my x husband has our children,weve been n court several times,judge warded us joint custody,him being the primary parent.hes remarried and they give me problems bout money,im doing my best.and they still try to keep me from thim.i have my weekend and holidays,summertime,that the gave me.they have 7 kids in there home now,they both failed drug test that the judge ordered.me and my husbahd now past ours and the judge still gave him custody.i cant see them.and if i want to talk to them i would have to call.he want let them call me.this is a short summary of it all
2007-12-12 01:56:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im sorry but there has to be more to the story than you are letting on. they dont take kids away from moms without a VERY good reason. like the mom being a crackhead and a prostitute. even then she'll get a 2nd chance.
with that said, just keep taking him back to court. if you have joint you have the LEGAL right to see the kids.
2007-12-12 02:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a better lawyer and they need their kids taken away. I dont see why a judge would still grant him custody if both him and his wife failed drug tests. The legal system is mad! You must keep paying child support and this will help in court. As for not letting them phone you or see them....that was part of the joint custody agreement. Who is he to play god with his childs lives? shouldnt it be up to them if they want to see you or not? I think the judge should ask the children who they would rather live with as they dont often take into consideration how the children feel and they really should. Plus, 7 kids and 2 adults in 1 house! Bit cramped! Does judge no about that? Go back to court and get a real good lawer. Your kids are worth it.
2007-12-12 02:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Natz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went thru this with his ex. If you are late on child support they will go after you with the big guns but if the custodial parent doesnt hold up their end of the bargain its really difficult to get someone interested. You have to hire an attorney and go back to court to get the visitation rights in the divorce decree enforced. If they continue to refuse to comply they will be fined and you may have a chance at reopening the custody issue. Its expensive and time consuming and frustrating and the main people that suffer are the children.
2007-12-12 02:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him back to court...he'll be held in contempt for not giving your visitation. And I'd get a new lawyer, because if they both failed drug tests, I can't believe that they got to keep them. You or your current spouse must have done something really bad for the judge to still rule against you.
2007-12-12 02:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate situations like this.I have seen it over and over.I don't understand some courts.The judges just don't think sometimes.I have seen some of the same issues in my family.You will have to go back to court to get to see the.It seems like that is not fair but for some reason the courts treat some unfair.
2007-12-12 02:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the best situation for the children? I don't care about the adults - they've lived. The children are only beginning their lives. Obviously, there was some problem in the past, so make sure that is worked out, and keep fighting... for the best situation for the CHILDREN.
2007-12-12 02:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah Gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just curious as to why you dont have primary custody? If your paying support and can prove your a fit parent to a judge then you should take this to court if he's unwilling to work with you.
2007-12-12 02:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by koda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You still must pay support until it is resolved in court.
You need a better lawyer, and to fight this out in court. It is not right for these children to be in a home where theyre exposed to drugs, or parents who are under the influence of them.
Take it to court and fight for your right to your children.
2007-12-12 02:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fight for your children. Take your ex back to court. If you can not afford to fight for them them how can you afford to raise them. Set your priorities. If they are the most important thing to you then you will find a way, if you use money as an excuse then you should not have them anyway. Good luck to you I hope it all works out.
2007-12-12 04:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Bride of Christ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask this question. Your exhusband failed his drug test and he still has the kids. I don't want to be judgmental, so what grounds did they have for not giving you custody? I can't answer this question without further detail.
2007-12-12 03:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kricket T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋