Parenting - January 2007

It seems each generation of people are more knowledgable than the past but many still use the same stupid 'parenting' techniques? Why do so many parents spank, bully and demean their children to 'show them who is boss'? If would-be parents took the time to read and learn, they would learn about how to raise respectful, well-behaved children who are secure and confidant without belittling them and 'putting them in their place' but also without spoiling them. I'm not saying all parents do this, and I'm not saying anyone can ever be a perfect parent, we will all make mistakes, but I'm talking about people who really think slapping, yelling and calling their kids 'bad' is the best way to teach them how to behave. They really think that is what's best. I think they should teach kids in highschool about parenting so that when they grow up they know what to do. I'm sure I sound obnoxious and I don't mean to, but everytime I see a little kid being called stupid or slapped, I feel so bad.

2007-01-14 06:54:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-14 06:52:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Son is 18 and a freshman in college. First semester resulted in 2 Ds and 4 Fs. His goal in life is to do the bare minimum required to "get by". He wants a good life, but is unwilling to expend any effort whatsoever toward achieving this goal.

2007-01-14 06:51:33 · 19 answers · asked by Wally Buca 1

My kids father wants them and they wont tell me who they want to live with. He has alot of money to take care of them and a bigger house for them to live in.They are 4 years old and I had them on my 16 b-day. He boke up with me but he is really close to them and i can take care of them but with him they will have better life than living with me and my friend in an apartment while i work part time and go to college

2007-01-14 06:48:18 · 14 answers · asked by Punk Pixie 1

all right ladies and gentlemen....lets begin again.

this is not about telling you how to raise your children.

this is about enlarging our realizations for to assist with those of you who have ideas which are now not healthy for raising children or within other relationships.

lets take our time....there is no hurry....you are not commanded to respond but i would like to hear your notions if you are prepared to hear my own.

thank you

2007-01-14 06:34:12 · 13 answers · asked by chubby 1

2007-01-14 06:23:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well I have just always wondered what is a good age?

2007-01-14 05:52:45 · 21 answers · asked by funky_monkeyjac 1

Who else received it while younger, or is a parent who used it as discipline?

2007-01-14 04:11:34 · 23 answers · asked by duckpatay 1

It seems like lately my daughter has no respect for me she tells at me over every thing i tell her to do & it not just me it seems like she is a smarta-- towards every one in the family she did'nt use to be like that her grades are sliping & every thing has gone from straigh a's to having 2 c's 3 b's & 1 a when i try to help her with homework all i get is a lot of sceaming what can i do

2007-01-14 04:05:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Increase in school violence, gangs etc. is not equal to lack of spanking in the home/schools. That is ludicrous! Have you people ever heard of circular causality? Do your research! There are multiple factors responsible for one problem. Stop blaming our social problems on lack of spanking to justify your reasons for spanking your kids!

There are other reasons for increase in school violence. Lack of parental presence, poverty, poor child/parent dynamic, violent media influences, violent peer influences, poor problem solving repetoire, poor communication skills, low grades in school, not fitting in, etc.etc. etc.

2007-01-14 04:00:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

If someone was to say be pregnant, and choose an open adoption, how can that make you feel knowing your baby is getting good care of and still being able to see it, has anyone ever done that or thought about it and got info. if so can you please tell me about it? Also If the dad wouldnt do the adoption can it still happen b/c your not married? or what? idk im just cerious and would love any good info on this. thank you!

2007-01-14 03:35:03 · 6 answers · asked by Kristy 2

My mom said it is crazy if anyone goes over a year without being potty trained because you teach your kids to be lazy and play with their toys instead of getting up to go to the bathroom. My mom said I was and my brother, both potty trained by age 1. Everyone I ask says 2 or 3. When was your child potty trained by and is it possible to do it in a year like my mom says? Thanks

2007-01-14 03:12:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Was it because you wanted to or were you raped? And are you still with your first lover? If not, how many different lovers have you had?

2007-01-14 01:41:36 · 23 answers · asked by lulu101 2

Puberty starts at about 12 or 13. In the old days, people followed the teachings of the bible and saved sex until marriage, but with the rise of atheism, today's youths lose their virginity at young ages. The average age at which teens loose their virginity is 16, and a significant number of children aged 13 or so experience sex.

To prevent unwanted pregnancy or the spread of STDs, one of my friends who is a teacher believes that children should be taught early about how to use condoms. The reality is that almost all teenagers nowadays are highly sexual and this is the best way to protect them. My teacher friend plans to bring this issue up with the board of education, but at the moment we are having trouble deciding at what age the child should be exposed to condom education. Should they be taught as young as 10?

2007-01-14 00:36:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter has spotted an advert on kids tv for some product you put in kids baths that turns it a funny colour and its consistency goes to a wall-papper paste type gloop...does this sound safe to anyone..has anyone got it or used it?

2007-01-13 22:41:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was wondering if it was ok for me to leave my two small children in the car if they are asleep while i popped into supermarket and got a few things?

by this i mean pulling up at an asda or tesco, park near the front and quickly run in and get a few things rather than wake them up, put them into a trolly, run round the supermarket and struggle to get them back into the car again, while their crying because i woke them up.

i dont mean leaving them for hours or anything and id only do this if it was for a few things at the supermarket.

would it be ok?

2007-01-13 22:02:26 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-13 21:10:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 5yr old dog named "Justice" that I found on the side of the road when he was a puppy. I was recently forced to move quickly because of an abusive relationship, and my daughter and I are now living with my mom and step-dad. They have dogs already and I cannot keep him with me. I have been working very hard with a local rescue to find him a new home. Meanwhile, he is staying with a friend of a friend. We go to visit him everyday, and he seems scared and confused. My daughter (shes 4) and I both love and miss him so much, we usually both cry when we have to leave him behind. I got a call today from the rescue today, they found him a new home. The people have been screened, and had a home visit, they were approved. Im supposed to drop him off within the next couple of days. How do I explain this to my daughter? How do I tell her she has to say goodbye to him forever? How do I prepare him? How do I say goodbye myself when Im already crying? What should I do?

2007-01-13 20:35:31 · 4 answers · asked by Janelle J 2

HITTING DOES NOT IMPROVE BEHAVIOR
Many times we have heard parents say, "The more we spank the more he misbehaves." Spanking makes a child's behavior worse, not better. Here's why. Remember the basis for promoting desirable behavior: The child who feels right acts right. Spanking undermines this principle. A child who is hit feels wrong inside and this shows up in his behavior. The more he misbehaves, the more he gets spanked and the worse he feels. The cycle continues. We want the child to know that he did wrong, and to feel remorse, but to still believe that he is a person who has value.The Cycle of Misbehavior
Misbehavior Worse behavior Spanking Decreased self-esteem, anger
One of the goals of disciplinary action is to stop the misbehavior immediately, and spanking may do that. It is more important to create the conviction within the child that he doesn't want to repeat the misbehavior (i.e, internal rather than external control).

2007-01-13 20:18:06 · 26 answers · asked by emm 2

2007-01-13 19:33:20 · 15 answers · asked by yyyy y 1

Who has kids that will be up in a few hours, but can't get your butt off the PC to go to bed besides me.

2007-01-13 19:08:57 · 9 answers · asked by uuummk 5

http://ashleytreatment.spaces.live.com/blog/

do you think the parents did the right thing^

personaly i believe in survival of the fittest and would have humainly killed my child rether than let them live the life of a vegtable...

what do you think?

2007-01-13 17:45:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

All I can say is plzzzzzz help me she is 14 but she does not no wat it means and i not sure how to explain it to her.

2007-01-13 17:39:44 · 12 answers · asked by Ro Ro 2

manipulate the other parents life? What I mean is an ex who would tell the child they have no responsibility while the other parent is trying to instill a sense of self-worth and self respect by having the child (age 10) do little things to care for him/herself such as keep their room clean, shower regularly, and slight chores around the house in which they get an allowance for as well as making sure their school assignments are done. Pretty much what ever the main custodial parent tries to accomplish the ex contradicts, even if what the main custodial parent is doing might be good for the child. This also includes scouting, the ex tells the child that it is no good for them and now the child doesn't enjoy going anymore.

2007-01-13 17:21:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter will be 2 in april and I'm having a problem.My daughter used to sleep fine she went to bed around 9-10 pm and woke between 8-9am.But every since my husband and I moved in with my mother she stays up until 5,6,and 7am and wont wake until 3pm.My husband an I both have tried wake her up around 9am and that dont help she still stays up..Im not sure what to do PLEASE HELP!!!! (No Rude Answers Please)

2007-01-13 17:20:09 · 7 answers · asked by Brittany 1

Our neighbors Kids are on drugs, They do nothing but vandalize peoples House tissue Cars break out windows of cars Steal Stuff From Stores, Etc

1. When I Was a kid i was working in a store for two Dollars and hour ,Not Firebombing House's
2. I didnt have a criminal Record
3. MY PARENTS BEAT MY ***!

And I predict that I will Become a Business Owner ( Guess What i am)

And the neighbors will be Butt Buddies with Buba

2007-01-13 17:17:53 · 17 answers · asked by My Favorite Cat Is tess 1

In LA, CA thining of adopting a child , do u know a good organization or adoption agency that works quikly and is reasonable or no charge. how long is the process? do u have to have certain income or asset? do u have to be certain age? do u have to be married? what should ur income be? plz be serious> no BS plzzzzz

2007-01-13 17:09:24 · 4 answers · asked by answer man 3

I guess the question pretty much says it all. I am financially stable, have adopted before and am government approved to do so again. I just don't agree with the agency fees and legal fees that are so high. In Alberta, I could finalize the private adoption, through the courts myself. I have to have all the same documents and clearances. I would rather take that 15K-35K and invest it for the childs future education. If anyone knows of a good resource, someone who may be making an adoption plan or is considering it themselves, please let me know. I am hoping for an open adoption, but will do closed too. Thanks so much! jen1204ca@yahoo.ca

2007-01-13 16:56:04 · 4 answers · asked by calgaryjenhere 4

I know I just asked something similar to this but I wandered off the point in the additional details. Basically what I would like to know is, in your opinion, do you think when you have a child their needs come first and do you think most people today ask themselves, "How would this affect my child?" before doing something?

2007-01-13 16:42:10 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-13 15:58:47 · 29 answers · asked by Tiffany 3