help my two are out of control and i think im going crazy need someone to talk too?

Question

my two kids 3 y/o and 5 y/o

Answer 1

Most likely your kids are out of control because you are not being consistent with your discipline. Tell your children that you are choosing a chair in the corner of the room to be a naughty chair. When one or both of your children act up, walk or carry them over to the chair. Do not tolerate a tantrum. Once they are seated, in a firm voice tell them they are to sit there for 4 minutes. Buy a timer so they know when the time is up. They are to be absolutely quiet during that time. Tell them they are to use that time to think about what they did. At the end of the 4 minutes, get down to their level and ask what they did wrong. (Sometimes children do not know what they did that put them in that chair.) Ask them why they did that. Tell them the consequences of their actions (someone could have gotten hurt, etc) Ask them how they would feel if someone had been seriously hurt. They are then to apologize and say the following words: I promise not to __________! Ex: I promise I will never hit my brother again. I promise I will not throw things again. I promise not to tease my sister again. Whatever the situation is. You are then to finish with a hug. Very important.

Be consistent. Never spank, it only teaches them to hit when angry. Try not to yell, it shows them you are not in control. Do not tell your children they are bad. Children are not bad, their actions might be bad. Use the phrase, "what you did was bad" Not, "You are bad".

Please know that 3 and 5 are difficult ages and that what you are experiencing is normal. You are a good mom or you wouldn't be asking for advice. You care about your kids and want the best for them. You know that if they are out of control, no one is happy including them. Try and find some time for yourself. IF you can afford a babysitter one night a week, do it. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

My kids are 6 and 2 I think I can relate. Sometimes parents need a time-out as much as the kids. When you get frazzled the kids get frazzled. Lock yourself in a room for 5 minutes. Tell your kids you are taking a time-out. Breathe deep. Close your eyes. Remember a time your little ones were angles. Remember they are just kids doing kid stuff and not to get too uptight about anything short of them burning the house down or shaving the dog.

Answer 3

i can relate to this, i have a 2 and 3 year old all they do is fight and get into everything i have tried time out it doesnt work for me..... If they get to bad and you dont have anybody to look after them send them to there room so you can have a breather....Trust me it works and you need to ignore them if they keep driving crazy.... but also try and be consistant with the discipline... it is hard... i know i hope things get better for you....

Answer 4

What are they doing? Fighting? Is there someone that could watch them for a little while while you take a breather? Being a MOM is hard work and you need a break.

Answer 5

Talking about it to someone isnt going to change their behavior.You want to learn how to make them behave?
Visit an Amish community and ask them how they discipline their kids and do what the mothers there do.You wont go wrong and you wont be sorry.

Answer 6

if they are really that out of control,
just ignore them when they act up,
and when you punish them, don't be leinent,
and no matter what you STAY STRONG
lmfao if kids see that their acting up gets to you
then they will keep doing it just to get their way,
they may be children but they are still smart :)

Answer 7

i can relate to you I twin daughter who are four years old if you need someone to talk to just email me at [e-mail].

Answer 8

might sound kinda bad, but just put a sponge bob show on. everyone love's sponge bob!