Family & Relationships - 4 May 2007

My wife and I married within 3 months of knowing each other. We blended families (her kid and my kids). She was so in love with me it was scary. As the relationship went on and reality set in and we started arguing, as all married couples argue, she decided she wanted to be separated from me. Apparently losing all love for me. She was very indecicive on being with me or not (even though she portraited she was so in love with me). It’s like it dropped totally off. I couldn’t believe it. Then when we got back together she was reluctant to even trust me. Then she started in on that we should have a kid together. I told her we were just separated maybe we should wait. Big problem. Then she took matters into her own hands and quit taking her birth control. She’s pregnant. Now she decides that she hasn’t been taking care of herself (drinking,smoking,taking anti depressants) and she’s planning on having an abortion. I just agreed with whatever she wants to do at this point plus if she’s not taking care of herself, the kid doesn’t have a chance. My point is what the heck is wrong with her? She can love and hate and change her mind so quickly. It’s very scary. I think she’s a little crazy and when she says she loves me, I don’t believe it. I don’t have any idea how she’ll be in 2 months. Problem is I love her to death. What’s wrong with her? She’s messed up.

2007-05-04 04:40:59 · 26 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my husband for almost 4 years. Our relationship thas been very, very rocky. He has been physically, verbally and emotionally abusive towards me. I have left him, twice already. The first time, was because, he pulled my hair and I got really angry and we got into a wrestling fight and he caused me bruises all over my body. I put him in jail and we were separated for about 1 month and 1/2.
After he got out of jail, he started going to anger management classes and he promissed me we would do marriage counseling. When he convinced me he had changed I moved back with him and he stopped the marriage counseling, but he did do anger management for 1 year. He was good for about 7 months and then (with no physical abuse, but still verbal and emotional) until 1 day he became very angry and started insulting me and making derrogatory remarks (he even spit my face) and I left him agai. We were separated for three months, in which time were were still talking and seeing eachother,I was still giving him another change to show me that he would change, well through those three months he convinced me again, that he would change, and again, like an idiot I believed him and this time, we moved states; we used to live in California and we moved to Arkansas, mostly because my family doesn’t like him at all and I would get kicked out of any family event if I took him with me. They told me as long as I am with him they want nothing to do with me. Well we left to give each other the opportunity to be by our self’s away from all the people that have wanted to separate us since we began dating. Anyhow we have lived in Arkansas for 8 months, he hasn’t been physically abuse towards me again, but he is verbally abusive still when he gets mad. He gets angry at everything, and he physically abuses of his pets. He has fighting cocks, which he concentrates on breading them. Well yesterday he got so angry that a chicken who had 9 baby chicks wouldn’t go inside the chicken coop that he killed her and ripped her head off; he was beating up all of the animals; he broke another rooster’s leg, another one is blind from 1 eye and he has killed so many, he was screaming so loud that you could hear his voice throughout the entire neighborhood. It’s like looking at a psycho, he screams so loud that it gives me goose bumps just to think about his angry voice. I have been depressed for almost 3 years know. I started to smoke marijuana, because it’s the only thing that calms me down, relaxes me and helps me forget about the way he acts, it helps me forget about my problems, but I know it’s not the solution. I don’t know what to do, I am so depressed, and I feel so alone. We are also, about to buy a house, but I just want to run away, sometimes I wish he would just vanish into thin air (don’t get me wrong, I don’t want anything bad to happen to him) but I wish he would just disappear out of my life. But I feel guilty to leave him. I really wanted to make this marriage work because of how I was raised, but I don’t know what to do anymore.

2007-05-04 04:37:27 · 20 answers · asked by spaced 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I saw this question on here yesterday directed to men, but I'd be curious to see the women's response to this.

If the opprotunity presented itself to spend a night with a married man with no strings attached, no drama, no future commitments and nobody would find out, would you do it?

For those who get offended by this question, I'm not some pervert or sicko, I am just curious to see how women respond to the same question that was asked of men.

2007-05-04 04:36:50 · 27 answers · asked by Jeremy G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what is legal for her to come here and be my wife. is there a waiting peroid and where can i find info on this

2007-05-04 04:34:03 · 2 answers · asked by larry w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband says that he will make it seem like I am not a fit mother when we get divorced. He told me he would say it so I would not get my son or anything else of his. I am a good mother, my son is well taken care of and loved by me. Will I lose my son if this happens, he is my world, so I don't know what I would do?

2007-05-04 04:34:01 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-04 04:33:33 · 7 answers · asked by vet1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I filed for divorce 4 months ago because
1) we have not had a good relationship in over 10 yrs.
2) or a physical one in 5yrs
3) I just long for companionship
4)Our finances are in really bad shape and out of control. He blames me, ( we have 4 kids now older teens, to feed, and cloth with the $600.00 I get from him every 2 wks and lets not forget the cost of gas, prescriptions, and any extras they may need)
5)He hasn't allowed me to work, (I do now and don't make much)
6) Will not help around the house AT ALL.
7I have never been able to work on finances with him.
8)His c/c debt is over $30,000.00 with nothing to show for it
9)He has borrowed $$ to pay it off and hasn't.
10 )told kids we have no $ because I filed for divorce.
He is contesting and said he will not leave the house.
My husband is an attorney and has always said, the only winners in the divorce are the attorney's. What has he got to gain, other than more debt by contesting? ANY IDEA?

2007-05-04 04:28:55 · 17 answers · asked by suentwobehisx 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-04 04:27:35 · 5 answers · asked by tanlaask 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are currently living apart. It was my idea that we separate for a while due to the fact I found out he is cheating. He says he has not had sex with this woman he has been dealing with for the past 2 months. He constanly keeps saying I have been cheating as well. We have not been happy for some time. I also discovered he keeps porn and condoms in his car. He would not even told me about his cheating if I had not told him I found out. We have three children together. I do not want to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children but he is willing to do that instead of working on our marriage. I just can't stomach the thought of settling. Help!!

2007-05-04 04:24:17 · 39 answers · asked by Chiquita M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i ama about to have a child with the man who promised to marry me but he has decided he is not interested in me nor the baby. i am keeping the baby bcos icant imagine myself going thru physical pain to remove the child and more so bcos of my beliefs. what do u guys suggest i do. i live in my country but he lives abroad. my family is distraught and i am just going with the tide for now. people tell me i am strong but i tell them i have no other choice. and frankly i dont want to be dishonorable in my actions by doing the seemingly right thing but actually wrong thing. please answer me.

2007-05-04 04:23:51 · 11 answers · asked by hef 1 in Singles & Dating

so theres this guy and hes really hot...we decided to be on the buddy system and not date...so now i think im fallling for him, after all he is only the second guy ive been with...is friends with benefits a bad idea?? should i end it or what??

2007-05-04 04:20:57 · 30 answers · asked by Leesh 2 in Singles & Dating

My Mil is a nice lady, atleast used to be, however she is starting to come between me and my husband. Lately she has come over to our house while my husband was at work and told me that he is under a lot of stress (DUH! I'm his wife, I think I know this) and explaines to me how to be a good wife and mother. I politely tell her it's none of her business and SHE got angery and left in a huff. She didn't talk to me for a week! (though that was a very pleasent week!) That finally blew over and then she calls me one day to see if she could take one of my kids with her and one of her other grandchildren to an event a town over. My children are 1, 2 and 3 years old. My oldest (the one she wanted to take) has special needs and when taken somewhere needs undivided attention. She placed the call at lunch time and when ever any of my children go anywhere it is an event in and of itself and it takes a 1/2 hour to prepare. so i said no and she had a fit! these are just two examples. any advice?

2007-05-04 04:17:25 · 15 answers · asked by Inneedofpeace 2 in Marriage & Divorce

IM ABOUT TO GO TO MUSIC SHES IN MY MUSIC CLASS IM AT SCHOOL!!!!!!




my So called (friend) WAS SOPOST TO KEEP A SECRET!!
i told her all the mean girls are just hill billies and now she told them!!! and school is tomorow im worried and my heart is pounding this is serious and this (mean girl) has alot of friend im crying right now i dont know what to do ALL THE GIRLS I TALKED ABOUT IS IN MY CLASS!!

2007-05-04 04:12:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have a bridal shower coming up in June and not sure who to all invite besides the bridesmaids and the parents. I am confused because I know that my aunts on both my mothers side and fathers side will be throwing me a shower. So who do I invite? Thanks in advance.

2007-05-04 04:12:33 · 13 answers · asked by Butterfly Kisses 2 in Weddings

i get stressed v easily and snap at ppl. im fine after i have calmed down later but the ppl i snap at are obviously pissed off wit me!

2007-05-04 04:11:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm in the beginning stages of planning a destination wedding in the Caribbean. My finance and are I baffled as to which island would be the best for such an occasion. We are currently considering Bermuda, Anguilla, Antigua, Aruba, Barbados, St. Kitts, and the Turks and Caicos. These are options because we are familiar with the marriage license requirements, residency requirements, and all that other red tape plus thinks that they are all beautiful places for such a celebration.

We are looking for an island that is NOT "overly touristy" but at the same time we are looking for a place where there is at least a few activities to keep us busy (i.e. swimming, scuba diving, hiking, sites to see, some restaurants to check out. etc.)

Any ideas? Thanks in advance!

2007-05-04 04:09:52 · 6 answers · asked by Leeann A 2 in Weddings

HI..I AM A VIRGIN..ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND ARE PLANING ON HAVING GIRL ON GIRL CEX FOR OUR FIRST TIME...I WANTED TO KNOW IF IT WILL HURT ....DO U KNOW?
YOU SEE, IVE USED TOYS ON MYSELF...AM I STILL A VIRGIN EVEN THOUGH MY CHERRY ALREADY "POPPED"?

2007-05-04 04:03:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We're both 21 y/o college students. Been together for 1 year 3 months, living together for 9 of those months. Lately I just don't know what's going on. I feel lost in our relationship. I don't even feel like myself anymore. I wonder if I could spend the rest of my life with him. I love him and he's very sweet most of the time, but sometimes we just don't click. He doesn't understand my jokes or sarcastic mannerisms most times. Sometimes I wonder if there's someone out there who's more right for me. I have no idea if I'm settling because it's easier to stay or if he really is "the one" and I'm just overthinking things. I don't know if it's just me being stressed or if something isn't right. Small things are annoying me more than usual... his long pointless stories, his late band practices, his constantly playing video games... Am I being too picky? I know no one is perfect, but these small things just make me wonder. Has anyone else felt these doubts in a relationship? Is it normal?

2007-05-04 04:01:34 · 27 answers · asked by Morgan 1 in Singles & Dating

In a nutshell my boyfriend is Bi-polar and has some mental issues that stem all the way back to childhood from his crazy korean mother who beat him, mentally mind F'd him and told him he was never good enough at anything.
So here's my main question....My boyfriend has contradicted himself through my exposing his sneeky online porn searching, masturbation sessions. He bluntly talked to me about how disgusted is at after birth vagina's, big areola's (dinner plates) and huge ****. We both "don't want kids" and I don't have those physical traits so I was like WTF!?!
He has admitted his problem and wants to change for himself and us but I just can't shake those mental images. He said it pertained to him and his mother. He associates them with maturity but he said that he desires only me in real life and that it's just an addiction he's had for a long time. What do you guys think? I want to be here for someone that wants to change but I feel disgusted and don't even know anymore.
HELP

2007-05-04 03:57:47 · 2 answers · asked by Avery B 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

im asking because my boyfriend and i have been talking about it and were not sure we should do it cause, we want to, but we also know there's a lot of consequences to it like STD'S and getting pregnant. did i just answer my own question?

2007-05-04 03:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband uses hand and a leather paddle and a wooden hairbrush, but he wants me to buy a new implement of my choice. Any good ideas?

2007-05-04 03:54:09 · 15 answers · asked by Lily P 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-04 03:53:39 · 10 answers · asked by genevieve n 1 in Weddings

2007-05-04 03:51:16 · 15 answers · asked by danwall2005 1 in Weddings

we have seen each other once after more then a month. talk everyday, but sometimes i dont hear from her til later at night. she lives in a foster home so she is preoccupied. but i dont think its to the point where she cant take 2min to call me to tell me if she's gonna be calling me late,cuz i dont wanna miss her call,thats my only way of staying connected to her. she sometimes doesnt call me at the times stated. when we see each other, its all love. we fool around a lil bit, but no sex. im her first kiss, she's 17.
and her first sexual craving physically.but i wanna wait. so does she.
she likes talking to me, but we've been rocky because of the keeping in touch thing and her not coming over as often, the foster home she lives in is strict now. she likes me to the point where she wanted me to promis id take her virginity when she turns 18 this year. i just want our bond to be stronger,i never wanna lose her.
so do you think that maybe i shoul take my time and not stress over this

2007-05-04 03:48:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex knows I love acting, but I kinda gave it up. Well anyways, he IMed me and said,"I saw this # on a commercial for an acting agency, and I really think you should give acting another chance... I know how much it means to you." I was sooo confused, I asked him why he was being nice and helping me, and he said,"I was thinking of you when I heard of this acting agency... good luck."
He's been talking to me a lot lately, so why is he being nice?

2007-05-04 03:46:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hey i dont really have an important question i just wanted to say hi and whats uo? because it is between classes and im really bored! well bye

2007-05-04 03:45:58 · 18 answers · asked by sexy southern chick 1 in Singles & Dating

which would be safer dating a guy off the internet or a guy ive met in person?

2007-05-04 03:39:18 · 8 answers · asked by a firefighters girl 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay i went out with this guy but he dumped me after we had sex and i felt so nasty and betrayed well he called me several times and i voided him but after awhile i finally talked to him and he wants us too hook up angain and do it again and i don't know what to do he said he is sorry he used me like that but i don't know and if i have sex with him he would dump me again so he said how about friends with benifits and i dont know what to do cause next weekend im going to a party and he will be there and he knowes all my spots that make me horny and i will be tempted and i dont wanna do it again but then i do? Help please...................................

2007-05-04 03:37:58 · 11 answers · asked by erika 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-04 03:36:10 · 24 answers · asked by blackpup 3 in Weddings

as well as demanding and vocal

2007-05-04 03:36:05 · 27 answers · asked by klara c 1 in Singles & Dating