to spend any more money on me. She still calls and wants to go out to eat when she knows I don’t have the money to do it.

Now fast forward about a month. When I found out about what she is telling her friends and my/our family about me, I told her she is no longer welcome in my home and if she cannot quit showing favoritism, she is no longer allowed around the children. The last time we were together eating ice-cream, she snuck a bite of ice-cream to the “favorite”. My wife saw it and said “he does not need any more ice-cream”. As we all walked out of the store, she did it again and I gave her an evil look. My wife confronted her about it and now my mother is REALLY mad at my wife. Wife hates my mother. Now my mother is siding with my ex-wife trying to take my children away from me and give them to my ex since my ex said my mother can see the kids anytime she wants.

Am I wrong for how I feel about me being a parent? Am I wrong for what I did and said? I would love her to be in their lives and we (me and wife) have begged her to meet with us to work this out for the kids sake. She refuses. I refuse to let them be around someone who is blatently disrespectful for me as a person and me as a parent.

2007-06-11 04:47:49 · 22 answers · asked by Michael G 1 in Family

I am 51 and it isn`t my 1st marriage,i have this beautiful somewhat backless sexy long black dress i`d like to wear getting married,our wedding is taking place in Las Vegas everything there is ready and waiting for the big day,the only real hesitation i have is my future-in-laws have never met me face-to-face and they are ol` time baptists the ceremony will be video-taped for all the family to see should i be concerned about this?Or should i do as i see fit after all it is my special day and i am me?

2007-06-11 04:47:05 · 12 answers · asked by maxine101 1 in Weddings

I broke up with my boyfriend of ten years over the weekend. I am very sad but he does a lot of mean and hurtful things to me. Now my question is if he loves me he may change his ways and come back right? Im not going to answer any calls or messages from him unless he apolozes profusely for things he has done in the past. Am I making a mistake? I'm scared that he may realize that he doesn't love me. He didn't want to break up, he just wanted to take a break. I feel like I need to just put my foot down and not call him and not answer him, because I feel that is the only way I will be able to know for sure if you he loves by trying to win me back. Am I wrong to think that? Anyone ever been in my situation? I really appreciate everyones opionions. Thanks.

2007-06-11 04:46:49 · 17 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Singles & Dating

My family has owned a piece of land for 40 years. Gifted to my wife and I to build our house. Divorcing after only one year of marrige. Is she entitled to the value of the land?

2007-06-11 04:45:46 · 11 answers · asked by vncforte 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-11 04:45:40 · 5 answers · asked by olivia n 1 in Family

I just read the featured question that asks what your lifelong dream was. One person answered and said her lifelong dream was to get married, have children and be a stay at home wife and mother. She's married with 4 kids and happy to live her dream. Her answer has recieved 22 thumbs downs.

I'm not saying a woman should be held back from working if that is what she really wants, but why hold her back if her dream is to be a stay at home house wife? does it hurt the image of women in our society if a woman just wants to take care of her family?

My wife is a stay at home wife and mother and its what we both want. If she did work we would both be more stressed trying to take care of housework, our daughter would be raised by strangers in a day care, and she could barely make enough to pay for day care, so why should she work?

I'd like insight into why people fell it is wrong for a womans dream job to be homemaker. Its still a vital role in society isnt it?

2007-06-11 04:45:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i want to do it but at the same time i dont think i can im scared and then what if i wanna go home and i cant i dont wanna join the at one point i want out and i cant.any suggestions?

2007-06-11 04:45:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-11 04:45:11 · 29 answers · asked by DEIDRESWEET2006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-11 04:44:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating