Family & Relationships - 1 May 2007

we dont have much money to blow for this but we still want it to be fun and memeriable! July 1st is our anniversary.

2007-05-01 08:34:24 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Weddings

I live in the state of PA. I've been with a man for 14.5 yrs, We have 2 kids together. never married. He was married and divorced and has 1 kid to her. She abandoned the child so noone knows where shes at. They were married May 1989-May 1993. God forbid if something happens to him. If it should, what are my rights? Does she get his pension or do I? I know my kids would be taken care of but I need to know where I stand. Any ideas?

2007-05-01 08:33:36 · 9 answers · asked by Frankie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you think a person can really love someone but doesn't know it? Doesn't realize it? Denies it? Maybe he/she doesn't want to admit it to himself/herself for various reasons. So they spend life with someone they don't love that much but it was their choice, again, out of various reasons. What do you think?

2007-05-01 08:32:52 · 8 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

After 20 years of marriage my wife had a one night affair. She was forced to tell me because she thought she had given me an STD. (As it turned out, this was not the case) She then told me that she was drinking to much left herself alone with this person & the sex was almost a rape scenario. She was willing to discuss it and I was wanting to understand.
After several months she said she couldn't lie to me anymore. She said she did have far to much to drink but was in control of the situation and willingly went home and slept with him. She stated that "it was the worst night of my life" but has refused to discuss it since.
She has since quit drinking, discovered the church and has treated me like she hasn't in years. During the "he took advantage of someone to drunk to stop him" story, I discovered who the person was. He is a friend of a very close friend of hers.
I can see this person without him knowing who I am. For some reason this seems important to me. Should I??

2007-05-01 08:32:52 · 48 answers · asked by unsure 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hey everyone...I had a friend who has recently passed away and it hurts me sooo bad...does anyone have any advice that could help me get over the loss of my friend...he was a very special person to me and it hurts so much knowing that he is not here anymore for me to hang out with and just talk to...if anyone can give me some advice i will be very thankful...

2007-05-01 08:29:55 · 15 answers · asked by kristine_star2008 2 in Friends

Recently my mother in law found a bruise on husbands arm (which happened during sex ) and she asked him if I was beating him. I am insulted that she thinks I would do something like that. Would you be insulted if this happened to you? (by the way, he told her how it happened and she dropped the subject) This is also the woman who thinks Im in love with my ex still. I feel like she is starting trouble...what do you think?

2007-05-01 08:29:54 · 21 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Family

I have been semi dating this guy for 5 years, we have two kids together. Our sex life is okay but it is not what it use to be. Men and Women I would like for you to give me some tips to blow his mind. We are not sexual repressed so I want to hear it all. Men tell me what you love your lady to do to you. Women tell me what you are doing to knock your mans socks off.

I am way over 21 and this is a serious question.

2007-05-01 08:28:34 · 31 answers · asked by NUrDreams 3 in Singles & Dating

He is Mexican, I am Native. Yet I am Christian and he is Catholic- His family doesnt follow the Bible in regards to fornication and bastard children. Most of his of relatives keep having sex and kids outside of marriage and they all think this is great! I, on the other hand am horrified, as I was raised that you do no have sex outside of marriage much less kids, as its a HUGE sin. Each time we receive invitations to baby showers, or get this, BAPTISMS for these illegitimate kids, I cring, as I do not want to support these sinful happenings by going to these events, much less give them money or presents. Dont get me wrong, the KIDS are not a fault, as they didnt ask to be born from sin, but the parents are.
How can I say NO to these events and get out of going without causing a huge fight. (these occur with frequency, at least 3 times a year or more, as they are like rabbits and pop out kids alot) HELP!

2007-05-01 08:28:19 · 18 answers · asked by flyingdove 4 in Marriage & Divorce

well this boy told me that he liked me but now he just won't show it. and i don't know what to do and i also don't know whether to talk to him bout it or not.

2007-05-01 08:27:14 · 12 answers · asked by lilgilley 1 in Singles & Dating

Men seek the pleasure of a hooker then will not allow the wife to let go nor go for annulment. When a man seek other's for pleasure, meaning, he is not happy in the relationship, is it?

PLEASE ANSWER HONESTLY. WOULD BE A BIG HELP to decide what to do with my affair.

2007-05-01 08:27:08 · 11 answers · asked by julkritz 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Even after years of being with a married man in which he lives with you and his wife is aware of all of this he has still not started divorce proceedings. Opinions not judgement is needed.

2007-05-01 08:27:01 · 26 answers · asked by deecee4ever 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating my current boyfriend for 2 months now. I really enjoy our relationship. He is 12 years my junior. I am 35 and he is 23. Do you guys think there is a chance that this relationship will last? We have a lot in common, and both can't wait to see each other again. We have the support of our friends and families, but I know that all things start out great. I was just inquiring about your opinions.

2007-05-01 08:25:39 · 15 answers · asked by THE RESCUE LLAMA!!! 3 in Singles & Dating

So the last three guys that I have met and started talking to were GREAT guys, I mean guys you have always dreamed of (at least so they seem). However, everytime I get too close to them, I back out.. out of no where. I have had some pretty messed up relationships and I know that I am just scared of being hurt again. I feel like Im punishing the good guys for my ex-boyfriends mistakes! And Im even friends with some of those ex-boyfriends to this day. How do I stop this? How do I let the past be past??

2007-05-01 08:22:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-01 08:22:10 · 2 answers · asked by hotangel2317 1 in Family

of my underwear over my wifes head right into the laundry basket? Any guy would shoot that shot, right??? It's almost mandatory. Why isn't my wife talking to me?

2007-05-01 08:22:04 · 17 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3 in Marriage & Divorce

What initially brought you two together, or what attracted you to one another? How did you know that you wanted to spend the rest of your life together?

2007-05-01 08:20:05 · 12 answers · asked by Shane 1 in Marriage & Divorce

one time when my sister and her two frineds were wathching me for a weekend the grabe me put me in a pink stuffed bra and panties put a pink flower girl dress, pantiehose, highheels on me and tied me to a chair then they gave me a full makeover nails lipstick eyeliner they even curled my hair. then they took pictures for blackamial. they made me say things like my name is tiffany and i love NYCNS. they made me their slave for a weekend and i had to all thier chores show off for thier friends and be named tiffany. i was also dresesed as a girl all weekend and my mom never found out. they meed do all sorts of things like sing babie girl and get a fake marriage to ken from barbie they even made me makeout with a dog. but worst of all they dressed me up in a easter dress and put me in a dog cage and invited all the neighbors over they still make fun of me. my sister still makes me over . what should i do

2007-05-01 08:18:55 · 7 answers · asked by cubegod666 1 in Singles & Dating

hello everyone,
well ive been with the b/f for 3 years this past i would say 6 months has been really hard for us, we are still young both 20 but throughout our hole relationship he has never really kept a job longer then a year if even well for the past 6 months he has ahd not job he quite the last one becuase he didnt like the manager. well its been really hard becuase we dont really get to go out and while staying in is nice a girl needs things once in a while. well he finally got a job and is supposed to start today but he doesnt want to take it becuase its a gravyard shift. so here we go again disapointment. just when i thought things were going to happen for us he let me down this has been happenign for 6 months he gets a job and then dosent. should i let him go? i dont feel like he is secure that he wont be able to take care of me in the future yes we are young but shouldnt this show me how he will be down the road...it life goal is to have his own consturction buissness but

2007-05-01 08:18:19 · 11 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Singles & Dating

My friend sais i sleep on the womans side(the right side)

2007-05-01 08:12:25 · 11 answers · asked by mjc1428 1 in Singles & Dating

Today while cleaning our room I found a hard-copy of a bill, which I had perviously viewed on the internet. (on the bill are payments he made to the dating site.) If we for whatever reason divorce will I need it? My question is should I keep it or toss it?

Background information:
I caught my husband using a dating site. Later to find out that he was having cyber-sex and making arrangements to meet with women. Months have passed and we have been through counselling—aside from me feeling still a little hurt, overall, everything seems to be going well.

2007-05-01 08:10:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have been with my now fiancee for 3 years, engaged for 6 months. In the last month there has been some lying and another man but she has since come clean. she wants everythign to be the way it was and i said ok, then last week she calls me while i am 3 hours away on business for a 5 day trip and tells me she is moving out. I get back home and she is still there wanting to work things out now. I just don't know if i can put myself through this anymore and would like some advice on how to handle this. We live together but I own the home. We have a dog together that we both love? She has called her parents and they are upset with her and now calling me telling me their daughter is loosing the best thing in her life. They still want to maintain a relationship with me and are sad and crying over this. I feel so bad, but she wronged me and her ambivilance has driven me to not want to be with her anymore. I am not interested in anyone else by any means, i am just tired of being hurt.

2007-05-01 08:07:55 · 14 answers · asked by john p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married to my wonderful wife for 6 years and have a great marriage. We were both very horny virgins before marriage, both are mildly overweight, and have the typical stresses of kids and finances. I love her very much.

Even now sex still seems to be a chore as though, if I never brought it up, she would never have any desire for it. I don’t just want sex, but also a fun, invigorating, sexually prolific lifestyle and mindset. We talk about it, but only with temporary and mild results. We have sex about 3 /month, but I want sex every other day or more.

I suggest we try new things such as oral, anal, toys and out-of-bedroom locations. She seems resistant to almost everything. She is even uncomfortable speaking about sex itself. We each have painful histories with pre-marital sexuality including my sad overindulgence in porn, and her previous b/f’s always trying to get into her pants. She does get wet & climaxes, so we know the biology is working.

So, am I just perv?

2007-05-01 08:04:51 · 33 answers · asked by Arrow 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He only brushes his teeth at night, not in the morning. It's very disgusting because he breaths straight in my face and after he eats there is always stuff stuck in his teeth and he never picks it out. When it's hot sometimes he will really smell like BO. He works in a shop all day so he is greasy when he gets home. Then he thinks it's ok to put his arms all over me and want to have sex. It grosses me out and I make up something not to have sex. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but it's gross.

2007-05-01 08:02:37 · 10 answers · asked by padros 3 in Singles & Dating

my x has been my x for 9 years, we have a child 10 yrs old...x married 7 years ago & if it wasn't for her, my son wouldn't be in their lives...so, needless to say, I am greatful to her & she is an awesome mom to my son when he stays w/ them. I can talk to her on the phone, go places together, hang at soccer games, and we have both introduced mutual friends to one another. When they got married they verbally invited me, but, now it's my turn, 8 years later... should I invite? My finacee doesn't care because he isn't intimidated by my x because my fiancee & I are happy in love & he is happy w/ his wife, who I would consider almost a friend...we were never friends before they met: I didn't know her till they married. I dunno, kinda wierd to post on this, but wanted to hear opinions...I honestly don't care if they there or not, just trying to get along in every aspect & show my son just that.

2007-05-01 08:02:10 · 12 answers · asked by Thankful for so much 2 in Weddings

we have been together for 2 weeks and i am only 16 and i have had sex only one time and i want to do it again because i really love him so do you think i should do it

2007-05-01 08:01:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

They tell lies to people they just met on the phone!How come he told this boy but you tell the boy that it is not true he believes the boy he just met he just met him I do no not understand this situation PLEASE HELP ME!!

2007-05-01 08:01:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Here is my question....I am going through a divorce and we have a terminally ill child.....I do not want to fight with the father when the time to bury our son....who gets to make the final decision if one can not be agreed upon? The lawyers and even a judge here has said that they have never been asked this before but I want to make sure everything is taking care of before hand. Thanks so much for your help! And if anyone knows of a case of a code number please leave that info!

2007-05-01 08:01:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think you all are used to me and my marriage crises by now. However for those of you whom are reading this for the first time, my hubby and I have been unhappily married for 11 months and have consumated our relationship only once because he lives in Atlanta and I in New York temporarily until my contract at work expires this Summer. In the meantime, he has stated that the reasons why he's been elusive is due to my weight gain and lack of culinary skills. My self-esteem has hit an all time low and I am trying to regain it back because I know that I am a good looking woman whom can cook and take very good care of my persoanl appearance.

2007-05-01 07:54:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-05-01 07:53:53 · 48 answers · asked by christopher_theob 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This is the scenario......1 year ago I had a baby with a man (In which I found out after 4 months of conception was married) It pretty much turned my world upside down when I found out about the marriage. But I accepted it and went on with my pregnancy. After givin birth to my daughter he was very supportive. (And we continued to date and be intimate). When my daughter was 8 months old a woman called me (not his wife) and told me that she was intimate with him for the past 3 months!! It made me very upset so I called his wife and told her about our relationship and our daughter. It destroyed his marriage, They sold there home and he lost his job of 5 years after all the turmoil. I feel like I did so much damage, But he has not supported my daughter since I called his wife. WOuld I be wrong to put him on child support? Should I wait? Or have I done enough damage?This is the scenario......1 year ago I had a baby with a man (In which I found out after 4 months of conception was married) It pretty much turned my world upside down when I found out about the marriage. But I accepted it and went on with my pregnancy. After givin birth to my daughter he was very supportive. (And we continued to date and be intimate). When my daughter was 8 months old a woman called me (not his wife) and told me that she was intimate with him for the past 3 months!! It made me very upset so I called his wife and told her about our relationship and our daughter. It destroyed his marriage, They sold there home and he lost his job of 5 years after all the turmoil. I feel like I did so much damage, But he has not supported my daughter since I called his wife. WOuld I be wrong to put him on child support? Should I wait? Or have I done enough damage?

2007-05-01 07:53:11 · 16 answers · asked by inquiringsista 1 in Marriage & Divorce