I have a 3 yr old and she stays in another state than I do. I could not get help from my family to stay in that state because my bro was to stubborn. I have another child 8 months and i am pregnant again. will my daughter hate me because i am not there. I call her and send her things in the mail and i dont want her to feel abandoned. Please help!
2007-12-12 10:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by chalklati1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
question... if you cannot take care of the kids you have now then why are you having more kids? A kid needs their mom. I know a kid who is 10 now and his mom is never around, ditched him and his half brother and sister... the father does everything that he can to try to fill the void but he is so hungry for the love that only a mom can give.
Think about it... even when soliders are in battle, legs blown to crap - it's their mom they cry for like a little child again.
get your act together before it is too late. That kid needs you a hell of a lot more than you need whatever is driving you to create more lives you cannot take care of.
It is not your brother's responsibility to take care of you and your kids... it's yours.
2007-12-12 12:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to make a habit of blaming all your problems on other people. You had to leave your 3 year old? You had to have help from your family? You had to have cooperation from your brother? You did take the 8 month old and could not prevent another pregnancy? Your child will know that you made choices in which she was not considered important - she is only 3, though, so when will you act like her mother instead of her sister and take responsibility for your life and your body and your children? Either arrange to raise your own child or arrange to live in her world. Stop having children you need help to raise. Stop leaving your daughter on someone else's doorstep.
2007-12-12 11:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 3 years old a child doesn't really understand why he or she should not be with you,its only when they mature and usually have children of their own that they understand completely.I think by calling and sending things in the mail is obvious that you care,continue to do so,as she gets older you can explain your situation more clearly.Even a baby will understand love.I don't think we really ever hate our parents,we feel hurt by their actions.
2007-12-12 11:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by cherish22221 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first resolve YOUR personal life. Too many kids by too many dads in too many places. Get YOUR priorities right and work on your relationships with all of your children. I can understand the feeling of abandonment. You need to plan better and stop having babies until you get YOUR OWN life worked out for the better. You do know what causes you to have babies? Ever heard of the pill?
2007-12-12 11:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now she probably doesn't understand, but a 3 year old does need her mommy and I can't imagine how hard this must be for you and for her to be away from eachother just make sure she is safe and happy because right now that is the most important thing just make sure this IS what is best for her and one day she will understand!
2007-12-12 11:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Joel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate, that is a strong word. they will have some feeling of resentment and abandonment. There is nothing like being there. Gifts, phone calls and all those other things don't matter it doesn't replace you as a mother.
2007-12-12 11:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by wind champ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 04:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First. At least until you are more stable, hows about closing down the kid factory. Now as for your question, all kids hate their parents at some point. Big deal. Just do right by them and they will love you in the long run.
2007-12-12 11:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won't hate you but as she gets old enough to remember your absence (unless she grows to be a very understanding and forgiving child) it may affect her. Especially as you have other children she may feel not as loved by you. A daughter needs her mum!!
2007-12-12 11:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Puffay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job a car and save up and move with your other kids to that state and QUIT making babies.Unless youre married you have NO business making babies hon.
2007-12-12 11:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋