I just found out that my son had a few shots of Rum with some friends of his. The boys are 16 and 17 years old. They are smoking something called black and mild and drinking rum that was stole from one of the kids dads. My son is begging me not to say anything. I put my son on restriction to the house for a month. These other boys know I know. As a parent I feel its only right to let the parents know what is going on but My son will be at blame by his friends. Should I just worry about my own kid and not say anything. I have known these kids for 9 years.
2007-12-12 04:02:41 · 29 answers · asked by greenikat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you have a responsibility to!
those boys are headed down a bad path f they are doing that crap so young. i am sure it is common amongst 16 year olds now-a-days, but it is unhealthy, and possibly leading them to other things. like weed.
2007-12-12 04:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have very young kids so this hasn't come up yet but I do have a younger brother I've talked to. I don't say not to drink because honestly today, pretty much every kid will drink and most will try marijuana or other drugs. At least here anyways, I live in the inner city. I just tell him never ever drink and drive because he could hurt innocent people and will never forgive himself or get a DWI and it could ruin chances he has in the future. Oh yeah, and I'm a Christian
2016-05-23 05:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by tonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say something to the parents. Even possibly invote them over and have a sit down with everyone. Don't let your son take all the blame, the other kid stole from his dad. They are smokin cigars and drinking. You don't tell the parents, then you are condoning the behavior and they will just go to someonelses house to do it. Wouldn't you want a parent to tell you. drinking age is 21 for a reason, if the kids can't respect your rules then he needs not to be around these kids. You need to be a parent, not a friend. TELL THEM
2007-12-12 04:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.
Would you prefer nipping the problem in the bud by telling their parents about their drinking and smoking (which in the U.S. is illegal until they are 18 for smoking and 21 for drinking).
Or would you prefer a police officer knocking at your door at 3 a.m. telling you your child had been killed in a car wreck because of drinking and driving.
I hate to be that blunt, but as a newspaper reporter I've seen too many situations where teenage drinking was the at the corps of the incident.
Sure you don't want to feel like a snitch, but those kids will still be alive if you rat them out. What will their parents do? Ground them? It's better than being stuck in a box and put in the ground forever.
2007-12-12 04:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by David T 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not only that you should tell the parents, its your obligation as a parent.. That is your job,'PARENTING'! It isn't always a pleasant thing to have to do the right thing, but when not doing the right thing could result in dire consequences,emotions must be put aside ,and the adult actions must be taken.. Heaven forbid, you or your sons friends parents call you ,and tell you your son, or one of theirs has had a terrible fatal accident.. You would live with that guilt for the rest of your life!! The first thing out of your mouth would be, "If only I had known!!" Well, you DO know, and now you also know what you HAVE to do.. If not for yourself and the other boys parents, but YOUR son and his friends!! Its hard to be a parent, and raise children.. I know you'll make the right decision, the lives of your son and his friends could depend on it.. And I also know its very difficult.. Good luck!
SOLOMON
2007-12-12 04:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by solomon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
TELL THE PARENTS,
what is they are drinking and driving and have an accident and DIE, you will fell so guilty if something bad happens, and trust me it will
My cousin just died at 24 years old
I am pretty sure it was a drug overdose, or the result of using drugs
althought the family is keeping it hush hush
So do me a favor, they might already know, they may not have any idea, and they might not believe you, but either way,
speak up
its worth telling them if only for your own peace of mind,
and you know what
it teaches your child how to react appropriately in these situations,
there WILL be times he will have to either KEEP the secret or tell the truth,
best way to learn is from watching you,
Good luck
M
2007-12-12 05:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely want to know if the shoe were on the other foot. A different spin to it...you may want to approach the boys and tell them, either you can tell your parents, or I will. Give them a deadline and stick to it. Some how make sure that you either call or have some kind of communication with the parents to confirm whether or not their son has said something.
If you have to tell the parent, and they get upset that you knew but didn't tell them, explain that you were trying to allow their son to be an adult about the situation and tell them himself, but since he obviously didn't, you felt they needed to know.
Just a suggestion. Good luck. I definitely wouldn't want to have to do it.
2007-12-12 04:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by kiddo235 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a sticky situation but ask yourself this wouldn't you want to know if your kids' smoking and drinking? There are many parents who are unaware of what their kids do but would appreciate it if someone would let them know. If you haven't as yet i think you need to have a serious talk with ur son about the disadvantages of smoking and drinking and then maybe let those parents know what's goin on with their kids.
2007-12-12 05:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by EM 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell the other parents. B/c if one of the other parents found this out you would want to know if your son was smoking and drinking.
2007-12-12 05:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY, if you care about these kids at all. Your son and his friends will be mad at you, that's for sure, but who cares? Their parents have a right to know. How badly will you feel if they continue this behavior and end up hurt or dead in a DUI? If your boy is guilty of this also, IMHO, he has no room to beg for anything. How did you find out? If it was happening on your property, you could find yourself legally responsible if something bad happened, or charged with contributing.
I would call the two boys over, and tell them: you have until (pick a day) to tell your parents yourself. I am calling them on that day. If you haven't told them, I will.
You may save their lives this way, or at least their records.
2007-12-12 04:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by BillyTheKid 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I found beer bottle tops in my car, I confronted my son, and informed the other parents. One joined me in confronting our sons, and the other was "too busy" to get involved. I'm not sorry I told. My son is still friends with the
son of the supportive parents, and they (the 2 "boys") don't know where the third one is any more. They are all
post college age now.
2007-12-12 04:28:49 · answer #11 · answered by M S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋