How many ladies have worked 2 jobs and?

Question

I want to know how many ladies and how did you manage to:

work a full time job 8-5
worked a part time job as anything
gone to college
and care for your child.

I have been feeling real sad and depressed leaving my son. I work from MF 8 to 5. Work at Shoney's night shift sometimes till close. And go to college. And care for my 7 month old son. I feel I am neglicting him but I am trying to provide for both of us.
How did you manage it? Or gentleman how did you do it?

I feel so sad and tired!

Please any advice is good

Answer 1

I dont work a second job.. but i work 40 hours a week, and while I'm at work, my son goes to day care.

Your feelings are normal by feeling sad and depressed. You have got ALOT of things going on, and it doesn't help that you cant be with your son.

To the first person who posted, "shopping is alot of work" Screw you. That was rude and uncalled for.

Good for you going to college! I wish i could do that...

You are doing a great job by supporting your child. It's not easy, but you are doing the best you can do!

Your son will look back when he's alot older, and be grateful that your his mother, and you did what you could to provide for your family.

Answer 2

You realize that there are times in your life that things are going to be hard and then you wake up and start all over again. I worked 2 jobs, went to school and took care of my child alone......and then after I was married I work 2 jobs, go to school (again) and take care of three kids. So it can be done. Don't feel sorry for yourself or you will get nowhere.

The time to comtemplate how hard it is and if you can handle it or not was before you had a baby before college was done. Not getting on you..I did it too...but I understood the choice I had made and realized that it was only for a little while longer.

How do you think your child will feel in 5 yrs if you take it easy and still aren't able to provide for you both? Get it done...sounds like you are doing it...don't give up. It's what we have to do, crying won't make it change.

When you are done with college and making decent money and taking care of your family then you can spend more time. It's not the best but it's all you can do unless the winning lottery ticket falls from the sky.

Good luck hon, you can do it and you will feel better for it when it's over.

Answer 3

I've done most of that. I had my son when I was 17. I went to highschool and worked full time as a supervisor as a fastfood restaraunt. When his father moved back ( he was from another state and we met when he was here for college) I waitressed part time as well to pay for all of us while he looked for a job. We also lived at my dad's house, pretty embarassing. Well we got it together and moved out. Now I'm a junior in college full time and we just had our second child a little over 2 weeks ago. I work full time as well. Last semester I was at work or in class from 8 am to 9 pm m-f with weekends off. It sucks and sometimes I feel bad about not spending more time, especially with my 3 year old but I have family watch him at night so at least it isnt like he's with strangers all that time (Their father works full time during the day and part time at night). We actually both make pretty good money compared to most people our age and I know that when I'm done with school I will make quite a bit more money so I have to do it for my kids to make sure that they have the opportunities they deserve. Trust me my oldest doesnt resent it at all right now I just spend tons of time with him on weekends.

Answer 4

You have a ton on your plate. Maybe cut down to one job and school? I would visit the Career Center and Financial Aid offices at your college. Their are loans and jobs for people in your situation. The sooner you can blast your way through school the sooner you can cut back to one real career- oriented job. I worked three jobs to save for the down payment on my house and I worked as full time student and held a full time job at the same time. But all of that at once sounds impossible.

Talk to your academic adviser and find the Career Center. Seriously. it would be better to take out a few loans for school, work a part time job and have more time for your child.

I work as a college administrator and all employees at my college get free tuition, we have an on site daycare, flex hours and lots of time off. My secretaries are all taking classes for free. Look into it.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

When my sister had a baby, a job, and college at the same time, she dealt with it this way:

She had me and our mom take turns caring for the baby while she was away at college. This way she knew the baby was well cared for and not neglected.

She got student loans and grants to help pay for college, as well as WIC and food stamps to help with food costs.

She lived with a roommate in a beat up old camper van parked in a trailer park, to keep her rent low.

She worked part-time, evenings and weekends, in a sales job because it paid better than waitressing and was also less physically tiring.

Eventually she met a great guy through the sales job. They wound up marrying and raising her child together.

Answer 6

I work full time and am trying to finish college. It's hard but in the end it will be worth it because I know I will be able to provide my son with a wonderful life.

Answer 7

that is tough. I have worked 4 jobs before, But I arranged it so that they were all casual and I picked my hours from all to my my own schedule. I was working hours that worked around my daughter. I now am taking my degree. i am doing it full time at home through distances courses. You can even get a bachelor or arts or your nursing at home full time and still get student loans with living expenses.

I would suggest working something else out. These are two ideas that I used, i am sure there are more

Answer 8

Well because you are doing this while he is so young he wont remember it. You are doing the best you can do to take care of him and that shows a lot of love! I wish you the best of luck and gice you kudos for doing a great job!

Answer 9

You NEED to move back in with parents or relatives who are god responsible people so you can quit one of the jobs.
Your kid needs you.
Once you are done with school and all, how old will he be?
Once that time is gone, it is GONE.

Answer 10

No, I got a husband.
Shopping is hard work though.