im asking because my boyfriend and i have been talking about it and were not sure we should do it cause, we want to, but we also know there's a lot of consequences to it like STD'S and getting pregnant. did i just answer my own question?
2007-05-04 03:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just protect yourself. When youre ready you will know it! No need to rush these things
2007-05-04 03:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing when you're ready to have sex is primarily a personal thing - the "right time" varies from couple to couple. It sounds like you and your boyfriend know full well what the possible consequences are of having sex, and as thus, you should know how to avoid those problems.
Definitely get tested for STDs, both of you. It's better safe than sorry. As for contraceptives, there are many out on the market, from condoms (male and female) to sponges to jelly - I've heard that a condom used in conjunction with a spermicide jelly is pretty safe.
As to -when- you should have sex...I suppose the simplest way, if neither of you have moral qualms, is to do it if you feel like you really love each other and you're ready for the physical - and emotional - effects it'll have.
2007-05-04 04:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Glory Box♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The consequence that I consider much more likely (even probable) and much sadder than the 2 you mentioned, is rarely talked about. But this is… lessening your chances of a truly happy marriage by decreasing the value of your eventual sex life with your husband.
Every person you have sex with diminishes your married sex life. I promise.
Yes, I know when you're young, it seems a lifetime away to wait until you're married to have sex, but it is God's plan. He created us, so why do we doubt that His ways are the best and highest for us?
It's not just some arbitrary thing he throws out there ("Follow my rule, or go to hell") It's because he knows exactly how we are made, and with a gift as beautiful as sex, is He wants it to be used in the right way and at the right time for *OUR* enjoyment. It is for marriage alone.
Trust me...the longer you wait the better it will be.
2007-05-04 04:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did, you know that you are not ready!
you should only concider having sex when you are able to deal with the fact of stds and pregnacy. you should also not have sex till you know you can take the steps to prevent STDs and Pregnacy buy using the right type of birthcontroll and knowing that u always have acsess to it them maybe just maybe you are on the right track but make sure that you are ready for the e-motional and physical part of it to! once all this is done it can be a wonderful thing! Good luck!
2007-05-04 04:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you are ready to have any type of mutual sexual behavior together (sex) when you know you are with the one guy who will spend eternity with you and no one else. How will you know that? The only way to know for sure is to fast and pray for weeks and then God may tell you.
Short of that it is a guess. You make your best guess and close your eyes and take the plunge. Usually it does not work out.
The Bible says having one husband is the best way to go. It says happiness is most likely under that arrangement. Sexual behavior outside of marriage is not a good idea.
2007-05-04 05:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Toosense2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
having sex isnt jus something u talk about & say "ok were going to have sex htis day & this way" no...no...no...u kno ur ready to hav sex when u both feel that kind of connection. but if u do decide to got through with it then make sure u always use protection, no matter what.
dont do the "pull & pray" it wont always work do to pre-***.
so jus make sure ur safe & if u want u could both get tested at a clinic.
2007-05-04 04:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? This is a huge step and there's no going back from it. So you need to be absolutely positive, no doubt what so ever in either of your minds. There are a lot of consequences and it's good that you know about them. If you do decide to go though with the deed make sure you use every pro-cation you can. Don't do something that your going to regret.
2007-05-04 04:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by tjmoore83102 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on how old you are --- as you get older the question becomes meaningless ---- no you have not answered your question because pregnancy and STD's are easy to protect against --- use a condom every time --- and dont trust the guy --- have some with you just in case --- if you are not sure then you are not ready --- truly you will know when you are ready ---- best wishes
2007-05-04 04:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u answered your own questions but alot of times its hard for teenagers to wait. i know my first time was with my ex,ex ...lol but we talked about it for alont time before it happened (we waited almost 2 years but u r ur own person) but we talked about what we would do if i did get pregnant and what not (luckily i didnt) plus we discussed birth control. i told my mom that me and him were getting close which she already figured i was 16 and with him that long...anyway she took me to get on the pill and we did use a condom when the time came. everyone is different as long as its right for both of you then that when. dont feel pressured or rushed. and make sure u have a towel under ya ;) just be smart about it PLEASE.
2007-05-04 04:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by DP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once young too.. and I let my boyfriend talk me into something I wasn't ready for.. and then regretted it. You need to dig deep and find out if you are truly ready, or are you willing to do it just for your boyfriend. If you are truly ready... YOU... then... I say go and get protection, get birth control.. cover all bases... and if you guys are truly.. responsible, you will both get tested FIRST!
2007-05-04 04:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Whatyouthink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋