Child psychologist?

Question

My husband and I are in search of a child psychologist for my three year old son. What are some good places to start looking for information on one? My ex is truly emotionally abusing our son, my son is in counseling, he is a very angry three year old who punches, kicks, spits, and head butts. His father has an abusive history that is why we are now divorced, it just seems like the cycle may be repeating itself through our son. My ex is an alcoholic and has threatened to kill my current husband, if we stay married. Is there anyway that a child psychologist can help us? We believe my ex to be a sociopath due to his behavoir. Our main concern is the child and how to best help him. We had supervised visits for a while but since the child did not show he was scared of his father they were canceled. Please we are trying to help him so any help is appreciated or advice. thanks.

We have a restraining order in place.

Answer 1

I would be getting a restraining order for you ex before I would do anything else.

Is your ex in and out of your life? Do you talk to him or see him sometimes? The best thing to do is to keep your son away from him completely. He can't learn this behavior if he doesn't see the behavior going on.

I don't think your son needs a psychologist. I don't really even think he needs therapy. He's only 3. All it takes to change a three year old's behavior is consistancy and guidance.

Your son is fine. Most kids at this age are hitting, kicking, and head butting each other. Keep guiding him to stop the behavior and this should all work itself out.

Answer 2

Your pediatrician may be a good place to begin. He/she will have some familiarity with child psychologists in your area and can give a recommendation and a referral which some doctors and some insurances require. Early intervention can be key to breaking the cycle of violence and abuse. If your child already receives counseling, his therapist would also be a logical resource to help explore additional options. It may be helpful to keep a journal of things your son says and does, things your ex says and does, when they occur, and under what circumstances. If legal measures need to be taken,sometimes this type of evidence is useful. It may also help your son's therapist get a more complete feel for the extent of the situation. Just stick to factual information focused on Who, What, Where, and When.

Answer 3

The best resources are with child welfare advocates. Don't search yourself..or you'll be dragging the poor child around until you find a true Child Psychologist. You can also contact Social Services for such a referral...do use father's name , an example of a situation you're aware..then ask for resources for your son and yourself.. You do want child welfare getting involved, as you are already doing the right thing by advocating for your child. Best of Luck...Happy Holidays Actually since it's your ex doing the damage...give child a welfare a call...the will definitely take it seriously as you and ex have been to court regarding your son!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

My sister is a baby psychologist and has no little ones. My cousin is a baby psychologist and has a sprint one boy. it somewhat is only too quickly to assert what his behavioural problems may be. yet another cousin's daughter is likewise a psychologist; she hopes to have little ones some day. So i assume some do, some do no longer. My sister had motives to no longer have little ones that have been in accordance along with her artwork with Down's Syndrome and Autistic little ones. Am very curious as to why you ask.

Answer 5

First you need to take him to court and try to get his parental rights removed totally. I don't normally suggest this because it should be used in only the most extreme cases. Guess what when he threatened your current husband your case became extreme. In searching for a psychologist I would suggest you find one that specializes in family therapy. Ask lots of questions. Get a piece of paper and write down possible questions to ask. Such as, how long have you done this? Where did you go to college? Can I have some names of other doctors who might be able to attest to your character? These are all important questions to ask.

Answer 6

Are you sure you need one?? Not saying you are overreacting, but he kinda sounds like my just turned four year old. I was concerned, but his doctor told me he is just learning how to express his anger and to try and turn it into creative things instead of destructive things. A busy child is a happy child! My 2 girls never went through anything like this. My son also likes to tackle!

Answer 7

Get a good lawyer no matter how much it costs.