So the last three guys that I have met and started talking to were GREAT guys, I mean guys you have always dreamed of (at least so they seem). However, everytime I get too close to them, I back out.. out of no where. I have had some pretty messed up relationships and I know that I am just scared of being hurt again. I feel like Im punishing the good guys for my ex-boyfriends mistakes! And Im even friends with some of those ex-boyfriends to this day. How do I stop this? How do I let the past be past??
2007-05-01 08:22:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's really hard to let go of the pain other guys have caused you....i should know so many guys have hurt me in the past and the guy i am with now is really sweet and i still feel like backing out of it too...people like us will always reflect on past relationships that have hurt us and will try to prevent it, but you know what sometimes we have to take control of our fears and go with the flow because if we let our fears of getting hurt yet again take cotrol we will never be able to get into a relationship with a guy.
try taking things one day at a time and one step at a time.
2007-05-01 08:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just not ready for anything more than a simple relationship..You know just a couple of dates here and there and nothing more. As long as you let the guys know up front that you are so not ready for anything more than a date or two, that you don't want anything that resembles serious. It's o.k. to take your time and get to a place where your ready for a relationship. That way no one gets hurt, and when your ready, I'm sure you'll find a great guy. Take your time, your young and now is the time to figure out exactly what you want from life and a relationship. Good Luck...
2007-05-01 08:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, but i have been where you are, it all happened when i got with my now husband, i put a wall up around myself and wouldnt let anyone get close becus i was so scared of being hurt, the best thing to do is to just take it slowly, if the man is interested in you then he will understand, try not to just stop the relationship try taking time out, get you head together and then try again, it will happen, maybe your just waiting for the right man, you will get there, and trust me when you do find someone who you feel is right, it may take time but you will let your guard down, may take some time, just like reading this, but it will happen, good luck
2007-05-01 08:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by jayz81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to look at why your previous relationships broke up. Look honestly. That will give you an idea. Second the new guy your comparing to the last guy that hurt you is why you back out. You also might be rusing into relationship to fast. From one to another to another. Give yourself time to heal from the last one.
2007-05-01 08:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy and that i accept as true with you thoroughly. I fee love way greater suitable than I do lust. Do issues at the same time as pals, then paintings on a romantic dating. Do you relish the comparable meals, pursuits, concert activities, song and theater? It takes time and attempt to confirm in case you have compatibility or not. for my area, i admire the wonderment and anticipation of a attainable romantic dating.
2016-10-14 06:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by raspberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to date for a while i did the same thing and then i just stayed single for about 6 months things are much better now you need to fig out who you are before you move on to another relationship
2007-05-01 08:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling! If you want to ever have a normal relationship you will need to get over the bad one first.
2007-05-01 08:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to. Just let go and move on. It is hard, but it will be essential to your emotional health and future relationship success to do so. You can do it. :)
2007-05-01 08:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by trancegoddess2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor and see why you keep doing this. Maybe there is another reason. OR - Maybe these guys are just not right for you.
2007-05-01 08:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Perfect_Brat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try slapping yourself. If that does not work move to alcohol.
2007-05-01 08:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋