i ama about to have a child with the man who promised to marry me but he has decided he is not interested in me nor the baby. i am keeping the baby bcos icant imagine myself going thru physical pain to remove the child and more so bcos of my beliefs. what do u guys suggest i do. i live in my country but he lives abroad. my family is distraught and i am just going with the tide for now. people tell me i am strong but i tell them i have no other choice. and frankly i dont want to be dishonorable in my actions by doing the seemingly right thing but actually wrong thing. please answer me.
2007-05-04 04:23:51 · 11 answers · asked by hef 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is never easy to get over a bad break up...trust me on that as most of us have been through what you are experiencing right now. Go ahead and cry...get it out of your system. Nothing wrong with crying. Once you get your composure, try to do something that will help get your mind off of him and what he has just done to you...like hanging out with friends, focusing on you and your baby, getting involved in an activity. Heck, do ANYTHING that will keep your mind off of him. It takes time to get over the hurt but you can do it.
2007-05-04 04:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. STOP referring to it as a "broken heart"! Let's just say a heart that is aching right now. If it were really broken you would be dead! 2. You are stronger than you think. You would be surprised at just how much you can handle. & well. 3. You are NOT the first person who chose poorly, and you will not be the last. BUT these ARE your choices. Now you will just have to figure out how best to make them work for you. 4. You come out ahead in all of this. YOU get the Grand Prize a wonderful little life that WILL NOT run out on when times a tough, someone who is going to love you unconditionally, a mind that you can shape and mold to do GREAT things because of YOU. You also get the parting gift THE GIFT OF A LESSON LEARNED.
2016-05-20 04:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by zoraida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support you in your choice for your life and for your desire to live and support your child. Everything will fall into place for you, have patience. You sound strong and wise in that you will make a good mom and I'm sure next time you consider letting a man in your life, you'll look for a grounded christen who will support and be there for you and child. Life makes you grow up, and hey mistakes are made! But your not spirling out and throwing away this wonderful life that you will treasure! As for your broken heart, time willl take care of it, be prayerful and keep going forward, give the pain to God asking him for a real husband. Believe! Please never consider going to a foreign country with this babys father cause his family could take the child there. He is not reliable.
2007-05-04 04:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a bad situation, and I know just how you feel. I was abandoned while I was pregnant too, but you know what? I got the last laugh because my son is now a wonderful 32-year-old man, who brought me so much joy his whole life, and gave me 2 gorgeous grandchildren. His father missed out on so much by abandoning us. Wait until you see that precious little baby, you'll forget all about the pain you're in now, and know that you have to be strong for that little one.
2007-05-04 04:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE a strong woman. You can do it! Keep that baby and raise it with the love and support of your family and friends. That man showed by his actions that he is weak, cowardly, and certainly not good enough to be your husband or your baby's father. You should not feel dishonorable; in fact, you are to be admired for staying strong.
2007-05-04 04:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mizbehavin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u should 4get about him find someone who will love an marry u. As far as the baby have it then when the child gets about 12 go 2 that government and tell them hes not paying child support. U WILL GET PAID BIG MONEY.
2007-05-04 04:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by keyes_j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well done for keeping the baby it's a brave thing you're doing. Go out with some friends get dressed up go shopping, go strut your stuff and get flirting, forget about him. Or even stay in with a few mates and watch a good chick flick, dirty dancing anyone???Good luck hun XX
2007-05-04 04:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be greatful for all of the wonderful things that have just happened in your life... you have a mirical in the works, the guy who doesnt love you stepped out to make room for a guy who does rather than dreagging you along for years., you have grown, and will continue to grow as a person... celibrate the wondeful life you you have!!... and be greatful for it!
2007-05-04 06:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that guy really worked you didn't he. You'll feel better if you get revenge on the bum, file for child support and make him miserable for the next 18 years
2007-05-04 04:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea i would like to know the answer to this question to because im going throught the same thing!
2007-05-04 04:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by love_hugskisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋