hey everyone...I had a friend who has recently passed away and it hurts me sooo bad...does anyone have any advice that could help me get over the loss of my friend...he was a very special person to me and it hurts so much knowing that he is not here anymore for me to hang out with and just talk to...if anyone can give me some advice i will be very thankful...
2007-05-01 08:29:55 · 15 answers · asked by kristine_star2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he was one of my best friends and it is just so hurting knowing that he was here one day and gone the next...he was only eighteen...it just makes me wonder who is going to be next...another friend...a family member...or even me.
2007-05-01 08:42:22 · update #1
sbspopco…yes it was a car accident and the reck happened not even a mile from where i live...and i go down the road everyday...and it just hurts sooo bad.
2007-05-02 07:33:06 · update #2
Hi... :( I'm sooo sorry...Guess what?My best friend just passed away, too.She died on 12thFebruary this year...
I sit next to her in school, I sit with her at lunch, and it's been really hard ever since...It's like, a part of the class is missing..It's like a part of ME is missing...
But that doesn't mean my life shouldn't go on...
Try to live a normal life again. At first, I felt like burying myself along with her, too.But then, little by little, my life kicked itself into gears again.I'm able to laugh and be merry, I'm able to tease my friends and talk about death openly, and heck, I even got myself into a flirty situation with a guy last week.
The thing is, you will soon move on.Farah (Our other best friend) and I lead our lives like we did when Nini was still alive.
The differences are she's not alive, and there with us.
I'm not trying to make you forget you friend or anything like that (DUH, huh?). Farah and I sometimes cry together anytime, anyplace, when we suddenly remembered our beloved Nini. And then when we're laughing and such, we'd be sure to think inside,"If only Nini's here...It would have been so much funnier...So much happier...What would she do?"
We all love our friends. We can't really do anything about their deaths, and we can't really move on, either. The least we can do is still remember our dearly deceased and appreciate our remaining friends.
Earlier this year, Nini gave Farah, Sam(our other bestie), and I pictures of us with her. On the back of my picture with her, she wrote; Friendship is something that we should always treasure, or something like that. And then she put; Because it will be our sweetest memory.
And then, in one corner she wrote;Always with you when You need someone to talk with...
I cry when I think of that picture and those sentences. I'm crying even now, while typing this. I can't bear the thought of ever forgetting her. She appears n my dreams, she is my Best Friend. And she still is, mind you.
Even though she's not visually here, I can feel that she listens to me if I want to tell her something, like what happened today, or stuff like that.
I agree with the person who advised to talk to someboy about this thing. That would really help.
I'm sorry if you're offended by my answer or if you don't find it helping or moving; I'm just telling you of my own experiences.
Seriously, this year thought me a lot about Friendship.
And just imagine; If the both of us(Me and You), feel really strong and sentimental about his or her death, imagine what it will be like for their family, and their spouses.
Try to be strong for them, and remember your friend, okay?
We're going through this together.
~In the Memories of our Beloved Friends and Relatives....
Always Loving You Guys...~
2007-05-01 08:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by aquastarr92 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have unfortunately been in your shoes before myself. The honest truth is that everyone grieves in different ways and for different lengths of time. No matter what anyone told me, nothing made it hurt any less and nothing could make the hurt go away. The important thing is to make sure that you grieve in a healthy way. You can try writing in a journal or even talk out loud to the person as though he were standing right next to you and could hear every word you say. Don't resort to some one or some thing in an attempt to feel good for just a moment. I always found that that just made it all worse. Sometimes getting everything out helps a lot to so if you have someone you trust...talk about it with them. The only thing that will help you get over this is time.
2007-05-01 08:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by An Aries Male 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear of your sadness. The grieving/mourning process is a very difficult one to work through. . . . it just plain hurts - and it hurts for quite a while. If you check around there are support groups for people in the same situation as you. Contact your doctor or medical facility and ask where you can locate a bereavement support group. When my husband (my best friend too) passed away I have to admit that it helped to go to these meeting every once in a while. I know nothing will bring him back - but at least I can talk about him and maybe cry once in a while with others who are in the same boat - and most importantly understand exactly where I'm coming from. All of this does pass with time - believe it or not - it's been two years now and I find that I can function pretty well without a support group now. And just remember that your friend would want you to be able to get beyond the grieving phase as well. I'll pray for you! Hang in there!
2007-05-01 08:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by cleesurrey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, everyone goes thru a different grieving process. There are no short cuts. Things are gonna happen that remind you of him. And you will cry. Usually this happens for quite some time. Talk about him when you need to. He was a part of your life. Celebrate the fact that you once had this person to love. And so deeply too. And always know that they would want you to be happy.
sunshine
2007-05-01 08:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine15860 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing someone close to you is never easy.
Just hang on to your memories and cherish them. He sounds like he was very special. Just take it one day at a time, don't worry over tomorrow. Each day will get easier. That's sound hard to do right now, I know, but I promise it will get better. Cry when you feel like crying, laugh when you feel like laughing.
Also, check into local grief support groups - talking to someone face to face who has experienced the same thing might be helpful.
I wish you all the best!
2007-05-01 08:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Pammy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The loss of anyone who is close to one is always painful and you will feel the loss for a long time to come, but remember this he is in a place where he is free from pain and suffering and all the evil this world can bestow upon a person.
His love and friendship will always be with you and you will remember all the good times you had together. yes you will spill many tears and it will hurt for a while but he is with GOD now and he is happy that he made you happy.
The grace of God be with you both.
2007-05-01 08:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by coofooman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 23:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for your loss.....it is never easy and nothing can prepare you~ It is a circle of life unfort. and cruel...god had a plan, but we had no map. Those memories of him and the 'good times' will soon be rplcd with others, this is gods way to ease the heart. You have to accept but never forget that this person is not here, but in spirit you can still talk it out...it helps. I know my mother past many yrs ago and the pain is still there,good luck god bless~ and I will be thinking of you~
2007-05-01 08:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by private p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just going to take time for it to not hurt so bad. Not that you ever get over it or anything, but time seems to be the helper for a lot of things like this.
2007-05-01 08:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by purpledeucegirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am 46 and you never really get over it, you just learn to live with it ! In time you will still laugh at the things you laughed at togther. Keeping them alive in your heart and memory is a living tribute !
2007-05-01 08:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋