In a nutshell my boyfriend is Bi-polar and has some mental issues that stem all the way back to childhood from his crazy korean mother who beat him, mentally mind F'd him and told him he was never good enough at anything.
So here's my main question....My boyfriend has contradicted himself through my exposing his sneeky online porn searching, masturbation sessions. He bluntly talked to me about how disgusted is at after birth vagina's, big areola's (dinner plates) and huge ****. We both "don't want kids" and I don't have those physical traits so I was like WTF!?!
He has admitted his problem and wants to change for himself and us but I just can't shake those mental images. He said it pertained to him and his mother. He associates them with maturity but he said that he desires only me in real life and that it's just an addiction he's had for a long time. What do you guys think? I want to be here for someone that wants to change but I feel disgusted and don't even know anymore.
HELP
2007-05-04 03:57:47 · 2 answers · asked by Avery B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
walk away!
2007-05-04 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA, sorry its just he isn't the guy to self-diganose his problem. It isn't an addiction any more then obesed is a addiciton. Its a symptom of his inability to relate with people in a geniunely deep way. This can come about for multiple reason, but he is pretty close to the source. It would be because of his mom, but the way he reacts to it is all him, and his individuality. Understand you can't help him,he can only help himself, the fact is he can't see you in the way he needs to see you to beable to satisfy himself emotional, sexually, and unfornatunly since you can't have the deepest bond spirtually. Understand also it takes more then sweet love to fix these things, it takes you ballz into his life and doing what his mom didn't and thats raising him right. Also don't take someone on to fix them, thats a big, big no, no. And to show you how much he loves you, he should know that, yet he is holding on to you for his own selfishness.... yea the game of love is crazy. But if you want to get past this don't let him treat it like an addiction, its a emotional problem that streams from his inability to let go, and look forward. Which is a complicated action that a girlfriend isn't going to be able to fix, now someone who is a true friend might, don't let him walk over you and himself, and please, o please, go to councoling. Both of you, it isn't because your both crazy, its just better to have a person mediate the conversation and to help it grow. Plus it shows that both of you are ready and able to work on these problems and do what it takes to work it out. And also read some psychology books or ask the therapist for some, in this situation the wrong informaiton can hurt you both.... o yea if he refuses help or counciling your screwed sorry this guys set in his way and all you can do is tolerate it and exsist in his world....
2007-05-04 10:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋