Recently my mother in law found a bruise on husbands arm (which happened during sex ) and she asked him if I was beating him. I am insulted that she thinks I would do something like that. Would you be insulted if this happened to you? (by the way, he told her how it happened and she dropped the subject) This is also the woman who thinks Im in love with my ex still. I feel like she is starting trouble...what do you think?
2007-05-01 08:29:54 · 21 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I have tried talking to her about the ex thing. She met him because he is my child's biological father and he was at her bday party and so was she. And when I told her she was being ridiculus she said she thought I was in love with him despite what I said. Also, once when my daughters father called to get our address so he can drop our child off (mother in law was around) she later told my hubbie that I was laughing and joking on the phone for awhile which was untrue and also that I had been the one to call him. She lied. She knew he had called me because he was asking for directions and made it a bigger thing to my hubbie!
2007-05-01 09:04:12 · update #1
Talk to her... along. the two of you. TRY THAT...
How long have you had this relationship ...?
I am a mother in law... i am 46, and i am a grandmother... as well...
I have 2 daughters in laws...
they are completely different... i love both.. but they are different, personally, everything... different.
I LOVE BOTH... ... and we have "HAD" issues.. .. and we talk about it... every-time... ... but,
it takes time to develop relationships, and trust, "and a friendship" in both ways to this level.
lost of patience... in both of us... and understanding. can you do that when talking ...to her... can she do that when talking to you?
The best thing is not to keep things behind the scenes... for you your hubby and for her...
Make sure, that you tell your husband that you are going to talk to her, so there is no resentments. I will appreciate if any of my daughters in laws will bring anything to me... anything that bother them, no matter what.
gosh, i hope i am not a bad motherinlaw... ufff.... ;-)
2007-05-01 08:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Magaly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound like people who rely on intuition alot. I do not think you should be insulted, because most mothers are protective of their children. Also, her opinion about your feelings for your ex would annoy many people, but it is just an opinion. Unless she directly confronts you verbally, you do not have to say anything. You can choose to let this sleeping dog lie, because I am sure the last thing your husband wants to hear are you and his mother bickering over your love for an ex-partner. He will leave you both!!! She may be starting trouble to break up your marriage or maybe she just needs some attention in her life, either way it would probably be best to ignore her and dismiss her comments as if they are unimportant. It is pretty much none of her business what goes on between you and your husband - I think there should be a little more distance between you and your husband and his mom. Bottom line - avoid any disturbing confrontations and set it up so that you and your hubby are not around her too often.
2007-05-01 08:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 23:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being a mother! It's hard for mothers to let go of their little boys! She may be over protective, but if she dropped it let it go! You will just have to prove to her that you are not in love with your ex! your not are you? Try to keep a low profile and not give her anything to hold against you! In time she will know your not going to hurt her baby! LoL
2007-05-01 08:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the way this was handled was the best possible way...it was the truth and it got her to shut up....that's really all that matters. I don't think she'll be asking that again, so it's really irrelevant what her intentions were. Don't let it bother you....you're the one that got the last laugh so just leave it be!
And by the way, mother n laws are just like that! : )
2007-05-01 08:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she is starting trouble. You don't need to ask anybody; your answer is the fact that she thinks that you are still in love with your ex!
And how come he told her? Is him THAT close to her to tell that happened during sex?
Once I was arguing with my boyfriend and I got so mad that I bit him in the arm. His mom saw that a week later and asked him what happened and he said was probably when he was skating. That stupi b****...
2007-05-01 08:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by helloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just worried about her son. She wants to make sure he doesn't get hurt. And in order to make sure of that she needs to keep a close eye on you. She might not realize that she is making trouble for you guy's. Try talking to her, but don't be to harsh if you are that might cause more trouble then her making thing's up.
2007-05-02 09:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by ~>blondie<~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be insulted yes but don't dwell on it mother in laws are meant to pick us apart they never think anyone one is good for their baby..KUDOS to hubby for standing up for you ..you have a good man there he left no way for her to read in abuse..as long as you and hubby are happy don't worry about her starting trouble ..as long as you two stand together she can't start anything negative against you GOOD LUCK
2007-05-01 08:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wast the energy being insulted when thats exactly the reaction she wants from you? Youre just playing into her game. Just laugh at her. She isnt going to win unless you let her by giving her the satisfaction of knowing she ticked you off. As long as you and your husband are ok who gives a crap what she thinks. shes nothing.
2007-05-01 08:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Prince of the Dispersion 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her the truth - She obviously knows about sex or you would NOT be married to her son. Can your husband speak for himself???? Why don't he just tell his mother to butt out. And if you think she is trying to start trouble - trust your gut - she probably is. Simply tell her to mind her own business - especially if she asks the questions in YOUR house.
2007-05-01 08:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by Perfect_Brat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋