Parenting - December 2007

I was asked a question the other day by a friend writing a paper for psychology class. It struck me hard and I was wondering how others would answer this same question.
If your spouse and child were in mortal danger and you could only save one which would it be? why?
The whole piont to this question is to test a therory that men an women will chose differently.

2007-12-12 23:04:43 · 28 answers · asked by blue_eyed_brat78 4

My daughter is 7,her father and myself split up when she was roughly 3/4 months old(after i caught him cheating) i always said that i wouldnt stop him from seeing our daughter and i had a really good relationship with his parents,which was good as she often went and stayed with them,however the contact with her dad didnt last,he had more interest in drinking and getting laid,during the next few years i lost count of the many girlfriends he had(did me a favour really,as i saw him for the selfish person that he is!)i didnt let that get in the way of his contact,i always said that it should be my daughters choice to see him or not. During all of this i met somebody else who my daughter became very close to,even calling him dad,by then my ex dident even bother with contact just relied on his mum for updates as and when he was around. That is until he got somebody else pregneant,and moved to the next street up from us.

2007-12-12 21:00:15 · 4 answers · asked by purplegirl 1

Ok, tonight I walked into my 6 year old daughters room and saw her with her panties down to her ankles and her letting the dog lick her privates. I know she is at the age for curiosity or whatnot, but is this normal? I sat her down and explained to her that this is something that shouldn't be done. I have always let her know that she is not to let anyone touch her. I am freaking out. Any help is appreciated.

2007-12-12 17:00:58 · 14 answers · asked by gofigure 4

Please no rude or dumba** comments....

I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids. (Two are my step-kids, one my own.) Two go to school all day and one is home with me. I have had a lot of life changes happen in the last year, one of them being leaving my full time job and staying at home with the kids.

I have joined online groups and chats, but those are so limited. I don't seem like I am getting enough adult conversation, and just feel lonley. My husband tries to help, and does his best. He's in no way to blame. I love him very much, and hes a great partner.

I suppose I am just here to get some comments and suggestions from other stay at home moms who have gone through this. I need some coping skills and ideas to get the "old me" back. I just don't feel like myself....

Thank you ahead of time! :)

2007-12-12 14:40:31 · 16 answers · asked by Fo Sho! 4

Who is responsible if my 3 year old falls out of the shopping cart that has a broken seatbelt?

The local store I go to has around 30 shopping carts and almost every single seatbelt is broken. The way the carts are stored makes it difficult to look for the one or two carts that I know is somewhere in the mix that has proper seatbelts, so most of the time I just put my son in the first one I can get at.

Now I have told one of the employees about this problem and she said she would tell the owner about it so the promblem can be fixed, but about 6 months have gone by and the belts are still broken.

I do use the seatbelts when they work, (I have yet to EVER find a broken belt at Wal-mart), so I do hate the looks I get from other people that do not have small children when my kid has to sit inside the cart.

2007-12-12 13:51:14 · 22 answers · asked by rhodecol 4

Was reading a book, and in it, the kids get spanked with switches when they misbehave. I think it is a southern punishment. best answer gets 10 points.

2007-12-12 13:18:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the reasons why parents are strict?

2007-12-12 12:25:24 · 12 answers · asked by lil_armenian_grl 1

I know this is a personal question, but I need help. Me and my husband need to draft a will within a month. My husband is in the military and is going on deployment very soon. It's exptremely important for us to draft a will. But, I am having a hard time deciding who to my son's Godparents will be. My sister isn't the best parent as it is. I would love for him to go to my parents, but My mom has had open-heart surgery as a result of several heart attacks and strokes, she has diabetes, Multiple Sclerosis, she's blind in one eye, and she can barely walk, let alone pick up a baby. My father has anger issues and really knows nothing about parenting, as he left all the tough stuff up to my mom. I don't care for my sister in law. She is quite selfish, and in the military as well and goes on constant deployments. She knows nothing about raising kids. My parents in law... ... I absolutely love them, but I get the feeling they are DONE raising kids. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

2007-12-12 11:04:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my child is a mature 7th grader and has many friends do you think he should have a cell phone.

2007-12-12 11:03:59 · 70 answers · asked by the man 1

I have a 3 yr old and she stays in another state than I do. I could not get help from my family to stay in that state because my bro was to stubborn. I have another child 8 months and i am pregnant again. will my daughter hate me because i am not there. I call her and send her things in the mail and i dont want her to feel abandoned. Please help!

2007-12-12 10:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by chalklati1 1

2007-12-12 10:41:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-12 10:05:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to know how many ladies and how did you manage to:

work a full time job 8-5
worked a part time job as anything
gone to college
and care for your child.

I have been feeling real sad and depressed leaving my son. I work from MF 8 to 5. Work at Shoney's night shift sometimes till close. And go to college. And care for my 7 month old son. I feel I am neglicting him but I am trying to provide for both of us.
How did you manage it? Or gentleman how did you do it?

I feel so sad and tired!

Please any advice is good

2007-12-12 09:56:38 · 10 answers · asked by yolie857 3

Hello all. My name is Bri, I have three kids Ty, Hayden, and Ella (6,4, and 2 1/2) and I am 18 wks pregnant with triplets, well I recently found out that my husband Jay's sister Rochelle will no longer be in the picture; for her kids so we are taking them Kaya Elizabeth, 4 and Nicholas Patrick, 2 and will eventially adopt them. They are out of control!!! We use spanking with our kids, and plan on using it with them but dont know if that would be a bad i dea they have no respect and have never been disciplined. Kaya said a naughty word last night to Jay, and he said Kaya in this house that is simply not ok, she shrugged it off and repeated it again (which is what we call defiant behavior and our kids get spanked for that w/ cornertime fyi) and he washed her mouth out with soap. What do y ou think?

2007-12-12 08:25:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i do. i have had 6 kids and they are all fine mentally. i think ADHD & Autism and behavior issues are because there is a lack of discipline, kids watch to many things with flashing screens, don't play outside and parents are to blame.

What do you think?

2007-12-12 08:03:20 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are people so freaked about lead in toys but not so worried about whats in the kids food? The American food chain is horribly contaminated but everyone is more focused on toys. Is it just b/c toys are the current soapbox of the week or are we as parents just not capable of assuming the responsibilty of watching what we feed our kids? Note that ADHD/Austism/Behavior disorders/mental illness among children have all drastically increased since the ingredients in food became unpronounceable.

2007-12-12 07:52:00 · 7 answers · asked by billie b 5

My best friend is a single mom as of the past year. She is getting NO child support, and they have no way of getting him to pay because he typically doesn't work, and when he does it's all "under the table." So, how do you do it, and how do you keep your thoughts positive for you and your children? What could I do to help her out?

2007-12-12 07:20:28 · 19 answers · asked by fontainegraphix 3

2007-12-12 07:09:05 · 15 answers · asked by forest lover 2

my b/f has two boys 4&8 from his ex. their mother isnt the greatest of moms. she seperates them all day and keeps them gated in their rooms so they cant get out. the 4 year old isnt even potty trained or know colors abc and has a hard time with speach. the main problem is they are crazy! constantly hitting punching pinching bitting eachother. if we ask them to stop they tell us mommy says we dont have to listen to you,no. and they climb all over the furniture, jump off it. they curse, they know everyword. scream all day long throw things, break things purposly. we cant control them. and we cant talk to the mom because she doesnt care about them. when we sit them in time out it might last for 5 minutes but its the same thing all over again. what can we do? we only get them on weekends n wesdys. she has them the rest. my bf tried getting custody but she has effed most of the township cops. and always aeems to get her way in court... what to do to straighten out the kids while their over?

2007-12-12 06:44:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are in search of a child psychologist for my three year old son. What are some good places to start looking for information on one? My ex is truly emotionally abusing our son, my son is in counseling, he is a very angry three year old who punches, kicks, spits, and head butts. His father has an abusive history that is why we are now divorced, it just seems like the cycle may be repeating itself through our son. My ex is an alcoholic and has threatened to kill my current husband, if we stay married. Is there anyway that a child psychologist can help us? We believe my ex to be a sociopath due to his behavoir. Our main concern is the child and how to best help him. We had supervised visits for a while but since the child did not show he was scared of his father they were canceled. Please we are trying to help him so any help is appreciated or advice. thanks.

2007-12-12 06:34:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine would be when my mother in law trys to in her own words explain to me how even though I work full time and I am 6 months pregnant that I should walk behind my children at all times and clean their every mess.

Ok that's fine and dandy if your a stay at home mom but I'm not (she was). My husband is the laziest man that I have ever met on the earth! I say that is because of her and her not teaching him respondsibilities growing up and just did everything for him. For goodness sake she ran his bath water until he was 20 if I knew now what I didn't know then LOL J/K I love him but....

The question is what are your pet peeves with raising your children?

2007-12-12 06:32:41 · 18 answers · asked by teal_eyed_girl 3

I'm 23 and don't feel that I will ever want my own children. Don't get me wrong, I love kids! I look forward to my siblings having kids so that I can be the cool aunt who mentors them.

People tell me that my feelings will change over time but so far I have no desire to raise my own children.

2007-12-12 05:58:18 · 10 answers · asked by Red 2

my son is 5 years old. tuition is 100.00 and 50.00 extra every two months for graduation fees is this average for a kid? they are also trying to lock me into a 6month contract!

2007-12-12 05:51:08 · 5 answers · asked by cupcake26 4

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and he has a 2 year old daughter. I met her when she was 9 months old, so when we would get her on the weekends I was the mommy figure. Now that she is 2 she knows who mommy is and who I am, which I'm fine with that, it keeps mommy off my back. The problem is that she takes to women really easy, but not so much guys. So when she is over at our house she only wants to be around me not daddy. Diaper/potty training, feeding, playing, putting her to sleep all she wants is me to do it. Some weekends are better then others but these last two have been horrible. He has asked me to take her home both weekend because the whole way home she asks for me then when she see mommy she starts crying for her and he really can't take that emotionaly(sp). She doesn't act that way with the moms boyfriend. I've told him that I would work on the weekends just so he can have alone time with her but he says no. What should we do?

2007-12-12 05:08:11 · 8 answers · asked by Two peas in a pod 2

2007-12-12 04:31:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance has a child as a result of a ex trying to trap him. As he should he has remained a father figure in this childs life.

now we're getting serious. Now don't bash me... I have no children of my own... I want to accept this child. I am trying and I do care for hima nd never want him hurt. It's just weird having someone elses child and having to treat it as my own? How do I accept him as my own? I want to but the feelings aren't there. My partner is no help, he just thinks these feeling are instant.

I want to be a strong figure for this child but the motherly feelings aren't there. he's more like a young sibling. I do feel sometimes a lot of pressure is on me now to become in essence a 'mother' when i only see the child every other week for two days and I have only known him for a few weeks from when he's 8.

Please help??

2007-12-12 04:26:13 · 24 answers · asked by UniBeauty 5

Parents only...
Would you be happy with your 15 y/o daughter (doing all honours subjects) if she got the following results in her Christmas report?
English 58% C
French 77% B
Irish 72% b (68% C for term)
Maths 75% B (highest in class/year and 78% for term)
Science 79% B
Geography 77% B
History 79% B
Religion 90% A
Business Studies 70% B

Please don't say as long as you did your best..... would you genuinely be happy?

2007-12-12 04:21:43 · 60 answers · asked by Ciara 6

I just found out that my son had a few shots of Rum with some friends of his. The boys are 16 and 17 years old. They are smoking something called black and mild and drinking rum that was stole from one of the kids dads. My son is begging me not to say anything. I put my son on restriction to the house for a month. These other boys know I know. As a parent I feel its only right to let the parents know what is going on but My son will be at blame by his friends. Should I just worry about my own kid and not say anything. I have known these kids for 9 years.

2007-12-12 04:02:41 · 29 answers · asked by greenikat 2

I was in this situation the other day and was just curious as to how other's would answer it.

You are at a function for moms to get to know each other or another function that would bring mothers together. You meet a twenty-year-old with two kids. They are two-years-old and six-months-old. What is your initial reaction? What are your initial thoughts?

Then, after time, you get to know this mother. You find out that she is married. She is a stay-at-home-mom. She is not on assistance from the government. She isn't assisted other then by her husband with the upbringing of her children. She actually has completed upper-level education. She is a good mother and wife from what you can tell. If at all, how does your opinion change? If you judged her previously does your opinion change?

Thank you for your honesty, thoughts, and opinions when answering question.

2007-12-12 02:49:01 · 30 answers · asked by Karma Lucille 1

my x husband has our children,weve been n court several times,judge warded us joint custody,him being the primary parent.hes remarried and they give me problems bout money,im doing my best.and they still try to keep me from thim.i have my weekend and holidays,summertime,that the gave me.they have 7 kids in there home now,they both failed drug test that the judge ordered.me and my husbahd now past ours and the judge still gave him custody.i cant see them.and if i want to talk to them i would have to call.he want let them call me.this is a short summary of it all

2007-12-12 01:56:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous